How do you know if your ex misses you?

Question

I was married. we blended families. her daughter called me daddy. my 2 kids got attached to her. some bad stuff went down last spring. we were fighting all the time and she was depressed which added a lot of problems. now we are going through a divorce. i can't say that i miss all the fighting but at one point our marriage was beautiful. i haven't heard from her in 3 months. I was repeatedly told by her she'd be devastated if anything happened to us. She's the one that left though. Anger played a big part in the last 3 months between the two of us and only contact has been through attornies. I was told i was the love of her life. How can i tell if she wants to come back and try to get some help without any contact? it seems a waste to throw a marriage away when we worked so hard at blending the family. Yeah some nasty stuff has been done since we split but can't we turn that around? How can i tell if she misses me? she's got a really big ego and won't show it if she does.

Last time i saw her was about a month ago in the store with her parents and she was so upset with seeing me that she ran out of the store. we're both guilty of things in the marriage and we've both played the he said she said. Now how hard would it be to go back together when we've complained to everyone and they would think we were nuts and wouldn't support it. Will time tell? I guess if she really loved me, time will tell. I've instituted the no contact rule for awhile now but I really want to contact her. I wonder if she's having the same feelings? I would hate to breech the no contact and get shot down. i tried that when we first split and she just said we've been through too much. it was enough of an ego downer to do it again if she's going to be nasty. How can i tell? haven't heard a peep out of her.

i care because i still love her. now i'm just starting to realize that. i wonder if she's feeling the same way?

Answer 1

I told you before... go and talk to her if you realize that you still love her. Do what ever you can, to get a message to her through your & her Attorney that you do still love her like crazy... just show her that you want her back and nothing else matters... that "no body could ever replace her" That she is the "only one" for you!

It doesn't matter what & how many of us here give you advice... in the end it is still "you" and "you only" who has to make that decision. If you you don't tell her how you truly feel... you may hate yourself later that you didn't do it.
This may be the only way, if you want to find out how she feels and if she realy misses you too!

Ok... what do you have to loose? I don't understand what you are waiting for?
Bite your "Ego" and just do it... Nobody can do that for You... exept you... Survivor :)

Again Good Luck :)

Answer 2

It is not a waste to throw away a marriage if it was a bad one. Sounds like YOU have a big ego, too. In any case, I guarantee you that she misses you. But... if she was interested in getting back together, she would have tried to contact you by now. If you really want to make this work, maybe YOU need to take some initiative and call yourself. But don't be surprised if she is not interested. She left you for a reason. That reason needs to be resolved. If you don't have any answers, then you are likely wasting your time. What you might try, however, is suggesting counseling for both of you. Alas, it is probably too late. You should have done that six months ago. It is so much easier to see what went wrong after the fact. That said, you won't know if you don't try. Good luck!

Answer 3

Wow, this is a hard one, I know how you feel because I am kind of going thru something similar. Think about this - do you really love her???? Or is it just that you think you want this? If you really love her then the only way you will know if she cares is to let her know how you feel. Yeah, I know if she shoots you down again it will hurt - but then you know that you have to forget her. This hanging in limbo is not good - it just drags it on. Are you good at writing letters? Sometimes when we talk we get too emotional and end up fighting. Sit down and write her a nice letter letting her know how you feel. This way you can say it just right. Maybe after writing your feelings down, it will help you decide what you want also. It may clarify your feelings too. Send it to her or give it to her. Then take it from there. If she does not respond then you know that you have to forget her. I really hope it works for you. Good luck!

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. I don't think the question is if she misses you. The question really is if she will want to work things out with you. The only way to find out is to ask. As for all the he said she said........... thats childs play and true loving adults can overcome the past. No one is perfect and no matter who you end up with at the end it is always someone you are willing to compromise with not just love. Is she the one for you? If you think she is do what you know you need to do. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

This question is tougher than "How many licks to get to the center of a tootsie roll pop?", but the same answer- "The world may NEVER know!"- We all ask ourselves this question after a break up. With time, this question will fade away....promise.

Answer 6

If you love her then tell her. You can pick up a phone just as easy as she can. The only way you are going to know that is to call her. Tell her that's the only way.

Answer 7

Tell her how you feel. For her to run out the store tells me she is embarrassed about something. Otherwise she would have stood her ground. Ask her is she will talk with you?

Answer 8

Did the two of you try counseling? Why don't you give her a call or stop by her house and talk to her.

Answer 9

dont worry about whether or not your ex misses you. it doesnt matter because they are your ex.

Answer 10

"How do you know if your ex misses you?" It shouldn't matter considering he/she is your EX.