Well. I was with this girl in high school..she ended up moving to las vegas with her dad, and we didnt want to break up because we still love each other..so we decided to wait till we can move together, were were arguing one night and we split up..we got back together a few days later...and now shes telling me while we were split up, she went drinking with some of her friends and she was really sad, and one of her friends took advantage of that,,and had sex with her..and now she thinks she pregnant..I Still really love her, but I dont know what to do, if I should stay with her..even though I dont trust her much anymore..or leave her.
2007-08-09 03:04:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just let her go. Being drunk is not an excuse and now look what's happend. She obviously didn't love you enough to keep her legs closed. She isn't worth it, just move on and find someone better.
2007-08-09 03:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by urstruly8604 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the girl relocated. You just can not maintain a long distance relationship. Second of all, even if she was drinking, what is "taking advantage of her"? was she raped? If she was raped then she should make a police report and get the guy arrested. If she wasn't raped, then even if she WAS drinking it was her responsibility to do the responsible thing, and she did not do the responsible thing.
You don't need that hassel. If she got herself pregnant, she better do what is right for the baby, and that is to have the baby and adopt him out. You do not need any of the emotional or physical responsibility for that situation. You say you love her, and often times the best thing we can do for someone we love is to let them go. In my opinion, that is the best thing you can do right now.
The one you love most should be yourself. Take care of yourself and don't sacrifice your own interests on an immature flaky girl whose actions speak louder than her words.
2007-08-09 10:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Gma Joan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People make mistakes, it's part of being human. If you love her, be supportive of her. You don't have to commit to marrying her right off the bat, see where things go and if the feelings are still there for her. Trust has to be earned. Let her re-earn it with you before you commit to a relationship. Take it slow and use your better judgement to see if something is there. If you still can't get over her being with someone else, it may be best to cut the ties, as you probably wil never trust her and a relationship should be based on trust, love and mutual respect. If that's not there, then you have nothing worthwhile. Good luck...
2007-08-09 10:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Forgot How 2 Show Him 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the number of chances you give someone is based on how much you love them, what they did and how sorry you believe they are and they would never do it again. No one can answer that for you but you. But let me say that a relationship without trust is very hard on both people. So you have to make sure you can live with the choice you make, either way. Good luck.
2007-08-09 10:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think peoples do crazy things when they split up. So I think if you truly love her, you should be there for her because everyone makes mistakes sometime. And for the trust issue I think if you two work really hard to get it back it will all work out in the end.
Hope that helps!
2007-08-09 10:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't state your age, but I am assuming that you are fairly young, late teens to early 20's. If this is the case, I would suggest moving on with your life. Being "sad" and "drinking" are no excuse. Also, trust is a MUST in any relationship. Also, please consider this, if she IS pregnant, do you really want to raise another man's child, if you decide to stay?
I wish you luck!
2007-08-09 10:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by Debi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the issue is not you anymore, it's her baby, if you can treat her baby well and forgive that it was a mistake on her part, then if you really love her, you should give her another chance, but if you can't treat this baby with love, and forgive the mom, you are just going to be punishing the baby, and that's not good for anyone, so, do what is best for the child, not you or her.
2007-08-09 10:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love her enough to accept another mans baby it would be also that you would love her enough to forgive her discretion's, and if you love her enough to forgive, will you forget what she has done? think about the future. Are you willing to look over something this big? can you trust that she would get mad at you and not do this again? these are some of the questions you should ask yourself
2007-08-09 10:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by V P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say she already made her decision, whether she says she's sorry or not. It doesn't matter if she was drunk, she is still responsible for her actions, and to have been "takin advantage of" she had to have put herself in a compromising position to begin with. I say let it go...if she really really cares, she'll prove it, and only then think about letting her back.
2007-08-09 10:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Superscottie16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do the same thing to her, get a girl pregnant, and see if she takes you back..bad Idea..well if you do decide to stay with her, you can win any argument that you ever had.. "omg did you forget our anniversary??" "oh remember when you slept with that guy and got pregnant?"
2007-08-09 10:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋