i have had children and not happy with them the cost isnt much i work but he says no what do i do.. what would u do.
2007-08-09 06:34:05 · 27 answers · asked by Alica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did he give you a reason why he didn't want you to?
If you haven't already, explain to him why you want to do it. Maybe if he understands that it would truly make you happy he would change his mind.
Obviously it's not his decision, but I'm assuming you don't want to do it if he's not happy about it.
2007-08-09 06:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jen0408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I would consider why he said no, was it just money or is he concerned with your health? Or perhaps he fears other men will look at you more with nicer breasts. The first two are real concerns but if you work, you should be allowed to spend your portion of money anyway you see fit. If this will make you happier, and it has nothing to do with him, I would tell him that. Assure him he had nothing to worry about, you are healthy (if that is true) and that you love him and want only him (if that is also true). Some things are compromisable, some aren't. At some point you have to do what's best for you inspite of what he wants.
2007-08-09 13:51:41 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After all it is your body and no one owns that, So it is your choice .
Ask your husband what he has against it as he may have valid reasons that you don`t know of
You must realise there are risks and he may be worried about the risk or he love you the way you are and can`t see the need ,
As breasts don`t make a woman it is what she is like inside that counts
But if you are really unhappy then you must go with your feelings and get them done ,
And if you feel it is worth all the risks medically, and relationship wise then do it
2007-08-09 13:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm right there with you. I also want my done because they have changed after having my little girl. My man doesn't want me to but as soon as I get the money I do plan on doing it anyway. If it makes you happy go do it for yourself. He will be happy with the results no matter what he says. I'm sure he is just probably afraid of the attention you will get afterwards. It will be better for you two in the long run. I'm sure you will feel more confident in the bedroom.
2007-08-09 13:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your body and your decision and your money. Your husband's opinion is just that..an opinion. There are other breast surgeries that do not require implants. They just make them less saggy by removing and tightening the loose skin. I had it done after two children. I am the same size I was before and they look like I never had children.
2007-08-09 13:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I'm certainly NOT getting mine done, but I do have a bit of excess around the waist I'd like gone. lol. If you work, dear girl, and your not in hardship over the money, then start sinking some back & when you have enough set aside, tell him your going in. Be sure to post before and after pics for the rest of us here also ................. Just kidding! I hope my wife don't read this!
2007-08-09 13:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by mikebnchprss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to honor and respect your husband no matter what. Maybe you should try asking him why he doesn't want you to get them. There does need to compromise in a marriage, meeting each other half way. If your husband still says no, then you should respect him. Your body isn't your own anymore, but is rightfully his as well. Just turn the tables and put yourself in his shoes, if there was something he wanted to do to himself and you didn't want him to, wouldn't want him to respect your wishes. This is a partnership for life and you are to live to please each other not yourselves.
2007-08-09 13:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not a women but I think you and your husband should set down and talk about it and let know the reason why you want them done. He might just understand . If you do it any way you just might loose more than your unattractive boobs.Think about it first is worth it?
2007-08-09 22:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by jessacola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can he refuse you if you're willing to save and pay for them yourself? Tell him that you work and you feel like you have some say over 1) where the money goes and 2) how you address things on your own body, and ask him why he thinks he gets final say over both of those things.
2007-08-09 13:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People here keep saying its "your" money.
No it isn't. It you and your HUSBANDS money.
If a man here wrote something like that, all the women here would be all over him like white on rice.........
and "shelley" is right. Your body is no longer just your own when you say "I do".....if you wanted to keep your body only unto yourself, you shouldn't of gotten married.....seems you want everything your way...doesn't work that way in a marriage.....
2007-08-09 13:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋