Marriage & Divorce - 8 August 2007

I've been going out with this person for more than 7 years. got married last year. he had a big sexual interesting with me those days. but after getting married, i found that is no more interested.... I've seen him having it alone, still he does it. It is because we have enough & more fights??? or is having it from outside also??? how can I identify that??

2007-08-08 23:16:30 · 45 answers · asked by niki 1

I have been with my partner for 3 years. Most of the time we get on really well but since we have been together we have constantly had money problems. I left a really good job in the city I was living in to be with him. Since I moved to be with him I havent been able to secure a permanent job for two years, my salary through temp work is lower and job prospects not as good as other places. He has a permanent job which pays ok, but I am still the main earner by a long way and each month there is more pressure on me to make money and provide. I find myself resenting him as I have not been able to secure permament work but still having to provide for both of us. He refuses to move somewhere else and I feel frustrated by his lack of support and lack of drive to secure better employment. The strain of not knowing if we can pay our bills each month really gets to me, and part of me just wants to go it alone, so I'm not having to provide for someone else. What would you do?

2007-08-08 23:01:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-08 22:44:52 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I filed for divorce and am moving on. My wife and I started off bad, it was all wrong. We eventually came around and learned to enjoy each other's company. Yet, for quite a few months now things have been hard and I learned of many deceptions and mistrust on her part. She always brings out the worst in me. Since the separation, I started talking to someone else (just talking) and she has turned out to be the most amazing person I have considered for love. I have known her for over 10 years and we just happened to be getting out of relationships. Both of us have never felt like this or BEGAN like this with anyone. However, my soon to be ex is "reforming" and has been doing everything to win me back, swearing to change...etc. I love the woman I have been talking to and feel new feelings for her I have never felt EVER. But I am feeling nostalgic about my wife. Maybe I am used to being in bad relationships. I know she wont change...I know she is bad for me. How do I let go?

2007-08-08 22:24:14 · 15 answers · asked by rebel1971 1

Has anyone ever dated then married someone who wasn't your type initially. I have heard of some that said that they weren't attracted to their mate initially and the person ended up being exactly what they were looking for and they are very happy. Has that ever happened to any of you?

2007-08-08 22:23:45 · 7 answers · asked by Fireanddesir 2

has known her for years .. but u dont chat with any other men but brother uncle ect.. how would u feel .. he says there just friends and she lives 9 states away .. help

do i not have a right to be upset by this he says no

2007-08-08 22:06:26 · 15 answers · asked by MOM to megan eli jaiden and ryan 5

My man and I have some problems. Although we were both born in England, his family are muslim. He, however, doesn't practice. My belief is that you accept an individual as they are and when we first met, over a year ago, I told him that I have a 'western' lifestyle. Although he accepts this, he's worried about what his parents will think. They live overseas and are due to come & visit soon. He said that if we go to a restaurant, he would not want me to drink a glass of wine in front of them. He also said that he doesn't want me to admit I am an atheist. My reaction was: why can't you accept me as I am in front of them? Just because I enjoy a glass of wine, it doesn't make me an evil person. I refused to live a lie in front of anyone and asked him to accept me as I am. He ended up in tears, saying he was confused and didn't know what to do cos he loves me but wants to make them happy too. I suggested that perhaps he marry someone of his parent's choice or be his own man and be with a woman that makes HIM happy. Tired of it all, I asked him to leave. Today he texted me to say he needs to sort himself out and won't stand in the way of my happiness. Shall I wait to see what happens or just move on? It's a shame cos we both love one another but I don't see why I should fundamentally change who I am for anyone.

2007-08-08 21:58:50 · 17 answers · asked by Fluffy ♥ 4

I been married over 3 years. Lived with my husband for only 1 year.He cheated and I was gone ever since. Don't know where he is at and I really no longer care. I hear that he's a low life with no job, living house to house etc. I really want a divorce or annulment!! I know I was young and naive! I'm 22 yrs. old now and he's 29. Just don't know how to start..We have no kids or property. What happens if he can't be located? or if he is located and he does not want to get a divorce? How long would it take? Do I have to face the judge and how long would that be?? I'm sooo stress out with these constant migraines because I really want to be cut loose from him completely!

I'm seriously depress. How much money would it be? Is annulment difficult? What are the procedures? We got married in Nevada,and are living in CA los angeles now. Can I divorce here? Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

2007-08-08 21:50:59 · 3 answers · asked by stacey t 1

My ex (8 years married, 5 months divorced) and I have been having a lot of contact lately. She is in a relationship and I am not. She text messages me 75+ per day. I call her and she keeps me on the phone for hours.She says that "I have changed" all the time. She says the she loves me but is not "in love" with me. I asked her to let me go but she says she can't. She says her life sucks but that she loves her boyfriend. She never talks about her boyfriend. Why does she seek my attention instead of her boyfriends? Is she just trying to get over me? What does she want?

2007-08-08 21:30:58 · 14 answers · asked by James 1

I found out my husband called his female colleague babe in one of his sms. When i questioned him. He said nothing happened. He said he just gave her a lift to work sometimes. I have her email and hp no. but I dun know how I can find out more about their relationship cause I know he will not tell. He also said she got boyfriend working overseas and getting married soon. I asked him how old is she. He said dun know but think should be around 30 not young. I do not believe what he said. I am troubled over this. I wish I know what to do. He lied to me about his credit card spending also and I think he will continue to do whatever he wants unless I got proof and gave up totally. He told me he never had sex with other woman except me. Do you believe? He also addicted to porn. had video, pictures in PC, hp, camera, album. You named it he had it. He also got joined webcam chat. I am so sad...I gave him everything, even willing to give my life for him. What can I do to save this relationship?

2007-08-08 20:19:02 · 15 answers · asked by bee 1

2007-08-08 20:17:55 · 6 answers · asked by americanpie 1

My ex and I share joint custody of our 3 kids. Shortly after our divorce was final in April 07 my wife and kids moved in with her boyfriend and his 2 kids. My son is 7 and the only male of the 5 kids. Last weekend my son said to me that the bf is mean to him and does not like him. He tells me this every time he is with me. Each time I ask him why he feels this way and he always says "he yells at me". This time when I asked, my son said the bf hit him in the head causing him to bang his head on a door knob. The next day I called my ex. She confirmed what my son said and that she was not there at the time. She also said the bf has spank my son twice. I was livid. Then my ex tried to minimize the bf's actions. I told her this guy never lays a hand on any of our kid's again for any reason. I have never met this guy and worry that this could happen again with horrific results. What should I do to make sure my kids are safe and never abused by this guy. I'm very concern for there safety.

2007-08-08 19:47:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I propose to my gf do I have to get her parents blessings? It seems like such an old tradition.

2007-08-08 19:38:59 · 13 answers · asked by bananas4breakfast14 2

Just wondering does anyone elses husband seem to think that they have it good (do nothing all day) while looking after a baby and cleaning the house and cooking dinner and paying bills, doing all the washing, taking out the bins, washing all the dishes, ( the list goes on....)? He doesnt say it to me but he jokes about it?
I love not working and looking after our baby I never wanna go back to work but I would still appreciate a pat ont he back for keeping the house immaculate and everything else in order. Does anyone else feel this way?

2007-08-08 19:35:58 · 17 answers · asked by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5

I m a married person recently (six month ago). Me n my partener both are some time feel that we are fighting without any reason just for our person angerness or ago. I want to control it. How can i control on my angerness as well our fight. I love her very much. Pls tell me

2007-08-08 19:24:35 · 9 answers · asked by Lucky G 1

I cheated on my girlfriend. No excuses, I messed up and regret it. Please don't bash me for cheating..that's not the question. After 5 months apart, we finally are getting back together. Yesterday she said that she told her parents. I'm really serious about this relationship and am considering marraige. Will the fact that her parents know that I made such a mistake, live with me forever? How important is my relationship with her parents?

2007-08-08 19:23:46 · 9 answers · asked by bananas4breakfast14 2

My girl friend is a former Teacher. She told me thrice "God promise I love you." when she met me. I held her hand at least four times after asking her permission. She is the person who started sending very intimate SMS messages to me. I promised her that I will marry her immediately. I asked few questions to her mother just to confirm whether she loves me hundred percent. But her mother told that my behavior is not good and cancelled our marriage. Then my girl friend told me "Please don't send any mail to me henceforth.". She had told me "Let me see how many days you will take to understand my love for you.". I know hundred percent that she never loved me. She was faking about her love for me because she used to write many love SMS messages from her cell phone which has free SMS facility. I asked her twice to tell me that she has rejected me. But both the times she wrote to me that she has not rejected me. She never told me that she has accepted me. Is she trying to make me mad?

2007-08-08 19:19:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife was cheating on me so i thought wouldn t it be good to cheat on her with a gay guy as revenge?if not what should i do?

2007-08-08 18:56:49 · 35 answers · asked by Tony lanada 2

For almost 12yrs,I totally neglected him because I concentrated on helping my family.Aside from that,I was to proud to do what it pleases me because whenever we had a fight,he will always be the one to make amends with me? I always tell him that if you don't want me,you are free to go?
Unknowingly,he is already hurting that I treated him so badly and leave him for 3yrs?But God knows that I love him so much.Despite of my shortcomings,I've been a faithful wife to him.Please help me?

2007-08-08 18:55:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I been married for a little over 3 years,but my husband and I separated almost 2 years now. Yea he cheated and got into the drugs. I know I know I procrastinated on the divorce. would have done it long time ago. I haven't seen him since and don't even know where he is at. Probably house to house and with no job.

I just really would like some help. How much would it cost? Do I go to city hall and just ask for papers? How long will it take? And how would he get notice of my divorce request if he's no where to be found because I have no clue where he is at. Just in the county,but yes I just hear he is a low life doing nothing now. Do I have to face the judge? we have no kids. It's just simple. Just need some help on how to do this. Should I get an attorney? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

2007-08-08 18:54:51 · 8 answers · asked by stacey t 1

And what if anything did she do in return? Smile and please be honest.

2007-08-08 18:54:23 · 6 answers · asked by ms.sophisticate 7

I know it is -- but as a single woman who is not married yet, I would just like to know what to expect...if I ever do find the right someone to spend the rest of my life with. Please enlighten me - thanks!

2007-08-08 18:45:45 · 13 answers · asked by ~ 1

2007-08-08 18:43:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-08 18:38:31 · 6 answers · asked by ohbilly6 1

I just had my vacation last April.My instinct told me that i have to go home and I should as him straight,why did it happen? We've been married for almost 12yrs,so I can't believe that he will just dumped me so easily? Just 2weeks ago,he said that he love me and after 7days,he told me that he can't wait any longer?I'm confused,pls tell me what to do?

2007-08-08 18:35:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my second husband and I got married, him and my two kids, boy and girl, got along great. It's now 6 years later and now he has nothing good to say about either of them. They are now (daughter) 20 and (son) 24. They don't live with us. We don't pay their bills. I just don't understand. It has started causing alot of problems between him and I. PLEASE HELP!!

2007-08-08 18:28:01 · 18 answers · asked by kittymeow63 2

and i had never done this before ( i had never even been in that part of the movie rental place before ) but he suggested it so that we could see some diff moves or just get aroused faster. So we watched it together and mid movie i felt very bad for those girls so i couldnt watch anymore and according to him i killed his mood. I thought this experience would be something fun but instead it took a wrong turn and i felt really bad for watching it and then disgusted because after i left the room he kept watching.... i regret renting it especially becuase i started getting jeolous of what the porn stars had that i didnt. How would you feel and whats your take on my story !??!

2007-08-08 18:25:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay so some needed some clarification. When I met my husband he said he was in the middle of a divorce. We dated and I tried to leave several times stating that I did not think it was right until everything was finalized. He would harass me and beg me to come back. Later I found out that he was lying the whole time and was still married, but by that time I was already pregnant (it was his idea, not mine). Anyhow, now I am finding that he has lied about so much more. He has screwed the whole city, and then some. After I found out that he was married the whole time I cried, every single day that I was pregnant. I am not that kind of person. Anyhow he got divorced, and we got married but I did it for my daughter, I have trouble trusting someone who lied and cheated on me during the 1st year and a half of our relationship. I know some will say I was stupid, but he came up with lies I thought no human could tell, about his father on his death bed, and so on. Please help.

2007-08-08 18:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Me 4

I may end up regretting it in the end, but we have decided to give this marriage one more try. One of our biggest problems is communication. My husband expects me to know what he's thinking and will literally get mad if I'm not. Whenever we have a disagreement I try to get to the root of the problem, and my goal is to talk it out - not sweep it under the rug. My husband gets tense and frustrated and acts mean toward me because he doesn't want to be bothered with talking it out. He just wants the problem to go away. I have tried all sorts of things to communicate with him such as sending e-mails and typing letters. I have even suggested that we talk to a counselor and he refuses to do that. When I try to sit him down and talk gentle, he still resents me. He will also become angry and give me the silent treatment. I guess that's his form of punishment. I am at a total loss because it upsets him when I say ANYTHING pertaining to an "issue". There are so many things not being addressed.

2007-08-08 18:11:30 · 19 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

And you made him promise not to talk to her...would this be enough for you(the two of them not communicating)or would you want a divorce?


Nothing's happened between them but you're sure there's feelings there.So you told him to stop communicating withher..you don't even want him mentioning her..He oblige..but would this resolve it for you?

2007-08-08 18:03:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous