I know it is -- but as a single woman who is not married yet, I would just like to know what to expect...if I ever do find the right someone to spend the rest of my life with. Please enlighten me - thanks!
2007-08-08 18:45:45 · 13 answers · asked by ~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
meagan c, that wasn't me that answered your question about newlyweds not getting along and requesting dates. for a minute i was like what??? I never remembered answering so I looked at your answers and it's another Y/A user. So -- just wanted to let you know! You've gotten me confused with someone else.
2007-08-10 06:14:36 · update #1
Marriage needs a lot of giving, caring, sharing, tolerance, understanding, unconditional love, forgiveness, patience, kindness, humor, tenderness, selflessness, commitment........
2007-08-08 18:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people go into marriage thinking it's always going to be 50/50. That's so totally false. It's never 50/50. Sometimes you give 90%, and sometimes your partner gives 90%. It's two people who, granted love each other, but really don't know everything about each other. A lot of people change after marriage which really throws the partner for a loop. Personalities, emotions, needs, wants, finances, children, in-laws are all involved. All these things need to be sorted out prior to marriage. A very long engagement is a good way to go so you have a better chance of seeing how things will go after marriage and you can talk things out prior to marriage. I have loved being married. It's a lot of work but it's so worth the challenge. Our kids are raised and successful and we enjoy the grandkids. My husband and I have come full circle. It's so very rewarding to work through and enjoy life with someone by your side.
2007-08-09 02:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage, like anything, you have to work at it. You yourself can only give no more than 50% and you spouse is too put in the other 50%. One person can't carriy the load.
Remember the little things that got you to where you are. Staying in love takes work, alot of it... granted I was married 8.5 years, and at times I wish I could go back and change alot of things, Being married was the greatest things that ever happened to me, and it was the greatest feeling, but just don't forgot the little things, they make up so much in a marriage. Make sure that you make time for each other, rekindle your love weekly, monthly, but make sure you show why he is special.
So, marriage... hard work? NO but it is something that both parties need to work at, but like I said, its the little things that are forgotten that can break a marriage. Take my word on it.. been there!
Correction.. as I read the post below... if you can carry a marriage all by yourself... than why do you need anyone?? A marriage is a 100% 50 from you 50 from him... combined to give you that 100% if your spouse is only showing you 10%, than something or someone else has got his other 40% all I am trying to say.. it will take both of you wanting, working and keeping it together... one person can't do 75% 90% or 100%, it is two persons..
2007-08-09 02:08:29 · answer #3 · answered by Cracker J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hard work because there are always differences to get past and accept. its important to live with the person for atleast 3 years before getting married. can you say that hes the best friend youve ever had? are you both a team. are you compatable mentally and physically? living with the person will definately tell you if the relationship has staying power. the true test is can the relationship survive through crisises? really think before doing the whole marriage thing. the divorce rate is so high. be positive. and when you decide then its up to you.
2007-08-09 01:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by solas lethe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living together is the most difficult part to tell you the truth. You replied to my question about "newlyweds not getting along" yesterday. My husband was born on December 1, 1980 and I am June 14, 1985. Those are the dates you asked for :)
2007-08-09 20:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is hard about marriage.
If you married the wrong person, it will never be worth it, no matter how you rationalize it.....
Just take many years to get to know someone before you get married, but not by living with them though.... And if there's family conflict, then it will create more problems...
Get pre-marital counseling before you get married.....Then keep an open mind about marriage. Treat the marriage with respect and marry someone who thinks the same and all will be well..
2007-08-09 01:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that marriage is a hard work. I have no idea what others mean by that. Things are way easier when you are married/ I was just bored most of the time, that's all.
2007-08-09 02:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is work ! you have to give a little and take a little in a marriage ! and keep the communication open at all times and respect each other and have trust in each other too
2007-08-09 01:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay single, it's too easy to learn to hate someone when you get married.
2007-08-09 01:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by mikebnchprss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,you basically give up your life to share it with another.its not just what you say goes,you have to compromise,with everything,money,family...all that stuff,instead of doing things to make you happy,you will be doing it for him,vice-versa.
2007-08-09 01:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by sleepy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋