and you felt guilty because you want to go out and had fun but he can't
2007-08-09 03:16:24 · 19 answers · asked by meister 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok this is my mom asking this question and i'm sorry but he is not bedridden. he can get up and move around and do things for himself... he just stays in the bed cuz it's difficult sometimes. she does everything in the world for him and she deserves to go out. and i know that she won't go out partying.. but maybe just go hang out at a friends house or go somewhere with her sister... SO DUH MOM HAVE FUN!! YOU HAVE A LIFE TOOO!! and you need to make the best of it ... I LOVE YOU... oh yeh and also... he is tons of fun but when you're stuck in the house all the time it gets boring and lonely
2007-08-09 07:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by angela b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd stay home. Because think of it the other way around. If you were bedridden woudl you want your husband to go out partying and having fun while leaving you at home by yourself? Personally I wouldn't but everyones different. I just think it's insensitive.
2007-08-09 10:19:43 · answer #2 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well you asked what i would do. I would stay home and take care of him. I love him and would never want to leave him at home to be miserable while I went out. If it was going on for months I might ask if he minds if I went out to do something fun for me once a week just so I get a break. your husband will always remember how you treated him through this time. you don't have to be a slave or anything but he should have no doubt of your complete devotion.
2007-08-09 10:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who care full time for sick people do need occasional respite, that's totally normal, I used to work in a home for mentally and physically disabled people and they had a residential wing where people stayed for a weekend every so often to let their carers have some time off. I'd get a qualified nurse in to look after him and then you have some free time. I'm not saying it would be right for you to do this every night, and I am not saying it would be right for you to go out and cheat on your husband, but you are still allowed a life.
2007-08-09 10:44:26 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation with a disabled husband. Its taken alot of heartache and sole searching but I've stayed with my husband. Afterall, he didn't plan to end up in a wheelchair but I really miss the physical side of marriage which he cannot deliver! What did I do? I had an affair with someone who doesn't want any commitment but gives me what's missing from my life. Selfish? Absolutely but all of us in this relationship is, currently, content with the arrangement. Its not perfect and most, if not all, will condem me for this but there it is!
2007-08-09 18:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by BettyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stand by his side. The vows we spoke to one another was in sickness and health. My husband has a neurological disease and sometimes he can't do anything and he is unable to work. My place is to be with him to support him through this. How would you feel if that was you and he wanted to go out? If you have a relationship with God then pray that God will help you through this.
2007-08-09 13:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Hadassah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of him. Of course, you can't spend all your life doing nothing for yourself, but your fun time should definitely be limited. Listen to that Kenny Rogers song about "Ruby" and think about your husband.
2007-08-09 10:20:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't abandon him. But consider your options carfully. Having a desire to go have fun is natural. I always tell folks in a difficult situation to do what your heart tells you to do. Get down, say a prayer, and follow your heart.
2007-08-09 10:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Handy man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd try to find something to do at the house with him. if there's something you both enjoy doing whether it's a movie or drawing or anything just try to find something you can both do together from the bed. you shouldn't feel guilty for occasionally going out but if it were me i'd stay in with him.
2007-08-09 10:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by ASHLEIGH P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look after him as best I could, with love and care. And I wouldn't be heading out to have fun on my own, but know he probably wouldn't mind me still doing things with family - as long as he were still looked after.
2007-08-09 10:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋