My friend has two girls my daughters age and they just love hanging out and playing together. My freind is constantly saying she's going to take them with us and then when they show up its just the little girls and her husband. We all end up going swimming or going to play. Well I've told her time and time again my husband when he's at work he doesnt want me hanging out with any guys. No matter if they are married gay or straight just no guys. She keeps making dates for the kids and never showing up or saying shell be late and never shows up but we end up taking the girls anyways. I want my daughter to be able to play but I'm tired of getting into trouble about it. How do I handle the situation. Also when her husband and me are together he always talks about how he wants a divorce and i never give him any advice other then do what makes you happy. I don't want to be in the middle of this.
2007-08-09 05:14:57 · 15 answers · asked by cutenwild1769 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when hes at work he doesnt want me hanging out with guys. I dont think thats a big deal at all. I wouldnt want him hanging out with girls whne he's at work
2007-08-09 05:24:17 · update #1
that was really rude sc...i've had the same sn since i was 16 i'm now 22.
2007-08-09 05:31:01 · update #2
My daughter's going on 5 and i had her when i was 16 so a lot of my freinds havent had kids yet or if they have they are only 1 or 2 so its hard to find someone for her to play with.
2007-08-09 05:33:03 · update #3
Next time he shows up without his wife just say, sorry no-go.
And DO NOT get into their marital problems.
2007-08-09 05:20:44 · answer #1 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who names herself "cute and wild" is looking for trouble. Like you. Right?
The fact that you have agreed to several "play dates" knowing full well he's coming without her *proves* you love the attention from other guys. Married or not. As a matter of fact, married guys are better for you. Right?
"She keeps making dates." And you, being the stupid idiot that you are, keep saying yes to them. "It's for the kids." My a$s. Wait, you aren't stupid, you are an attention whore. Right?
Here's a couple of hints:
[1] Tell her - your husband keeps telling me he wants to divorce you. It makes me very uncomfortable.
[2] Tell her - So it's best if when we have play dates if you don't plan on showing up we don't have them at all.
[3] Find new friends for your daughter - are those the only 2 girls on the planet her age? Duh!
[4] Deal with your addiction to attention from men.
There - that's plenty to work on the next few months.
2007-08-09 12:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by salacious_crumb 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First your husband has the biggest problem in your family. He needs to trust you.
What is this ladies problem that she sends hubby? I suspect she is on the sly and looking for seperation from family to go out and "be wicked"????
If he is nice on the outings then tell hubby to chill. If anything like conversations get a bit off center then stop the play dates and locate more suitable parents and children in the hood.
Old Guy
2007-08-09 12:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you friend that you don't FEEL its proper for a married woman to be left alone with another woman's husband and that she needs to attend play dates from now on. This should get her attention and raise flags because its worded so strangely and yet firm in tone.
2007-08-09 12:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely right. Sounds like something fishy is going on here. Like the woman wants to dump her man and is looking for an excuse. Is she trying to land you in? to use you as the marriage breaker? Is she trying to set you up with her husband?
Well, as for the guy, he has no business trying to get you involved into this. Anyway, is he trying to tell you something, that he fancies you?
I think you should just plainly say that your husband is getting very annoyed with you for going out with him. And tell both of them, just as you told us.
They don't sound like they are real friends.
I think that you have been too good and too patient with both of them. Protect your own marriage and let them deal with their own. Good luck.xxx
2007-08-09 12:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husbands attitude is a little too rigid, but that doesn't seem like the biggest part of your troubles.
It certainly sounds like the other husband is sending you the message that he'd like to get closer to you. And if I understand correctly, his wife doesn't show up and leaves you two alone? That's strange. Could it be that she is cooperating in this? Something doesn't add up.
But you probably ought to cool down this friendship, even if it means you have to find other friends for your daughter. That's a pity, but this situation sounds like trouble in the making
2007-08-09 12:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by Robert K 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Next time she tries to set up a meeting, tell her it just isn't going to work for you, and refuse. You have the power over your own life, do not give in to her for any reason. Also you owe NO explanation as to why you do not want to go, that is your business. Let her figure it out for herself.
2007-08-09 12:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your husband not wanting you to be around guys if the two of you are alone, but if his wife is with you guys, then your husband has issues. The next time her husband says he wants to get a divorce, tell him that he should be telling his wife that and not you.
2007-08-09 12:23:49 · answer #8 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your friend can't understand and respect your decision after you have told her your reasons you need to distance yourself from her. Maybe you can suggest having a big get-together with the two of your families being together. Be firm with her and stick to your word.
2007-08-09 12:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by lisha1351 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think ur friend is wrong for not coming with her husband. I also think hes trying to lure u in expecting something to happen between u two thats why he telling u about his problems. I would tell my friend about how i feel and she should respect ur feelings.
2007-08-09 12:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by domojj24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big time trouble. next time he shows up tell him to leave. it's plain and simple. you don't need to be in that situation - ESPECIALLY if he is mentioning his dis-content with his relationship!! or... if you plan a playdate with them - make sure that your husband is scheduled to be home. or - just have them drop the girls off - he doesn't have to be there. don't let it happen again!! not good!
2007-08-09 12:23:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋