Marriage & Divorce - 9 August 2007

Okay so I know the title of this question seems really shallow but I have been dating this girl for 8 months now and we're both very serious about one another. Just recently it was discovered by both her and I that her mother had opened credit cards in her name and had put her $13,000 + in debt. After first talking about this I was livid that her mother would do that to her, and my girlfriend still let her off the hook as her mother claimed she was "trying to make ends meet". None the less we let 2 months ride out and while she is making payments they aren't making a dent since she isn't paying off enough and all of which are late. The story gets worse as my girlfriend had some medical issues to which her father agreed to pay 75% of the cost and the mother 25% (parents are divorced), and none the less it was once again found out that the mother neglected to pay any of the bill. Anyways I need some advice as to what I should do! Please help!

2007-08-09 05:04:11 · 20 answers · asked by mmfitz23 2

I met my husband on new year's eve into 2006 .we moved in together six months later and then got married two months after that. well, shortly after , he bagan to txt other women and emialing them , chatting with them online . I found out by checking his cell & seeing the msgs he sent an received, I was hurt and crushed and for 4months , kept checking hoping he would stop. finally at the end of April we sat down and cleaned out our dirt closet and he said the reason it went on for so long was because it became a competition for his ego, to show that I had no control of what he did and should stop snooping and things would change.In June me still being wounded, checked his phone , this time he had set me up with a txt msg frm a male friend pretending to be a girl.He said he was tired of my snooping and wanted a dirvoce. later , we both sat down and resovled this and I bared all my hurt , everything.after that , I had not had a need to snoop and search thru his things coz secure

2007-08-09 05:02:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with this for a year and half and she changed when she got preg. I left her 2 months before she had him. But I helped her out through prenatal time. At the hospital I was beside her every second. We got back togather because she said she changed. She cheated and didnt tell me baby could be her xbf. She lied until 2 months before birth. DNA said he is mine. These past 3 weeks I moved out of my own home I dont think I can take this anymore shes childish but shes a good mommy. I do love her but I dont know if its for babys sake or if I really love her. This last week I have been talking to someone else and it seems almost all the trouble I will have to deal with is worth putting up with her. But I feel like sometimes she never grew up. She so childish. She constantly spends money we dont have and dont care if she dont get what she wants its hell for weeks. Should I go back to her for baby sake and what do I do to know if I still love her.

2007-08-09 04:57:12 · 20 answers · asked by acopper 2

you guys have given me the same answer..half of you tell me to wait..the other half tells me to move on....on the scale..the wait won...so you guys think i should wait ...huh....
for those of you who hav e no clue what im implying

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2007-08-09 04:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

for the past 6 months i have been toiling with the fact i have lost the love for my partner, it was the hardest thing i have ever had to go through because i loved him so truly before. I told him last night after and he was a wreck, i comforted him the best i could but i t was really hard for me too. The only thing that stopped me from telling him before is i know he still loves me and it would break his heart, which it did, how do i help him and myself to get through this difficult time?

2007-08-09 04:50:50 · 15 answers · asked by charleneskivington19 1

I do not need the criticism, I have had enough of that. I have hurt him in a way that I shouldn't have and now I want to know what to do to fix our situation. What types of things should I do to make him fall in love with me again?

2007-08-09 04:43:56 · 29 answers · asked by SexyLove910 2

My girl friend wants to keep her family name after marriage, so expectedly our family name would be hyphenated.
My question is when we put our family names hyphenated together, which place (before or after hyphen) holds more important name?
For example, her family name is Howard and my family name is Stewart. She wants our family name to be Howard-Stewart. Since she thinks the name after hyphen is more important than the one before, she wants to allow me to put my name after hyphen. I thought, however, that the place before hyphen was more important because it comes first in the family name (what is more important normally comes first). If that's the case, the name would be Stewart-Howard. Who is right? How do most of people do this?

Reminders: I am a guy and she wants to put my name on more important place in our hyphenated family name.

2007-08-09 04:31:19 · 11 answers · asked by Hugh K 2

My wife and I got married on September 25, 2006. Unfortunately for me, our anniversary is on September 25, 2007. That's the day Halo 3 comes out and my friends were going to have a big party for the game. My wife doesn't like video games but I really want to play Halo 3 with my friends on that day. What do I do?

2007-08-09 04:30:32 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

why....?

2007-08-09 04:28:01 · 18 answers · asked by MJ 6

I have been married for over 7 yrs. I married my wife because she was my best friend, a wonderful person and i loved her. She is pretty and I was attracted to her because of those things, but she has always been a bit overweight. We abstained from sex before marriage so it was fun at first.

As the yrs have gone on, she has kinda let herself go some. She's still pretty and a wonderful person but she is 5'4" and 180lbs. Needless to say, im not exactly attracted to her body anymore. What's tough is i am still in very good shape. I am 39 yrs old but am often told that i can pass for around 30 and often have attractive women look at express interest in me. I do not want to cheat but it makes me angry at my wife to just expect that i would never and she can just stay out of shape. We have talked about it and she knows how i feel. Now, she's bothered with me because i never want to have sex. We do it several times a month and thats only because she wants to have a baby soon. any advice?

2007-08-09 04:22:46 · 23 answers · asked by zeke58 3

the sons from their parents and you want to live separately with your husbands. Do not you think the parents have the right to live with their children. Have not they struggled the life long to look after their children and when they their turn comes to be looked after why do you pull away their children, can not you see them also as your own parents. why so many oldage homes in our country?

2007-08-09 03:46:19 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I threw him a bday party at my house. His 28yr old dghtr & his neice (in-law) are not exactly supportive of "us" - so they came begrungingly & when the neice's son was accidently hurt - they used my son as an excuse to up & leave saying that it was not an accident to my byf - but to all others it was. My byf says he believes me, but has yet to speak up to either of them about it. Rather he's choosing to let it go saying "I dont care what anyone says anymore" - I feel as though it is now unresolved. This is not the first time they have pulled or said something that makes him feel guilty for wanting to move forward with our relationship or that he's abandoning them & they say it's not me it could be anyone - but enough is enough already - it's been 10 mo. of hell & getting worse now that MY child has been used - now I draw the line! I'm just worried that if he's not sticking up for us now - will he ever do it or am I to just accept his family never showing "us" respect?

2007-08-09 03:41:49 · 11 answers · asked by martiek7 3

2007-08-09 03:41:04 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am trying to explain to my single guy friend that it's not a good idea to go out alone with his best friends wife. The best friend tells him to take his wife out when he's going out of town so that she wont be lonely, or so that she wont be hanging out with her sleezy girlfriends at the clubs.
I know that the married couple doesn't have a strong marriage and are always fighting---in which she phones the single guy often to cry, etc. Her husband doesnt know she does this.
I told my single friend that if he really cared about his best friend he would decline the offers of hanging out with the wife. She obviously is "into" him, and it's a betrayal of their friendship. What do you think?

2007-08-09 03:38:05 · 24 answers · asked by Exey 2

They don't do blood tests or anything, so why do they make you wait?

2007-08-09 03:37:30 · 11 answers · asked by azrielle 3

2007-08-09 03:37:10 · 7 answers · asked by crip4life braa 1

2007-08-09 03:32:33 · 9 answers · asked by bamagrits84 3

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2007-08-09 03:32:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 03:30:29 · 10 answers · asked by Bia 1

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You're in the mood to lay it on the line your loved one today, and you don't care if it hurts, dear LESLEY. The Sun and the Tower are bringing out the darkest part of your character - your tendency to harbor grudges. An intransigent attitude on your part is threatening to leave indelible traces, which could end in an outright sulk. At work, you radiate confidence and capability all day long. Under the protection of the Sun and the Emperor, business discussions and agreements lead to definite success. Take advantage of the day’s positive influence to cement your position or expand your sphere of influence in this area of your life…

im having som problems with my hubby ...... he said things that hurt me to the bone i feel like i hate right now, i cant explain, it dosent bring me to tears but it makes me SOOOOOOO angry! i feel like leaving at least for a night!

2007-08-09 03:21:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

and you felt guilty because you want to go out and had fun but he can't

2007-08-09 03:16:24 · 19 answers · asked by meister 4

I thought my fiance and I got along great. We have been together for over 6 years. Last night for no reason he went off on me and (he was drinking) told me I was a fat ***** (I am 5'8 and this is heaviest I have ever been at about 155 lbs) and that he didn't like me and on and on he went. To the point I was in tears. I am absolutly depressed this morning and shocked that he would have ever done this. What should I do? This has never happened before in 6 years and I am baffled. He said he didn't want to marry a fat ***** and other things.

Then this morning he acts as if nothing is wrong and he doesn't remember.

I am beyond myself right now and can not think straight at work.

2007-08-09 03:11:15 · 30 answers · asked by aintlifegrand 4

Well. I was with this girl in high school..she ended up moving to las vegas with her dad, and we didnt want to break up because we still love each other..so we decided to wait till we can move together, were were arguing one night and we split up..we got back together a few days later...and now shes telling me while we were split up, she went drinking with some of her friends and she was really sad, and one of her friends took advantage of that,,and had sex with her..and now she thinks she pregnant..I Still really love her, but I dont know what to do, if I should stay with her..even though I dont trust her much anymore..or leave her.

2007-08-09 03:04:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-09 03:03:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married for 13 years, and I guess I have been neglectful with my wife. I play an instrument for 1to 2 hrs a day after work (I consider this therapy). An on the weekend I fly airplanes from 8:00am to 12:00 non everey saturday. On the other hand me and my wife will go camping and do outdoor stuff toguether at least once a month, and we go shopping toguether every week.
I must say I could be more romantic with her.
Ont he other hand I have 2 wonderful kids and they are bussy doing their thing, and I feel that overall the family needs to do more stuff toguether.
Am I overdoing my personal time?. Is my wife right in saying that all I want to do is play my instrument and fly?
She thinks a schedule of sorts is not a good idea, she needs me when she needs me...
I think personally it could be doing worse things.... but maybe I'm wrong...

2007-08-09 02:56:09 · 7 answers · asked by Jaime L 2

Hubby is mentally abusive and has financially ruined us. IRS problems, legal problems, in debt to no end and I can not take it anymore.I have no job and have no skills , I have been a stay at home wife because that is what he has needed me to do. He has had multiple back surgeries and is still in a lot of pain and I feel guilty for wanting to leave . If I leave I have to give up my cat that I have had for 10 years because I can not take him with me , family has dogs . It is going to pretty much kill me if I have to give my cat up but if I do not do what I have to do , I feel I want to die sometimes . Please help me !!!!! I can not live with this gutt wrenching pain everyday . I am physically sick and feel as if I am losing my mind.

2007-08-09 02:49:53 · 16 answers · asked by drapoel wons 1

Hi, I am sepereted now, and live with my son. Divorce will be the best solution. The thing is what now? Doing my job a meet lot of people, and sometime they ask me if I am merried... (and I don't now what to say...) I am not legaly divorced, and in the same time if I sead that I am seperated is like I give them "green light",(I notice that...) I won't to be polite, but also not to go and explain things to people who don't deserve.
that... Also about my son, he is very sensitiv, and I am afraid if in the future I have some reletionship,(i hope not to stay alone for the rest of my life) how to make things the best for my son, and not to hurt him. He is very important to me, and I won't to do things right - and for him, and for me...
any advice...

2007-08-09 02:45:12 · 10 answers · asked by Leona V 1

2007-08-09 02:22:15 · 26 answers · asked by Mapple 1

anytime I want to go out to eat we never go where I want. We never go to a movie when I want to. we only go and do what he wants

2007-08-09 02:06:38 · 25 answers · asked by FUSSBALL 1

I was married. we blended families. her daughter called me daddy. my 2 kids got attached to her. some bad stuff went down last spring. we were fighting all the time and she was depressed which added a lot of problems. now we are going through a divorce. i can't say that i miss all the fighting but at one point our marriage was beautiful. i haven't heard from her in 3 months. I was repeatedly told by her she'd be devastated if anything happened to us. She's the one that left though. Anger played a big part in the last 3 months between the two of us and only contact has been through attornies. I was told i was the love of her life. How can i tell if she wants to come back and try to get some help without any contact? it seems a waste to throw a marriage away when we worked so hard at blending the family. Yeah some nasty stuff has been done since we split but can't we turn that around? How can i tell if she misses me? she's got a really big ego and won't show it if she does.

2007-08-09 02:06:21 · 12 answers · asked by survivor 1