what makes a guy marriage material?

Question

girls, when you think your guy is right for you, what do you look for, (apperence, personality etc) when you think of marring him? basically what makes a guy perfect for marriage and having marriage material

please add as much info as possible, thanks

Answer 1

all women are different when it comes to qualities they would like to have in a husband........

i knew my guy was right for me by all the little things.....he respects me, and supports me 110% in everything i do, wants a family & home with me, is very successful (not the most important quality, but he's driven and worked hard to get to the top), always includes me in any future plans, does little cute things for me like brings me breakfast in bed every once in a while, surprises me at work and takes me out to lunch, tells me how gorgeous i am every morning(even with no makeup and morning breath!)

its all about the little things you do to show her you care...again, all women are different, but i knew he was perfect because he treats me like a queen, the way every woman should be treated! there needs to be balance though, you have to treat him the same way in return!

Answer 2

I have been married for 17 years and I can tell you my take on this. My husband isnt ugly but not the most gorgeous, his body isnt perfect, he sweats too much for my liking, and he talks way too much. But the thing is, he always respects me. We disagree on things but he never makes me feel like my oppinion doesnt count, or my feelings for that matter. He defends me and stands up for me no matter what, even when he thinks i may be wrong. If a guy doesnt respect you and vice versa, nothing will ever work in your relationship. It also helps to have things that you enjoy doing together as well as him being able to allow you time away from him to do your own thing without him getting jealous of this. If a guy is really jealous, this will not change as time goes by, believe me, im speaking from experience, it only gets worse. And make sure the guy doesnt expect you to give up your individuality for him, this is never a good thing,it makes you resentful.

Answer 3

Well, there has to be chemistry, which you cannot force or control, but generally ...

1. Dependable/trustworthy
2. Confident
3. Ambitious (he never has to get rich but he has to know what he wants and go for it, hard).
4. Some find of humor would be a big plus b/c if he is uptight/vain/over-serious life won't be very fun.
5. Personally, for ME, he would have to be a strong man of God ... but that wouldn't matter if she wasn't a believer.

Answer 4

Well of course someone who is physically attractive to you is important and that can mean alot of things. (not necessarly great shape, tan, etc. ) every one has their own oppinion. Also total trust is important. A little jealousy is okay, you need to care. A man that isn't to "Manly" to share house hold responsibilities and also isn't threatened by a woman who has a good career. LIkes to listen as well as talk and when arguments are discussions NOT yelling matches. SOmeone who thinks of you first and has similar interest yet has different ones to expose you too.

Answer 5

My criteria when I was searching for my One was intelligence, sense of humour, and able to accept me for who and what I am.

I was very fortunate in that I was found by One with all of these attributes and many more. I knew he was the perfect man when we spent the night together for the first time. Because I am terrified of the dark he left a light on and instead of making fun of me, he asked if it was bright enough!

Answer 6

you want a man's opinion? maturity...when a guy is done running around and having his adventures then he is ready. when a guy learns no matter the woman it is about the same, so he can settle in and work on a relationship. the second you get a hint that he isnt done playing, run away. if he wants to party with his friends, run. if he puts his toys and things before a relationship, run. if his fatnasies include other women, threesomes, anything that wouldnt be between you two, run. those things tell me he isnt ready to settle in.

Answer 7

Faithfulness, loyal to the bone, hard working, a go getter, ambitious, comes from a good family, unselfish, must love animals, wise, awesome sense of humor, spiritual: an overall decent man.

Answer 8

There's only one thing that matters in marriage material because it is the determining factor of his ability to compromise and change if necessary on every other issue...
HE KEEPS HIS EYES ON THE PRIZE.
If he's devoted and faithful, every other issue on the planet can be worked through, because he will be willing to change if other issues are severe, simply because he is that dedicated.

Answer 9

Being real, genuine.

There are other requirements (I meet or exceed these myself) Being gainfully employed, having ones own residence, having a reliable vehicle, free from drugs or other substance addiction, basic morals, (no lying, cheating, stealing) ability to be in a monogamous relationship. Tough nut to crack? Not really, I am happily married.

Answer 10

My husband is honest, dependable, responsible, loyal, loving, compassionate, encouraging, fun, good listener, smart and many other things. I looked at the things that mattered in life. What kind of person he was, what he believed in. Did he want children. Things like that.