I am trying to explain to my single guy friend that it's not a good idea to go out alone with his best friends wife. The best friend tells him to take his wife out when he's going out of town so that she wont be lonely, or so that she wont be hanging out with her sleezy girlfriends at the clubs.
I know that the married couple doesn't have a strong marriage and are always fighting---in which she phones the single guy often to cry, etc. Her husband doesnt know she does this.
I told my single friend that if he really cared about his best friend he would decline the offers of hanging out with the wife. She obviously is "into" him, and it's a betrayal of their friendship. What do you think?
2007-08-09 03:38:05 · 24 answers · asked by Exey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm going to burst your bubble and warn you to butt out. Friend or no, it is not proper to involve yourself in what's going on. You will only alienate everyone - and they may even blame you for anything unfortunate that may happen. You don't need that, so your best bet is simply to drop this single guy friend and leave the married couple to their own devices.
2007-08-09 06:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they have a disfunctional marriage, and the guy is probably trying to hold it together the best he can by sending his wife out with someone he knows, rather than having her go with "sleezy girlfriends at the clubs." If the wife is a tramp, maybe this is the best thing he can do, right?
2007-08-09 04:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that the husband has no clue that his wife and best friend are kind of into each other?? Maybe, since the marraige isn't so good, he's looking for an out. He could facilitate an affair between the two, file for divorce and come out looking squeeky clean.
No matter, it's a strange deal. It's wrong, of course, but the pressure is on the friend though. He's been warned.
2007-08-09 03:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Married guy is clueless. Single guy is too and NEEDS to be clued in... OR single guy is into her too and is apprecitive of the permission granted.
Definitly a BAD idea. Your right, if he cares, he'd try to help his friend save his marriage. Married woman is just in need of some support, it's a shame her husband isn't providing it and she's falling for the other. This marriage won't last long if this keeps up.
2007-08-09 03:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say fine except for two things. He doesn't want her to go out with him just so she won't be lonely, it's so he can control who she's with (you said it's so she doesn't hang out with her sleezy friends). Also, if she is calling this friend for "emotional support" there is the potential for something else to happen. They are already interested in each other. If it was really just because the husband couldn't go and she wanted someone to go with her, fine. But the other two factors change things.
2007-08-09 03:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, not a good idea for the guy to be going out all the time with her alone. Too much chance for something happening there. Advise him he needs to stop for appearance sake and possibility of an affair getting started by accident of close acquaintance.
2007-08-09 03:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants shot of the wife, so is trying to off load her on your friend, this could be because maybe maybe some type of guilt of leaving her or it could be that if she has an affair he will pay less in any divorce settlement. Or it could mean he is just some looser who is setting himself up so he can play the victim. I think he must be aware that sooner or later something is likely to happen between the friend and his wife.
2007-08-09 06:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a betrayal....so long as he doesn't develop feelings other than friendship for her he's ok. But none the less he should be open about the phone calls. Actually, I just wouldn't want to be in the middle of them and their fighting, but that is just me...like to keep my life peaceful.
2007-08-09 03:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It is playing with fire and honestly it is getting in the middle of a marriage. The married couple needs to focus on one another to save their marriage. The single friend is not helping matters.
2007-08-09 04:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you....especially as they are having problems in the marriage and she is confiding in him. He needs to step away from the situation, there are plenty of wives whose hubbys work away from home and deal with that lonliness. I think your friends friend is using him to keep an eye on his wife, in which case there is trust issues also. Yep your right to tell him not to get involved in this.
2007-08-09 03:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋