for the females out there .. how would u feel if ur husband was asking a friend for her phone number when hes?

Question

has known her for years .. but u dont chat with any other men but brother uncle ect.. how would u feel .. he says there just friends and she lives 9 states away .. help

do i not have a right to be upset by this he says no

he said they would only chat once in a while .. but id ont know i trust him but i dont know her .. they call each other bro and sister on ther im messages

also we have been married for 3 years and together for 6 years .. i think he said hes known her about 10 years give or take a few years ..

Answer 1

he should understand that you are his wife your feelings are more important than him calling this girl...forsaking all others...I take it seriously...especially if he calls her when you are not around...hmmm...

Answer 2

First of all attach a read receipt to the email so you know he opened the email. Secondly you need some answers. So make sure he is home for dinner in the evening make your list of questions write them out so you don't forget anything. First question is Do you still love me? If he says yes then you need to continue with the rest of the questions and what you found on the email. If you think it is necessary after your conversation seek professional counseling. Good Luck

Answer 3

Wow, his behavior can be misleading. I think, you can tell him that you're upset n sort of concern of future relationship he might have with her. But, again, you must have the trust for your husband to really treat her as a sister. Try to be involved by getting to know his female friend. You can be a friend to her as well. Dont shun yourself out of this kind of relationship your husband has with her. Though it might sound innocent but you never know...what it might lead to in future.

Answer 4

if you trusted your husband l don't see any reason why you should be worried,men can be just causal friends with a woman you know,my husband best friend is a woman ,they attend the same school long ago,she was a witness to my married .don't be upset,l think they are just friends

Answer 5

If she was such a good friend, why is he just now asking for her number?
Yes! You do have the right to be upset.

Answer 6

do u really hv a good reason to not trust him? its impt to trust the one you love... and sometimes, it CAN really mean nothing at all..

but, if you're still feeling uneasy, why not share with him your worries. and tell him why u feel the way u do.. better to talk it over, than keeping everything pent up..

Answer 7

I would ask what his intentions are for sure. Maybe he'd like to more then talk to her.
I would tell him to forget her or you'll forget him. Make it clear now.

Answer 8

Hell yes you have every right to be upset. Things are not as innocent as he says. Here's what I think about friends of the opposite sex:

I don't have any friends that are girls. All of my friends are guys. That doesn't mean that I'm not friendly with a lot girls though. I don't consider girls my friends because basically the only reason I talk to them is to hook up. Of course, you can't tell a girl flat out, "hey, you're sexy, let's hook up." This often gives the opposite of the desired result so you have to pretend to be interested in other ways. This is easily accomplished with faking interest in the asinine things she has to say. Not rolling my eyes when she talks about her stupid cat really helps too.

People generally don't hook up with people that are considered only friends, so I will avoid being one and will even go as far as to head out the door never to see her again if she ever refers to me as a 'great friend' or even worse, 'like a brother.' No girl in her right mind is going to sleep with her brother.

I never try to act like just a friend to them because that will guarantee me not getting any. I will also not stick around and pretend to be friends with a girl that is not interested in me. What a waste of time.

The guys that are friends with girls are a bunch of sissies to me. It seems either they are sticking around and hoping for some off chance that she will change her mind or luck out on a drunken encounter with their 'friend.' (They are kidding themselves either way.) Either that or they are homosexual and call her 'girlfriend' as many females often call each other.

Actually, there are a lot of girls out there that think that I am their friend. Those are the girls that I meet that I have no desire to sleep with. Instead of breaking their fragile little hearts I will play nice and let them think of me as a friend. It is very likely that the girls that just want to be my friend think the same exact thing of me. I have no desire of stroking their already over-inflated egos so I will bolt out the door and let some other schmuck drool all over her. I have no desire of getting anyone that isn't attracted to me to play nice just to spare my feelings. I have better places to be and hotter girls to talk to.

In short, real female friends are for females, guys who think they're girls, or guys who have no self-respect or self-confidence to find a woman that thinks that he is as sexy as he thinks she is.

Answer 9

i would feel jealous....
tell him so! and if he has nothing to hide, talk to the girl too. until you feel comfortable.
but if he started acting weird.... that's another story.
good luck

Answer 10

It depends if they talk alot or just every once in a while.