Marriage & Divorce - 8 August 2007

People say that you have to put "work" in the relationship in order for it to work. What kind of "work"? Is this type of work TIME consuming? Can this "work" be balanced? I see my brother doing ALL the work in his marriage (which makes me REALLY MAD), but he seems happy (doesn't he realize SHE is controlling him?).

2007-08-08 12:04:20 · 8 answers · asked by yomera 2

Why or why not?

2007-08-08 11:54:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

my daughter is leaving the man she left her husband for to go back to her husband. I told her i would support any thing she wanted.How do i support her and stay out of it at the same time.

2007-08-08 11:46:43 · 22 answers · asked by furby_lost 5

She won't change the bills over into her name. My name is on the account, so I am responsible. I live 1000 miles from her and my kids, and she won't let me speak to them on the phone or let them answer when I call. I cannot afford legal help.

2007-08-08 11:43:50 · 9 answers · asked by Kim B 2

Last month I asked my husband for a divorce. He was spending all our week-ends on overnight fishing trips, making frivolous spending decisions without consulting me, and walking around with irritable mood swings. After 1 year of trying, reading books, therapy, etc. I realized that it takes 2 people to be in a marriage. I gave him the ultimatum before and he would straighten out for a while, but then want to do whatever he wanted to go again with no regard for me. When I confronted him about his mood swings the last time, he shrugged his shoulders and said "what mood swings." He is suppossed to take medication, but does so when he wants. I am exhausted in this relationship, and wanted out. He agreed with no fight, yet now that the papers are here for him to sign he is trying to make me feel guilty that it is my fault. What makes a 47 year old man think that he can have his cake and eat it too? Can someone help me understand this behavior?

2007-08-08 11:32:17 · 37 answers · asked by Maria M 2

Meaning...non-custodial parents are penalized if they don't pay child support or fall behind (garnished pay check, tax return, possibly new spouse's income garnished, jail time, etc...). While it seems like custodial parents can deny the other parent of seeing the child or control their visitation time with the child and not really be penalized for it...unless the non-custodial parent has the time and money to prove to the court that they aren't being allowed visitation.
It just seems like more measures are taken to assure that child support is paid over visitation rights.

2007-08-08 11:22:55 · 9 answers · asked by Nikki 2

Can a wife abuse her husband???

2007-08-08 11:17:21 · 14 answers · asked by G S 1

Ok...so i am happily married, but I fantasize about having an affair...i am HAPPY..really, but sometimes i wonder what it would be like to sleep w/ someone else (my husband is my one and only) or i fantisize about a 3some but w/ another girl not 2 guys...is this normal...i'm just not sure if other woman feel this way and what i can do about it to help me to stop thinking about it...i would NEVER actually cheat, but i do think about it! Please help!

2007-08-08 11:05:38 · 20 answers · asked by seriouslytaken23 1

my closest sister is getting married...
her fiance is very nice but at the same time he's manipulative (like her), annyoing, has no trust, bi polar, and he's very competitive, and he wants her to spend all her time with him... i mean she his kinda like him. he's really cool as a person but not as a husband. But i know he's not abusive hes got no addictiona and is very religious.
I'm having emotional problems and i feel like i shouldn't talk to her (since i've told her what hes like in our view) i feel mad at her for no reason and when she's around i get gloomy and feel depressed im the youngest and she's like a second mom to me. I dont know wat to do! HELP! and she only spends like 15 hours in total a week

2007-08-08 11:04:51 · 6 answers · asked by loud_grape 2

Right now I feel VERY depressed!
I am married, but lonely.
I am in college, but school doesnt start for a couple of weeks, and lately I have not been in the mood for school. I feel like I need a break!
My husband is in the US Air force. Even though we make just enough money to pay the bills every month....it is just not enough. We really want to buy a house, and we really want to have a baby soon. If I continue college I will have my bachelor degree in around two years...maybe a little longer, maybe a little less?
Anyway....I dont know what to do anymore. Im sick of how my life is going because I cant do anything that I want to do, and I wont be able to until at least a few more years, and I just cant wait that long.
I have always liked the idea of joining the airforce , and it is starting to sound even more great.......Ive talked to people, and chances are..I would be based with my husband?

So, what do you think?

2007-08-08 10:59:35 · 8 answers · asked by Nicole S 1

2007-08-08 10:55:00 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-08 10:54:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know this is stupid but i think it should be mandatory for people have to wait at least 6 months and LIVING TOGETHER before they can get married! Maybe i am wrong for saying this! But divorce is the highest it has ever been! Does any one value marriage anymore isn't marriage sacred anymore? So many people taking vows and cheating and other things! My thoughts on stripe joints and marriage another story! HA!

2007-08-08 10:48:49 · 20 answers · asked by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5

me and my(16) and my gf(14) have been plnning 2 marry 4 a long time, and jus found out we need parental consent. r there ne loopholes in the system so we dont need it? even if we have 2 move? cus were already planning on moving.

2007-08-08 10:46:31 · 6 answers · asked by vampirewolf5453 2

2007-08-08 10:31:53 · 23 answers · asked by K W 1

My husband's best friend, also my best friend's husband, hit on me the other day. He has talked about wanting to sleep with me and everything. In fact the other day when he was here to pick up the lawnmower he even went so far as using my one year old son to try and pull my shirt down. Well, after that I told my husband and he blamed me and told me if I wanted him to stop I needed to tell him to stop. So, I did. Then, just a few minutes ago he called. And now my husband is out of town at A.T. with the National Guard. And while he was on the phone he said he couldn't get hold of his honey so he thought he would call his other honey. I just dunno what to do!! I want my husband to know that he's still doing it, but our marriage is rocky already and I don't want to ruin it. Also, my friend deserves to know what a pig she married, but what if she just blows it off or gets mad at me like my husband did. I don't have many friends so I really don't want to lose her or him!!

2007-08-08 10:31:49 · 30 answers · asked by ? 2

I am married to a kenyan man who believes that the wife should take care of the house and children, and he should work. Right now I am not working and he is on the road at a week at a time. I can count on my one hand how many times he has done the dishes or even vacumed. Is this something that all african men believe or do you think it's something that he just believes.

2007-08-08 10:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will keep this short. I am married to a quiet guy who hates conflict. So if I bring up something that needs to be discussed he acts like I am looking for a fight and avoids talking about it. That builds up tension in me, and then we both end up ignoring each other. This goes on and on.
He has said that I am the problem, and I feel that if we can't talk about things then he is the problem.
I love him but don't know what to do.
Should I go get some counceling, or just continue to live my own life, living in the same house as him? I feel like he is a roomate most of the time.
We have been married 2 yrs. both on our 2nd marriage.

2007-08-08 10:16:55 · 11 answers · asked by Ellyn 5

husbands? Well....we all made a conscious choice to marry them didn't we? We choose who we marry. So didn't we bring some of these problems on ourselves? Did we not take enough time to really get to know them? Did we settle because we were afraid to be alone? And...Yes....husbands change but few turn into Mr. Hyde once you say I Do. Sometimes I think women forget this fundamental fact.

What cha think?

2007-08-08 10:03:55 · 18 answers · asked by Lakin J 3

My husband has never hit me.
We are OK financially.
He has always been very quiet and serious.
He is a binge alcoholic, I don't provoke him about it.
He says he loves me, but he is very unaffectionate.
He stiffens up when I show him affection such as a hug.
He is a light sleeper who prefers to slleep alone.
He is not compassionate when I've been sick/
He hates funny movies and tv shows and rarely smiles.
When we were dating, he was loving and passionate.
He is very clean and nice looking.
He thinks I am spoiled and do not pull my weight. I think I do.
We've been married nearly 5 years with lots of emotional ups and downs.
He does not believe in counselling or therapy.
He will be very very hard to deal with in a divorce situation.
I am just wondering if I will be better or worse of if I go on my own. I know I will not be well off financially and might have to live very simply.
Please, for those of you who have divorced, have any of you wished you had stayed???

2007-08-08 10:03:39 · 11 answers · asked by Lean on Me 4

A little awhile ago, I'm at work and my I get this phone call from a guy friend and for while now maybe 8 months him and I have been flirting back and forth with eachother and today he calls my office asking me if I missed him and said yes and he said I miss you to and that he wanted to see me. Here's the big problem my husband has a big jealous issuue with guys talking to me and well I've beening trying to deal with a problem with my husband for quite some time and he doesn't really give me the attention I need anymore, we barely have sex it went from every other day to once a week and I already know that if I were to be alone with my guy I would sleep with but I need advice should I or shouldn't I?

2007-08-08 09:55:15 · 55 answers · asked by charm816 1

I am estranged from my adult daughter and I do not want her suddenly appearing if I am incapacitated and making health decisions for me or involving herself in my assets. I want her to have no rights whatsoever where I am concerned.

I know its sad but I need to prepare for this possibility.

Thanks

2007-08-08 09:55:13 · 11 answers · asked by Command003 2

2007-08-08 09:45:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am thinking about what decision to make regarding myself and my 15 year old daughter. She is staying with me and my parents currently.

Her Dad has sole physical and legal custody of her. We are trying to decide whether to get back together or if she should stay with me - change custody arrangements.

My parents have their own opinion of the situation and think that I will be "blamed for everything" and "not have the freedom that I should" if I get back together with my ex-husband.

They think that I should keep my daughter with me and stay with them.

I think that its my marriage to reconcile or not. I don't know how to deal with their strong opinions and opposition though.

I want to take my daughter's feelings into account. She is not that comfortable living with them and definitely wants us to move out and I agree with her.

I have to deal with a strong influence from my parents or ex-husband.

2007-08-08 09:41:25 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

my wife wants to swing with a guy i work with.
i'm willing to try swinging with her but i'd rather it be with someone we don't know, what should i do?
i have asked him and he likes the idea too so i know he will

2007-08-08 09:39:00 · 25 answers · asked by texas some somthin 1

I've been married 17 years and honestly I am getting really bored. I posted a question a few days ago about how I was fantasizing about having a "big" man, like in the adult movies.

Well, I've been thinking about this and I wonder if I should propose a three way with my husband and another guy. He is a pretty cool guy, and I think he might be ok with this. I'm sure he would be better with this than with me doing somethign with a stranger one on one.

I know that if he agreed he would want to do one with another woman in return. I'm ok with that. like I said I'm bored! Even though the idea of being with a woman does nothign for me.

So, girls, seriously, have you actually done this? In my mind, it seems like it would be really fun, but I'm worried it will be a let down. If youve done it what was it like?

2007-08-08 09:27:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

bring your child, is that grounds for her to ask you were you and her relationship is going if that has not been established.

2007-08-08 09:26:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-08 09:23:43 · 37 answers · asked by wendywoo 1

Can people be truly happy after they have been married for a long time? Does marriage really work nowadays?

2007-08-08 09:18:37 · 28 answers · asked by yomera 2

But he is 44 years old and he knew exactly what he was doing..Does GOD ever punish or pay back people that purposely hurt other's..is there such things as CARMA or that dosen't exist..the bible says you reap what you sow..is there any truth? If I knew GOD would punish him I would feel better and hopefully since he was a big fat liar he didn't give me STD's because I am fearful of what I will do to him..I am divorced and he said he was divorced but he was married and probabaly was playing around...I would have never known.. he was so good and very wealthy, that helped him even more to make lies seem so true..

2007-08-08 08:54:11 · 17 answers · asked by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3