For almost 12yrs,I totally neglected him because I concentrated on helping my family.Aside from that,I was to proud to do what it pleases me because whenever we had a fight,he will always be the one to make amends with me? I always tell him that if you don't want me,you are free to go?
Unknowingly,he is already hurting that I treated him so badly and leave him for 3yrs?But God knows that I love him so much.Despite of my shortcomings,I've been a faithful wife to him.Please help me?
2007-08-08 18:55:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I asked him maybe you find someone else and maybe you are just making an excuse to leave me and he said No.But what if someone tells me that he's seeing someone else right now,and thats his mother itself.She didnt tell me that my husband told her but it's what you called mother's instinct. I even told him to please forgive me and I'm willing to change and make amends just to save the marriage. And he said i'm not just sure if it will work and he's not sure if he's still love me.Do i still have to go and gamble and ask him straight if he still wants me? I really wants him to tell me if he's really falling out of love with me.Do you think,i still have the right to fight for our marriage?I'm afraid he wouldn't accept me anymore but i want to take the risks,at least I tried.I really don't know what to do?Do you think it's too late for me?
2007-08-08 20:20:46 · update #1
faithful in what aspect darlin??? that you havent cheated on him??? seems to me that your loyalty was not to your husband at all, but to your family. a medium, half way, with all included, would have been the way to handle it and all involved would have been happy. but you chose to shut out your husband and now its taken a major toll on your relationship, and your husband. you have not shown him that you love him like your portraying here. what is evident is neglect. let him go, you really dont care anyways. he feels it and knows it, and its more that likely too late, way too late, to repair this now anyhow. regardless, i wish you the best.
2007-08-08 19:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been trying hard to be a good wife , stay by his side , going through all the problem with him , trying to get his attention , and I'm still trying now . But why u did all those things to ur hb ? Even U love him so much , but what have u done ? Is that a love ? is that the way to tell him how much u love him ?
Don't u have any respect for him ? He's a man , he has his pride . U're so lucky u can have that kind of hb , but u don't know how to appreciate him .
Say sorry sincerely to him and do by action , just make sure that he won't slip away . It would be your loss .
2007-08-08 19:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Wife 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stood by your side for 12 years and you neglected and him how stupid could you be? Did you not see that you had a good man in your home and that would do anything for you even apologize during a fight whether he was right or wrong. I you do not want him then gie him to me. It is hard to find a good man especially a man that would stay by your side through anything. Your marriage should have been your first priority and then your family. Your family does not pay your bills and take care of you in and out the bed and damn sure would not apologize for a fight. Learn to leave your family handle their own affairs and you handle your with your husband becaus if you loved him so much you would have not gave him the opportunity to leave. Love goes both ways and one person can not make a relationship work if the other is not willing or to busy to make sure that they want it to last. If you truly love him go to him and let him know that you made mistakes and you are willing to work on them but you need him to keep you in line and to help you know what is important and how to make the relationship last. As much as you love your family you have a life and you have to let them know that you have your problems to deal with and you can not make a mistake in losing a good man over them. You have to distance yourself you have to stop them from depending on you to do everything and let them learn to do things on their own. I hope you do not make a mistake like that again because if he does come back and you do it again he may not want to work it out. Yo only get one chance do not blow it.
2007-08-08 19:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you stop being selfish and start treating him how you would like to be treated. i feel sorry for him. start putting yourself in his shoes. youd better start healing this relationship if it isnt already too late . good luck and i do really hope you can learn to be a little less self absorbed a little more empathetic. marriage is a partnership. it sucks when its always one sided.
2007-08-08 19:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really do love him as much as you say you do, you would have to throw your self at his mercy and ask forgiveness, and show him that you are completely sorry for everything you have been doing to him and MOST OF ALL SHOW HIM THAT YOU DO LOVE HIM!!!!
2007-08-08 19:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lurch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get into therapy and learn how to be a good partner for your mate.
2007-08-08 19:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you truley love him change seem.s like you drove him to do what he did. in my honest opion?
2007-08-08 19:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋