Ok...so I have two married friends; one is my bestfriend and she is married to someone else and the other is my guy friend and he is married to someone else. My bestfriend and my guy friend just met for the first time and every since they met, which was just a couple of days ago, they can't keep each other out their mouth.
I just found out that they be talking to each other on the phone daily. My guy friend is telling me that they connect so good and that they were talking about sex. And so I asked him if he had the chance would he have sex with her and his answer was "Hell Yeah!". Of course I reminded him he was married and he said that I wouldn't understand because I am not married.
Anyway, they have me in the middle of this whole twisted thing. I have a feeling if they get together, they will most definitley have sex.
What should I do? Should I stay out of it or pretty much be on their a*s*s?
2007-08-09 07:46:33 · 14 answers · asked by Miss. Tee98 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest they both had cheated at least once (not with each other) before and so have their partners.
2007-08-09 08:03:37 · update #1
Stay out of it cause when the cat gets out of the bag, and believe me eventually it will, when there is no one else to blame, it will fall at your door. It will be your fault because you introduced them, because you are going in between them, because you knew what was going on, and more of the same. I made this mistake and lost a few good friends. Tell them they are grownups and whatever they do should be kept between them and to keep you out of it. The less you know, the better, so when all the accusations start flying you won't have any involvement in what happened between them. Cover your own butt!!!!
2007-08-09 07:57:33 · answer #1 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are in a very unique situation being that you are friends with both potential cheaters...
As a woman that has been cheated on I say you confront them both, because once you go down the infedility road no matter how hard you try it changes everything. I am divorcing my husband of 15 years and we have 5 kids because of it, you never get the trust back you never feel right in the relationship and for their spouses it is not fair, that these 2 people want to make a life changing decision for them, because it tears apart your whole world and it is a pain worse than death.
I would also let them know that they need to stop talking to each other period and that if they don't you will make sure their spouses find out, you might feel like you are jeopardizing your friendships, but really they are jeopardizing the rest of their lives. If they are insitant that their marriages are not working encourage them to get help or get a divorce, then they can go on in their "relationship".. otherwise they are just being purely selfish. Especially if they have kids. And trust me no matter who it comes from their spouse would most definitely want to know this info. They either need to stop and come clean or let their spouses have the freedom to have their life not be ripped aprt by their actions!
2007-08-09 07:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by *blah blah* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY OUT OF IT!!! For real that is not something to want to know anything about. As humans our first instinct is curiousity, but not in this case. In the end if something does happen you will likely have to decide which one you are more loyal to and it all goes up in smoke from there. You should tell them that you don't want to know what they are up to and that they shouldn't be involved which each other because of the VOWS they took when they got married. Good Luck
2007-08-09 07:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by missing my boo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How annoying.
Tell them to leave you out of it. They are both married and if they feel "you dont understand because youre not married", then the hell with getting involved.
Tell them they are on their own. Their grown. They can figure this out on their own.
And step back like the good friend you are.
2007-08-09 08:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you value them as friends, all you can do is remind them that they are married and that an affair could have devastating consequences to them both and their spouses.
After saying your piece, stay out of it. Don't even listen if they want to talk about it. Trust me, you don't want to know.
2007-08-09 07:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's none of your business, truthfully. I understand your intentions, but it isn't your life. They are grown adults and they know the difference beteewn right and wrong. However, if they are involving you as a go-between you have every right to get into their business.
2007-08-09 07:51:29 · answer #6 · answered by Martyr Machine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell each of them how you feel and then stay out of it. If you get too involved everyone will be mad at you when it blows up--Which it will....
2007-08-09 08:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them both not to tell you about the other, so when they end up in divorce court you can honestly say you don't know anything.
2007-08-09 07:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by FF Geek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. You are already in deep for introducing them. If you get further involved it will only get worse.
2007-08-09 07:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
once in a while people will feel an instant attraction... whether they act upon it is their personal decision... and you didn't know this was going to happen.
it's not your fault.
it's not your problem... just live your life, and maybe they won't screw theirs up?
take care.
2007-08-09 07:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋