I have been with my partner for 3 years. Most of the time we get on really well but since we have been together we have constantly had money problems. I left a really good job in the city I was living in to be with him. Since I moved to be with him I havent been able to secure a permanent job for two years, my salary through temp work is lower and job prospects not as good as other places. He has a permanent job which pays ok, but I am still the main earner by a long way and each month there is more pressure on me to make money and provide. I find myself resenting him as I have not been able to secure permament work but still having to provide for both of us. He refuses to move somewhere else and I feel frustrated by his lack of support and lack of drive to secure better employment. The strain of not knowing if we can pay our bills each month really gets to me, and part of me just wants to go it alone, so I'm not having to provide for someone else. What would you do?
2007-08-08 23:01:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its a hard world we live in,you make choices that are not always right!? You sound more extrovert,he more laid back?
You wish for a career with good secure prospects and are stress due to the lack of money that is not coming in .
In my opinion the most impotent thing is people,so please talk together and stress to your partner how unhappy you are in this present situation and try to come to a long term solution if this is not possable then you will have to leave as your health will be seriously be on the downside and we only live once ! Best of wishes to you both for an agreeable out come.
2007-08-08 23:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very annoyed. I hate money troubles. If I couldn't find a job somewhere I would probably look in other towns (like you're thinking about doing). You moved there for him, why is he so stuck on staying in that city? If I were you, I would tell him how stressful this is for you, maybe even show him this so he can read what you wrote. You shouldn't have to have a crappy job that you don't enjoy, especially when you know you're capable of having a good one! Remember he's not the only fish in the sea ;) maybe you're supposed to move on & there will be one more willing to make YOU happy.
2007-08-08 23:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose we all have money problems from time to time. When we have financial problems in our house (5 kids 3 his, 2 mine) my husbands first response is to get a part time job. He makes 6 figures, but with child support, daily life, irresponsible ex wife, things happen all of the time that just suck us dry. I always try to keep a side job, my primary job is straight commission in mortgages, right now the market is crazy and I picked up a business development consulting job. There are always ways to pick up more money. I think your primary problem seems to be your partners lack of moral fiber, respect for you as a woman and as a couple. This is a much bigger issue than a lack of funds.
2007-08-09 00:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be both Sjharring exspensess and Helping each other out.
If you cant help each other out then its not much of a relationship.
If thats what he wants to do then ;let him go. Buy the sounds of things he wont chage.
Move on, you will find some one who will support you or help support you each.other.
2007-08-08 23:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jim Bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what he do to his money? you must talk to him regarding this matter, if you can't convince him, well better if i were you, i will pack up my things and move back to where i am. And if he really loves me he will do everything for us.. think that girl.. good luck
2007-08-08 23:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by pink_blossom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him this letter, and if u guys caint work it out, move on, even if it is hard
2007-08-08 23:07:55 · answer #6 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋