Has anyone ever dated then married someone who wasn't your type initially. I have heard of some that said that they weren't attracted to their mate initially and the person ended up being exactly what they were looking for and they are very happy. Has that ever happened to any of you?
2007-08-08 22:23:45 · 7 answers · asked by Fireanddesir 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that is very typical of most situations. Both sexes have a "higher" standard when describing their type of mate only to learn later that they are more compatible with someone totally different. I dated my type and always found they were high maintenance, obnoxious etc.
I married a man who is the total opposite of that type and even has many different likes and dislikes than me.We have a great marriage and have helped open each other up to new things that we probably wouldn't have given thought to otherwise. But to this day if my friends and I are talking about celebrities or guys we think are good looking or seem cool, none of them have any characterisitics similar to my husband.
Fantasy and reality work much better when they remain just that.
2007-08-08 23:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by grateful living 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be attracted to and have things in common with your significant other. If you don't feel that chemistry in the beginning it usually doesn't develop. Sexual problems is one of the number one reasons for divorce down the road... and those usually stem from the other person not being your "type" from the beginning.
I married my long-time boyfriend 10 yrs after we started dating. Deep down I always knew that something was missing but he was such a great "friend" and sweet person that I thought he was too good to let go of. Welp, it didn't last. I was tired of being with someone who I didn't want to have sex with. We were both not happy. We should have just remained friends.
2007-08-08 22:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Haulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is "your type"? Since people are constantly changing, this also is constantly changing. Sometimes you think of what is "your type" and it's really just a fantasy. Perhaps there isn't any "type". Life is sometimes a "try it" kind of thing.
2007-08-08 22:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why to return to somebody like him? is he enjoying video games? he shouldnt had married, he could of wait and notice what became gonna happen, so why could you're taking him back? is his lost no longer yours
2016-12-11 14:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my ex hubby..he was a pompous @ss so full of himself i was young only 19 he kept saying, "your gonna be my wife." Eventaully i gave in to his persistance..12 yrs & two kids later we went our seperate ways due to not having anything in common but we are still good friends..
2007-08-08 22:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Charmer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thier feelings has developed to each other.
2007-08-08 22:32:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jay & Gigi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my Mom, she thought my Dad was an arrogant jerk when she first met him
2007-08-08 22:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋