I just had my vacation last April.My instinct told me that i have to go home and I should as him straight,why did it happen? We've been married for almost 12yrs,so I can't believe that he will just dumped me so easily? Just 2weeks ago,he said that he love me and after 7days,he told me that he can't wait any longer?I'm confused,pls tell me what to do?
2007-08-08 18:35:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a divorce. Your whole world has changed and you have to accept that it is all real. Your husband is not who you thought he was. He is a liar and a cheat and he has totally disrespected you, by committing adultery. Let her have him, he will cheat on her too.
2007-08-08 18:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for what i understand you go home coz you have an instinct that your husband is having an affair,what happen to your talking about the purpose of your vacation,didn't you have doubt on him when you already facing him at first when your home,if you say that he told you he love you and he can't wait you any longer after a days,i think your husband is thinking of Lust didn't he?you too can determine his feeling for you when your with him right?maybe he just missed you that much.He loves you yes,am into it,12years of marriage is my proof,He tell that he cant wait any longer,because he had pass that years already without you and he is man needs to have partner at night,it's only that maybe..so dont be confused on love and lust..just my view..
2007-08-11 02:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by aqoniCgie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell us more did you tell him you found out ?how old is your hubby?how strong was your marriage?who is the other woman call it your enemy,how many kids you have?
anyway you have two strategies to choose between according to your personality,your husband s reasons,your financial stand without your hubby:
1-act like an angel who adores her hubby, to forgive and be the best romantic wife and try to win his heart back ,by knowing your enemy and what attracted him to her and let him feel that the time he spends with your enemy is just a waste
2-get your evidence of his afire and lose the family you tried so much to build,give up your man to another woman
I really can not tell you what to do but i really feel your pain,I your life before his affair is worth it then fight for your right for the sake of your children,PUT ON AN ACT and have a strategy.
BE SURE HE LOVED BEFORE MAY BE STILL IN LOVE BUT YOU NEED TO ATTRACT HIM BACK,just knowing the personality of your husband if he loves attention then be his shadow.if he like his space give it to him with seduction .
2007-08-09 01:59:49 · answer #3 · answered by mony y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yanky,
People do stupid stuff ..... not your fault, If he is tossing away 12 years of steady & trust worthy ... it's his loss.....
Just remember extream times can push folks to extream measures ..... he just wasn't build for the long run ..... it's a weekness alot of folks have.
Be strong, Be safe, Come home..... you get to start over ..... life gives you chances / choices ... make good ones.... keep on keepin on !
2007-08-09 01:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been married 12 years. You were on a vacation without him. Hmmmm..
2007-08-10 18:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what to do, you have figure this one out.
personally I would say good-bye to him.
As far as him loving you, I am sure he does, but he lacks something and it isn't something you can ever give him because if he thought you could he would have got it from you, not some one else.
2007-08-09 01:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋