you guys have given me the same answer..half of you tell me to wait..the other half tells me to move on....on the scale..the wait won...so you guys think i should wait ...huh....
for those of you who hav e no clue what im implying
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArfHrqKx_f1IAcLJq9IDVC3sy6IX?qid=20070808061025AA4Ar8t
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aj9wnS6BiWlfkVfQ2PRc4Izsy6IX?qid=20070808101625AAr6uPv
2007-08-09 04:55:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i only posted 2 out of the 20 questions i ask....it was the same..
2007-08-09 04:56:04 · update #1
i have no problem with the advice....thank you all
2007-08-09 04:59:31 · update #2
In my opinion it's your divorce it obviously happened for a reason. So... with that if you want to be in a relationship right away then why not who is stopping you. Why would you care what anyone else has to say about it? what are people going to say oh no she got in a relationship while divorcing her husband. People like that are stupid, and way old fashioned. I say if it makes you happy then that's all that matters.
2007-08-09 05:02:16 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like this guy friend of yours could seriously consider you in the future, but is being WISE to not enter into a relationship that could come crashing down as your rebound.
After an impotent husband who cheated emotionally, you are probably extremely vulnerable to thinking any man who gives you attention and sex you are in love with, and are not being nearly as picky as you need to be. You do sound like you are in too much of a hurry.
The man in question probably wants to see what choices you are going to make in your life single again before deciding whether to pursue a relationship with you, and may want you to have a couple relationships inbetween to help you sort out what you want, not wanting to be your rebound, and wanting to see if you are going to pursue your future wisely or if you want instant gratification.
I think you are being very impatient. You're not even divorced yet, and you want this other guy to commit to something. It's unreasonable.
2007-08-09 13:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be new advice or not...
It is not worng to want to start a relationship before the divorce is final (I started mine before and married him three months after).
I would talk to the guy and find out the real reason he wants to wait. Talking to him is the best thing for you. I would also suggest setting some ground rules for yourself and him. This will also help in the long run.
I hope this helps:)
2007-08-09 12:07:04 · answer #3 · answered by Spring 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay so I read both questions...and I believe that it is wrong to begin dating before your marriage is over. I think because your heart and mind are not ready to begin a relationship. You should give yourself sometime away from any guys...after a break up, we are in the most vulnerable stage and anything can cause us to think we are in love...Your friend might be a nice guy, etc. but I think he is not the one...Why was he when you first met him??? Enjoy your life as a single person...learn about yourself, then consider getting into another relationship.
2007-08-09 12:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by esther_1202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a person leaves a marriage they always carry a lot of emotional and mental baggage with them. You have been split up from your husband for only a few months. It's so early in the process that it isn't hard to believe you might go back to him. I avoid relationships with any woman who hasn't spent a year by herself after a divorce.
2007-08-09 12:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't seriously waiting for complete strangers to tell you exactly what to do off of a single paragraph of one sided text? It also seems as if you are getting angry because no one is giving you the answer you want to hear.
It's a bit insulting.
2007-08-09 12:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Too many people are sheep in this world can't make up their own mind. Take charge of it and stop asking questions to the unknown masses who in all truth don't care for your well being and are quick to judge you.
Take care and think for yourself.
2007-08-09 12:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't closed the door on one relationship (heavy baggage), and you want to start another one? Are you a fool? And what fool would agree to that?
2007-08-09 12:00:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like the answers, don't take the advice.
2007-08-09 11:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No **** the same people proably anwsered
2007-08-09 11:57:46 · answer #10 · answered by LostGal19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋