anytime I want to go out to eat we never go where I want. We never go to a movie when I want to. we only go and do what he wants
2007-08-09 02:06:38 · 25 answers · asked by FUSSBALL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Have you discussed that this upsets you. Explain to him that you would like to spend time. The key is to never stop dating each other or treat each time like it may be the last time you see each other. I do that with my current fiance'. He loves it when I act as if I haven't seen him in months. It sounds crazy but men like to know they are wanted, loved and respected as long as he'd doing what he is suppose to it comes natural. So I say all that to mean check how you are acting so that you know you are fun to be around that will draw him to want to make you happy and enjoy the things that you want to do. If not then he is simply being selfish and you would like to share the movies and restaraunts with him and you would hate to do those things alone.
2007-08-09 02:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to explain to him that being in a relationship involves both partners sometimes doing something they don't want to.
My man can't stand going to the movies but he does come with me & he doesn't bring the mood down just because he doesn't like it. Likewise I go & watch him play football or watch him play a playstation game with interest although I don't like it!
If you suggest going to a movie & he says no then go with a friend, he'll soon learn that you are going to do what YOU want to sometimes!
2007-08-09 09:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by lorrakerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband may be a little selfish and controlling. Some people just naturally have that "take charge" personality and they end up calling all the shots. Maybe you should try sitting down and talking to him about it and tell him for a change that you would like for you guys to do things that you like together. Hope this helps.
2007-08-09 09:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Shelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because he is a selfish jerk. Time for you to put your foot down. He only gets his way all the time because you let him. If you are unable to do this, then I recommend you get some counseling and learn how to be assertive. You might even consider marriage counseling. You both need to learn to compromise and work together. If your marriage is this one-sided all the time, it is not going to last very long. Good luck!
2007-08-09 09:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be because the things you like to do suck. Give some examples of what things you want to do and some things he wants to do, otherwise all you will get is answers saying how much he sucks and nothing that could help... or just shut off the sex till he starts doing more of what you want.
2007-08-09 09:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Izapac 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Probably has always been the DECIDER IN your relationship. Early on, you may have left it all up to him in order to build him up and make him feel more manly, more in control. Now you are reaping your dividend. This guy didn't just SPRING UP out of thin air. He was CREATED, bit by bit and piece by piece. So congratulate YOURSELF. You've helped create a MONSTER....and he's ALLLLLL yours...!
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2007-08-09 09:32:39 · answer #6 · answered by dreadneck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a selfish guy, who doesn't care about what you want. I'm guessing he doesn't give you flowers on Valentines day or a B-day present either right?
Some of youwomen are just attracted to slugs...that's all there is to it.
2007-08-09 09:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him. We women give too much of ourselves when men only give what the feel like giving. If he doesn't want to go where you want, go alone or with your girlfriends. If he doesn't want to go see the movie you want, go alone or with your girlfriends. Listen men have to be trained, it's hard, trust me I'm going through it now. When he sees you aren't asking for him to do things with you he'll begin to wonder WTF? And then he'll be begging you to go see whatever it is you want to see.
2007-08-09 09:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of ambiguity to your statements...
Did you already communicate this with him?
Did you explain your need to go to places that you like?
Did you mistakenly cause him to feel like his places are stupid or wrong, etc.?
Are you unknowingly giving an impression that it's totally up to him, and you're fine with whatever he chooses?
Add these to your comments for a better answer! :)
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2007-08-09 10:15:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and explain also that you need to be alone sometimes. and you also have brains that will need to share with him, especially in decision making. happy relationship is sharing not being so controlling. again communication is the key. good luck
2007-08-09 09:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by pink_blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋