Marriage & Divorce - 9 August 2007

Married 13 years... We have had our ups and downs like most couples. Our son is 8 years old. Problem is that my husband comes home and with in 20 minutes of being home goes into the computer room to play and even eats dinner in there at least 3 nites a week. While I cook and clean he plays. first thing in the morning he states "You forgot to dry my uniform last night". Not good morning or anything else. I still have to make his lunch unless I want him to spend 10.00 on lunch daily. Promises to do little chores then days later still undone. He does not understand why I dont feel like sex at the drop of a hat. It is like having an overgrown teenager in the house and when you are living like a parent figure it is impossible to ever have intimate feeling for them. It has gotten to the point that just daily conversations with him make me furious. He refuses to see that I am frustrated and not trying to control him.

2007-08-09 07:55:55 · 24 answers · asked by rfm619 1

My husband works in 3 different offices. One office he only goes into one day a week. The front office receptionist keeps e-mailing my husband @ home about 3 times a week on current events or jokes nothing about office business. Once a month I will see something about office business. I saw a group picture of the office in a ad in the newspaper and she is very cute and about 15 yrs. younger than my husband. Now I find out he has been e-mailing her back with the same stuff like current events & Jokes. I asked my husband if she is married he said, I don't know but she has one small son. When she e-mails its not the office e-mail address its her personal e-mail address. I told my husband this is going to stop because its not fair for him to do this. My question is: Should it stop before it goes futher, or is it ok for them to e-mail each other. Thank-You

2007-08-09 07:49:17 · 41 answers · asked by Annie 2

Ok...so I have two married friends; one is my bestfriend and she is married to someone else and the other is my guy friend and he is married to someone else. My bestfriend and my guy friend just met for the first time and every since they met, which was just a couple of days ago, they can't keep each other out their mouth.

I just found out that they be talking to each other on the phone daily. My guy friend is telling me that they connect so good and that they were talking about sex. And so I asked him if he had the chance would he have sex with her and his answer was "Hell Yeah!". Of course I reminded him he was married and he said that I wouldn't understand because I am not married.

Anyway, they have me in the middle of this whole twisted thing. I have a feeling if they get together, they will most definitley have sex.

What should I do? Should I stay out of it or pretty much be on their a*s*s?

2007-08-09 07:46:33 · 14 answers · asked by Miss. Tee98 4

2007-08-09 07:14:59 · 80 answers · asked by Handsome Stranger 2

am al ways dreaming of my husband is cheating on me when i ask him this questions he get mad at me he keep saying that i don't trust him his all ways home where dose he get the tim to cheat on me that his saying do u think i can trust my husband

2007-08-09 06:44:45 · 23 answers · asked by HELIA J 1

When my husband signed his divorce decree he gave custody to his ex-wife and now he has visitation (weekends, summers and holidays) because he was working the night shift and had nobody to be with the children at night. Quitting his job wasn't an option- he has been with his company for 7 years and children obviously require things that cost money. The children spend a lot of time with us outside of the visitation set up in the decree. We are going to discuss the posibility of joint custody with his ex-wife because now that he and I are married (and the three of us are on good terms) I work during the day and am home at night. However, if she has a problem with this what are our options from a legal stand point? She is a good mother and the children really enjoy spending time with us as well as her. We would like it in a court order just to be safe because you can't ever guess her moods and she tends to sometimes use the children as leverage against us.

2007-08-09 06:44:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

She still continues to see this other man. But says she wants her space to decide if we still have a chance to get back together. I told her I forgive her and want her back but she has to get rid of this guy. What do I do? I want her so bad but she said she needs space and time to decide. She will not go to counceling yet. We have kids together and I want to stay for their sake and keep family intact.

2007-08-09 06:43:18 · 16 answers · asked by Mike 4

I am determined to quit smoking because i can feel it taking its toll on me. I hate the fact that my boyfriend smokes and we are moving in together soon. This has been an issue for us for a long time and I don't know what to do. Everytime I complain he asks me to stop nagging him and let him live his life the way he wants. I am torn between wanting him to be healthy and allowing him to be his own individual. I also hate being around his second hand smoke.

Help!

2007-08-09 06:41:57 · 7 answers · asked by Amber 1

2007-08-09 06:39:53 · 20 answers · asked by David A 1

2007-08-09 06:35:03 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have had children and not happy with them the cost isnt much i work but he says no what do i do.. what would u do.

2007-08-09 06:34:05 · 27 answers · asked by Alica 2

If there wasn't any s3x for anyone do you honestly think that you would even have or get a lifes partner?
How can you curse what brings most couples to intimatcy and relationships?

2007-08-09 06:32:58 · 6 answers · asked by a2z_alterego 4

what do i do

2007-08-09 06:25:43 · 25 answers · asked by j-v 3

We are going through a divorce, reason for divorce is my wife had cheated on me and decided to leave. I found this out after she had moved out with our 2 sons, 16 months old and 3 year old. We have a temporary Custody Order where I have kids for 4 nights and she has for 3 nights. I want to come to an agreement and don’t want to fight her in court (its very stressful) if she agrees to this temporary arrangement as a final custody arrangement in Divorce Decree. But she wants me to give her 4 nights and I should have 3 nights and she will not come to a settlement if that demand of hers is not met. She is threatening me that she will fight in court to get full custody if I don’t agree to her demand of 4 nights. I told her we can have exact 50% she refused that too. What my question to you all is “Is it likely that Judge can change temporary custody order in Final Divorce Decree and make her the residential parent”

2007-08-09 06:23:29 · 9 answers · asked by SJ Grewall 1

My wife and I went to a nightclub recently and ended up talking to some people we had never met before. They were married with kids, like us, so we had much in common. The husband of this new couple was asked my wife, and she said okay. As they were dancing I noticed he had put his hands on her hips as she twirled and eventually was behind her. My wife seemed okay with it which is amazing because she is generally embarassed by these things.

What I didn't tell my wife and what I've wanted to tell her while we have sex is how turned on I was when I saw her dancing with this other guy.

My wife is not bold (sexually)by any measure, she says she has no fantasies or sexual desires, so how can I broach this subject without having her freak out on me? I don't want a threesome or anything, but I want her to understand that this was a turn on. I want her to broaden her sexual horizons, but I can't figure out how to discuss this with her without it becoming a big argument.

2007-08-09 06:23:25 · 9 answers · asked by finster115 1

can a relationship like that work??? look at heff and the girls... holly kendra and bridget.... and there are other cases too... what about islam??? they can have 4 wives under certain stipulations... what do you think.

2007-08-09 06:22:25 · 34 answers · asked by Aaliyah J 1

I know that nobody can make you not cheat or make you want to stay married, but what things can your wife do to keep the relationship going positively and make you enjoy being married to her?

2007-08-09 06:20:09 · 23 answers · asked by allie s 1

I dated this girl 4 years ago we broke up she got married to someone for three years and was abused physically and mentally. I moved back from hawaii to be with her as I do love her very much. In the course of the last month her divorce was finalized, he still trys to controll her , and to top it off the company she worked for shut down. I am starting to feel like the whipping post. Told me she wanted to be single and I needed to move out ect.. Do you think this will pass as she has a lot of stress going on right now.
I moved back from hawaii to be with her as that is what we both wanted and now all this has happened. I know you said to butt out but do you mean forget about her and move on. I am by far not the salvation I just know what we have had is good and dont wanna throw it away
one day she is realy cool then the next day it is like ww3

2007-08-09 06:18:43 · 19 answers · asked by countryboy237 1

girls, when you think your guy is right for you, what do you look for, (apperence, personality etc) when you think of marring him? basically what makes a guy perfect for marriage and having marriage material

2007-08-09 06:17:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 06:14:43 · 6 answers · asked by bernadette b 1

Ok, this is the story, my husband and I have been together off and on for about 9 years. In between, I have dated woman. The last time I had a girlfriend, it ended badly. So, I married him, I figured I was in love because, you know, I would always go back to him. But, 6 months now, I am more miserable than I have ever been. I am not sexually attracted to him anymore, and I yearn to be with a woman again. I just don't know what to do. He has been my best friend for years, and, well, I JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!

I need serious answers, please, this whole thing is making me sick, literally sick, like hospitalized sick with stress. I would like some advice, and I know, it is MY problem.

MANY THANKS!!!

2007-08-09 06:00:03 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My parents divorced when i was 1 year old and they have me under joint custody. Now I am 12 and i want to live with my mom, and not with my dad because he is constantly yelling at me and my baby brother, he yells at my mom and calls her very mean and degrading things, and calls me very mean things, too. I was wondering what the age is that i get a voice in court in milwaukee?

2007-08-09 05:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I met the guy that I want to marry. But I’ve come to learn from him some distressing news. He has bipolar (which I knew about) and takes medications for it which has led to his inability to have an erection and to bear us a child down the line. What are my options in having a child in the future with him?

2007-08-09 05:54:57 · 34 answers · asked by Meow 1

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2007-08-09 05:49:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 05:48:17 · 43 answers · asked by Handsome Stranger 2

I feel like I forgive people who have wronged me... but I must be in denial because whenever I'm hurt AGAIN by that person I seem to recall the bigger more painful hurts as well. It's not that I want to... I just don't know how not to. Is there a secret to making past pains vanish entirely and forgiving completely?

2007-08-09 05:31:36 · 21 answers · asked by Sorry 2

I have been seeing this man for 4 months. We started dating & after watching him for a weekend getaway, I realized that he wasnt ready to be in a relationship. He is just out of a 7yr marriage & he has a lot on his mind all the time.
I said to him "let's take the stresses of this & just take thing slow. No pressure of BF/GF & it can be friends with benefits for now.
I told him last week that my feeling were getting stronger for him & I still realize that we are not in a committed relationship, but I wanted him to be aware.
Last night I asked him if he was dating anyone else. He said NO. I asked him if he was sleeping with anyone else. He said NO. Then I told him I knew that he was sleeping with someone else & I was disappointed he lied to me. He said he is not accountable to anyone. I said if we are truely friends, you would respect me and not lie.

Do I have any ground to stand on? What to say to him now? HELP!!

2007-08-09 05:22:26 · 23 answers · asked by Mitch 2

My friend has two girls my daughters age and they just love hanging out and playing together. My freind is constantly saying she's going to take them with us and then when they show up its just the little girls and her husband. We all end up going swimming or going to play. Well I've told her time and time again my husband when he's at work he doesnt want me hanging out with any guys. No matter if they are married gay or straight just no guys. She keeps making dates for the kids and never showing up or saying shell be late and never shows up but we end up taking the girls anyways. I want my daughter to be able to play but I'm tired of getting into trouble about it. How do I handle the situation. Also when her husband and me are together he always talks about how he wants a divorce and i never give him any advice other then do what makes you happy. I don't want to be in the middle of this.

2007-08-09 05:14:57 · 15 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5

I messed up, I know. The thing is that I completely fell in love with this person of my Master's Degree class. I attended it in another city and only came back home on the weekends. During the school year, the distance made me realize many things that I didn't like, about myself, my wife and our relationship. Now she's pregnant again – accident or not, who knows now – and I am in love with a person, who also wants to be desperately with me. I never felt this with my wife.

My heart in shambles. I can't imagine a common future with my wife knowing that my heart is open to someone else. Some tell me you should live for your family, some say I should follow my heart. I am in the eye of a hurricane. Is there anything like re-loving someone?

2007-08-09 05:14:15 · 27 answers · asked by jaypappo 1

Aside from cheating, abuse, or anything of that sort where a person is no longer capable of seeing someone in the same light as they did before...when you just don't feel the same anymore.

2007-08-09 05:06:52 · 18 answers · asked by Joe 6