If you knew your husband was inlove with someone else...?

Question

And you made him promise not to talk to her...would this be enough for you(the two of them not communicating)or would you want a divorce?


Nothing's happened between them but you're sure there's feelings there.So you told him to stop communicating withher..you don't even want him mentioning her..He oblige..but would this resolve it for you?

Answer 1

it happend to me before.. but guys always wnt what they cant have. i guess its better than nothing tho.

Answer 2

Resolve it no, because he emotionally cheated.. so i dont think i would divorce him at this point but he'd have ALOT of proving to do to show that this will not happen again and that it was just a temporary moment of weakness. So it would take me along time to get over it, eventually though after so much time has passed and he's proven that he can be trusted again, u have to allow him to have ur faith and trust so u cant hold it over his head forever, but id definately have a problem for a year or so over it.. and if he cant understand your sudden insecurity, and self protectiveness, then he isnt genuinely sorry cause he did come very close to breaching ur marriage to a unrepairable level, this wasnt just some stupid petty screw up, this was almost totally life altering.. so he will have to understand that he just broke all ur trust and has to pay the consequences of being patient and showing that he can be trusted and that he will be faithful.

Answer 3

He stopped just like that... and you believe him?!!

He hasn't stopped anything, he has just gotten more crafty about it.

It would not resolve it for me. I think you should have a long truthful conversation with your husband and find out why he feels the need for this other woman.

Then ask him, if he is prepared to support two households, yours and the one he finally lands in. Because she won't want him without any money, and neither should you.
Peace

Answer 4

Not for me. He has no business talking to another woman that way. He is totally disrespecting you. How can you trust him now? I would be finding out exactly what he is doing when he is not with you. I would want a divorce. You say involved with another woman, well what else do you need? Dump him and let him have her. She can have the lying cheating toad. He will cheat on her too.

Answer 5

yo, this sounds like a similar situation i put myself in stupidly! if this is his first offense i say give him another chance because you are married. normally i try to advise women to kick the man to the curb first offense or not cause we really need to start sending a message that cheating in whatever form is not okay, but you have a marriage and i feel you should try to keep it if at all possible. if you dont trust him anymore, i say start the divorce proceedings. not trusting is a horrible way to be in a realtionship. i know..........
making him promise wont change anything either. if he wants to do it again he will, but if your love is stronger than that you dont have to make him do anything. he already knows this.

Answer 6

Only you can know if this will be resolved or not. Have you forgiven him? If not then you either need to and move on in your relationship or not forgive and break it off.

If there are kids, then you should definitely work it out.

Work on your relationship. Funny thing about love is that you chose to love. Your husband can love you again as much as this other girl. Just have to work at it.

Answer 7

I would be very uncomfortable knowing that my husband was in love with someone else. I would suggest going to a marriage counselor, by yourself at first. A counselor would be better equipped to help you with your situation. They may suggest having a session or two with your husband so that you can speak together. If the counseling sessions end up badly, then I would suggest starting a discussion about getting a divorce.

Answer 8

If you tell him to do that then you are only going to push him away. Allow him to do what he wants, if after a short time you find it to be true that he is with someone else THEN you should get a divorce. Give him a chance to be trustworthy.

I as a guy feels that is fair.

Answer 9

Well, I'm glad you're giving your marriage another chance, but remember not to do it blindly. If he is no longer cheating (even if he wasn't having sex), he should have no problem with providing you with the reassurances you need to rebuild trust including cell phone bills, passwords etc.
Just keep your eyes open and eventually you will be able to rebuild your trust if things go well.
Good luck to you!

Answer 10

I don't think so because his already emotionally involve with her even if there's no physical going on between them. Emotional is stronger that physical, and even if he promise that he will not contact her anymore,it will change him,his mood will change because he is missing to talk or hear her voice, this is what happened to my husband when he fell for this married woman that he met on a dating site. He never cared if she's also married, all he wants is to be with her,listen to her voice and talk to her every single minute that he can find,................it will be bad...

Answer 11

were all weak. some people get caught up in things they shouldnt. he really needs to make a choice at this point. i think youll get your answer. even though he may not have done anythingphysical, he still may be having anemotional affair. thats still just as bad. either nip this in the bud and forgive him or tell him to get lost if he cant let it go. never play second fiddle to anyone.