Aside from cheating, abuse, or anything of that sort where a person is no longer capable of seeing someone in the same light as they did before...when you just don't feel the same anymore.
2007-08-09 05:06:52 · 18 answers · asked by Joe 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
u pretty much answered your own question there buddy.
2007-08-09 05:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answered a question a minute ago and so I'll tell you pretty much the same thing. You and this girl need to become each others best friend and everyone else needs to go. You need to spend time with her and she needs to spend time with you. Be spontaneous and take her out for a picnic, or watch a movie on the couch just the two of you. Get that connection back because thats what you need. If you've been together for a long time it's normal to one day wake up and say I don't have the same feelings anymore, but are you trying to change them or are you just stuck sitting there wondering what happened? stop worrying about it and take care of the problem. Let her in on the fact that something has changed between you but also let her know that you want to do something about it. She might be feeling the same way and you just don't know it because she's afraid to hurt you. Open communication is the key to getting it all started.
2007-08-09 05:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by missmess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back up a little. Love is not black and white. People often think that if they are not "in love" they don't love the person. "In love" the stage when we only see the good in someone and dream of a perfect life together. "Loving" is accepting the other person completely (good&bad). "Loving" is subtle like a warm blanket. Its because "love" is so subtle that many people think they don't love their partner any more. Not loving some one is apathy, not hate. Hate still cares about the person a little, but a negative way. So to truly fall out of love is not to care anything about them.
What people do, however, is try and keep the "in love" feeling that they run around throwing away perfectly good relationships. Concepts like "soul mate" and "the one" prepetuate this short sighted misunderstanding of what love is.
I hope this clears this up for you.
2007-08-09 05:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People change... But what a lot of people don't understand is that they might not be "in love" anymore but they still love that person.
Poeple are not suppose to stay "in love" forever. Being "in love" is just chemical. But the great thing is, it can and will come back.
I've been with my hubby for three years. I wasn't "in love" with him any more until one day he came in the kitchen where I was washing baby bottles and pressed against me saying I was so ******* hot. Boy did he get my blood pumping! and then he helped me cook dinner and was telling me funny stories from his day at work and I remebered why I married him and feel for him all over again.
2007-08-09 05:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honeymoon stage is gone... people tend to think that they know all there is to know about a person and lose interest, just like when you were in school , some kids thought they couldn't possibly be taught any more from a class and lost interest and goofed off. if we would just take the time to re- aquaint our selves and keep an open mind we would learn that there is always something knew to learn about someone. And we would stay interested.
2007-08-09 05:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in the term "Falling Out of Love"...
Either you have it or you NEVER - from the beginning.
I don't believe also "Growing Apart".
If you base your marriage in God, The Bible & And realy take your Vows to heart and honor them.
Now days it's too damn simple to marry and then turn around and get a quick divorce. When this happens - God has never been involved in the lifes or the wedding.
2007-08-09 08:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Old Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that people do fall "out" of love. I think that often, you just realize you never really did fall "in" love. Maybe it was a long-term infatuation or you just *wanted* to love them so badly that you convinced yourself you did.
If you can fall out of love, I think it doesn't happen by will. I mean, you can't voluntarily fall in love, so why would you be able to choose to fall out of love?
I think that if it is possible, it isn't because of changes in the other person, but in you.
2007-08-09 05:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by grumpyetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say I disagree with the people who say that if you fall out of love with someone then you never really loved them at all. I have been married 37 years. People change, things change around you. Feelings change. People grow apart. This doesn't mean you were never in love.
2007-08-09 06:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by I love winter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*shrugs* - what makes people fall IN love? Initial attraction, then common beliefs/interests, a desire to spend time. I suppose if those things change, so does the in-love part.
2007-08-09 05:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by slushpile reader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change, unfortunately nothing stays the same, even love for a person. Talk to her about your feelings, she may feel the same way.......
2007-08-09 05:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When the magic goes. Sometimes it has nothing to do with the 2 persons involved...it just goes..
2007-08-09 07:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by Getting over it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋