Okay so some needed some clarification. When I met my husband he said he was in the middle of a divorce. We dated and I tried to leave several times stating that I did not think it was right until everything was finalized. He would harass me and beg me to come back. Later I found out that he was lying the whole time and was still married, but by that time I was already pregnant (it was his idea, not mine). Anyhow, now I am finding that he has lied about so much more. He has screwed the whole city, and then some. After I found out that he was married the whole time I cried, every single day that I was pregnant. I am not that kind of person. Anyhow he got divorced, and we got married but I did it for my daughter, I have trouble trusting someone who lied and cheated on me during the 1st year and a half of our relationship. I know some will say I was stupid, but he came up with lies I thought no human could tell, about his father on his death bed, and so on. Please help.
2007-08-08 18:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I had a full on relationship and we were engaged. He spent 5 nights a week with me, and we would vacation together, sorry but I had no reason to think that he was lying, until everything blew up in my face. He lied in ways that that I believed no person could lie. I am serious, I would never say that my father was having a bypass surgery to get out of something but he did and he was so clever. Don't be so smug it may have happened to you, and you just don't know it!
2007-08-08 18:28:04 · update #1
Please don't take this as attack but you have assumed no responsibility for where you are right now. Yes he is a liar and a cheat but you knew that before you got married. Even if it was his idea to have kids, if you weren't ready then that wasn't something you had to do. You're right most folks wouldn't lie about a father on his death bed but is there a reason you didn't go by to visit his dad if he was that close to death and you were engaged. You tell us that you only got married for your daughter but why expose her to a liar and a cheater that happens to be her father. Do better now for you and her. Either straighten out your marriage or stand up on your own two feet and take care of the situation.
2007-08-08 18:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take control of your life. You stayed with him even though you believed it was wrong, you had a child cause he wanted to and you married him cause you thought it was best for your child. When are you going to make decisions that are right for you? I may sound harsh but you need a wake up call. You are married to a liar and a cheat. You will never feel content while you are allowing him to guide your life. Instead of finding excuses for staying look for ways to make a break. Save your money and keep it where he won't find it. Then take yourself and your child somewhere you can have a life you feel proud of.
2007-08-08 18:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two selfish idiots deserve each other.
You don't respect any other woman on the planet enough to honor her marriage, and he will bang anything in a skirt while he is married to someone else.
Plus - getting pregnant is just the man's idea?
What are you - 9?
You need help all right - but you won't be getting it here because we can't prescribe psychotropic drugs.
2007-08-08 18:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Knowing he was a liar, a cheater, a dog, a control freak who impregnated you against your wishes, you "got married but I did it for my daughter"...
What kind of daddy is he gonna be? And what kind of home are you really giving her?
Grow up. Get divorced. He still has financial responsibility for your daughter, he always will. Start being a mother, and an adult, rather than a doormat.
2007-08-08 18:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by SC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welcome to my world. i know exactly how you feel. only difference is that we werent married, but we stayed together long enough for us to be legally. anyways i stayed with the father of my children for 11 yrs. 10 and a half of it miserable. i kept staying for the wrong reasons till one day i got fed up and couldnt allow my children to watch this any longer and grow up thinking this was okay. i bit the bullet as hard as it was to swallow, but i kept my head up and told his trick @ss to kick rocks. i left him and feel so much more relieved i did it. it wasnt easy. its been almost a year now. sure i still think about him. i get lonely but i keep my head up and keep on marching. especially with the support of people here on Yahoo Answers to help me keep my head in the right direction. this guy is not likey going to change. i advise you to get out before much more time is invested into this and people really get hurt. i am a witness to it all. he can still be a father even if you two arent together. let him go. this is not all life has to offer!
2007-08-08 18:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can i just say i feel really sorry you and your daughter that you just married a p-r-i-c-k and a liar you should leave him and it won't be easy you need to think of the environment your raising your daughter in it not healthy do you want her to be raised in your husband web of lies.
2007-08-08 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by wombats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are talking about what has already happen get out of the past what is the concern today? so what he did what he felt he had to do to get you now you are together why are you spending time and energy on how you got to this point how about tomorrow? what's up for tomorrow? who is he today not who he was yesterday.
2007-08-08 18:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a full-on relationship with someone for a year..and had NO idea they were married?PLEASE!
2007-08-08 18:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce him.
2007-08-08 18:32:45 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave now
2007-08-08 18:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by SLOMO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋