what is the reason for a husband to not to have sex with the wife?

Question

I've been going out with this person for more than 7 years. got married last year. he had a big sexual interesting with me those days. but after getting married, i found that is no more interested.... I've seen him having it alone, still he does it. It is because we have enough & more fights??? or is having it from outside also??? how can I identify that??

Answer 1

its more likely to be you fighting
the 1st thing i stop when im in a bad relationship is sex
i have no wish to shag someone i hate being with

Answer 2

Perhaps more stress, and perhaps he didn't want to be married? and he is resentful? If you dated for 7 years, he probably had to be prodded a bit to get married, he was comfortable the way things were and now he feels "trapped". Some guys just are not marriage material. Perhaps you got married because it seemed the "right" thing to do...
Whatever you do, if you don't have kids already, don't have any until you figure this out... because you'll end up a single mother and avoiding that is a good thing ( experience ).
If it's not that he feels trapped, then...
If he's doing it alone, and you see him, why not go in and snuggle up and ask him what he's thinking about. It might give you a clue about what is up.

Answer 3

Hi
After 36 years of marriage my wife happily me married, only kidding, I think I have been through everything, what I would suggest is to relax a little,maybe you have both have to start courting again, and get the romance back into your relationship,there is the old story of two clergymen travelling on a train together, one is a rabbi the other a priest, after about an hour,the priest leans over, and asks the rabbi, have you ever hard pork, after thinking for moment the rabbi replies yes, I have, and it was rather nice!! About 30mins pass and the rabbi asks the priest, excuse me father, have you ever had sex, on contemplation, the father says yes, and its a lot nicer that PORK!!!!!! pass this on to your partner.

Answer 4

Time to break out the french maid outfit; makeup. smell nice. be fun; playfull and be mischievous....
Be the woman he fell in love with.
You don't have to every n night. Just shake him up just a little.
Don't say a whole lot about anything.
. Turn some music on; dim lights; nice dinner. Don't complain about the no sex; smile laugh and enjoy dinner. don't make any approaches to him
Listen to him.; ask him about his day; his hobbies; don't interrupt. He is supposed to be your best friend.
take some belly dancing classes without his knowledge and surprise him. he will like that.....lolololol
Have you let yourself go. men are very visual.
never take love for granted.
Don't be so predictable.
Relax ; don't nag. He could be suffering from depression;
That will do that.......
Never let yourself slip into a rut........

Answer 5

not having sex is not an immediate reason to assume he's not interested. maybe he has some things going on in his head, and maybe you're not making it known that you would enjoy some time with him. maybe he's doing himself because he feels YOU wouldn't be interested. talk to him. don't accuse him. just ask him why you aren't having sex anymore. fighting could be the reason. maybe he's stressed out. the status quo is that once you get married, sex stops, so talk to him. he may want you to acknowledge what you want and take it from there. good luck!

Answer 6

What is the reason of your fights? Is it money? Is it the time? It all seems to have started when you got married. Try and see how things worked before the marriage and what is going wrong now.

I do hope you find the answer, and good luck!!!

Answer 7

Try to look nice and sexy for him. You and he have probably both changed. The stress can take a toll on a relationship. Maybe a good vacation away from home and all the worries would help. Keeping the romance in a relationship takes work.

Answer 8

very good question....it happened to me quite a few time..and my wife also asked me same question...then I said or we realize..what is what...as you said the fights and quarrels between me and my wife ...then we have an understanding..instead of fighting... just try what was the problem? how to prevent the mistakes and misunderstandings..etc....it was not easy...but we have tried very hard and the first thing what we understood was LACKing of UNDERSTANDING of each other and in between we even forget to love...when we started to realize these...and we started our lives from a new beginning ...and the past 14 years we are happily married with two great boys..hope you can also try these..all the best.

Answer 9

Have you ever heard of the Madonna/Whore complex? Check it out. I was with a guy for quite a while that exhibited this same behavior. He would act like I was being unreasonable, but the relationship was too new and fresh to be not having sex.

Answer 10

When not married, man fears losing the opportunity so he goes for it frequently. When married, he has no fear of losing the opportunity so he saves energy by diminishing the frequency. Now you are his wife, you have full right to get sexual satisfaction from your husband. Be with him and he will realize your wish.

Answer 11

Try to romance him, cook a meal either dim lights or have scented candles around, dress as though you are at a restaurant. Have a scented bath with lots of bath oil to reach the senses. Try massage when in bed, all these things help stimulate.
You have to work at relationships, BOTH OF YOU.