Kind of a dumb question but oh well!?

Question

I know this is stupid but i think it should be mandatory for people have to wait at least 6 months and LIVING TOGETHER before they can get married! Maybe i am wrong for saying this! But divorce is the highest it has ever been! Does any one value marriage anymore isn't marriage sacred anymore? So many people taking vows and cheating and other things! My thoughts on stripe joints and marriage another story! HA!

I agree with what the bible says but you think people should get married and then live together??? The divorce rate would be higher then ever!

Also fyi! I was married for four years! My ex husband was in military and whenever he was state side about to go over seas he cheated on me! BEEN THERE DONE THAT!

You people who think people should be married and then live together you are all crazy! Have you ever been married? Ever lived with another person? Why don't we just go back to the olden days when woman had husbands set up for them at birth YA RIGHT!

Me and my ex husband did not live together before we were married! We got married and moved in together and in the next couple years we were not the people we thought we were! Living together versus not living together is to separate things! You learn so many things living with someone! If you can learn to deal with certain things how can you even get married!

That was suppose to say cant OPPS!

Answer 1

hmmm... I agree... but more importantly people need to be taught morals lol if that is possible. Some people are just that heartless that they think nothing of sexing someone else while married... being unhappy in your marriage does not mean you have a license to cheat!!! I mean come on! Whatever happened to communication? The majority of the people on here who have problems need to simply communicate. The problem I see is that people can say easily to perfect strangers with ease that which is damn near impossible for them to say to their spouse. its madness I swear.

But counseling, and there should be a course on how to communicate. Most often there is one spouse, male or female, who is just selfish and not understanding... that causes a lot of problems too. And peoples unwillingness to discuss sexual needs and preferences. UGH If I read another question about how to spice up a marriage... what the hell did you do before things went sour? Start it back up... be open with your spouse... and if people werent so damn sensitive... men getting upset cause their mattress dance SUCKS, women feeling like their husband is going to cheat if he tells her he doesnt like this, or wishes she would try that...

My fiance told me something I did wasnt doing it for him, I didnt get all offended, hell I wanted him to tell me I wanna please him and dont wanna mess it up. When you want to please your spouse, you will. In EVERY sense, not just sexually... and that is the problem. People are getting married, and either dont know their spouse, or as they grow and change and develope, they arent payin freakin attention. Its a huge problem and we all need to just pay more attention and be willing to work to make our marriages work.

ps: all the sensitive folks on here will attack you. Those are likely the ones who have horrible marriages too...

Answer 2

Of course marriage is sacred still, to those that hold it sacred. Here is a statistic you should look up, find out among which population the divorce rate is highest, those that lived together before marriage or those that waited and didn't live together until after marriage.

Living together will ONLY work if you are with the right guy, in which case it does not matter if you live together or not so you shouldn't. If you are with the wrong guy living together will be one of the biggest mistakes you will ever make, he will get comfortable with the sex and you will be lulled into a FALSE sense of security.

Wait for the right guy, with the same morals and values. Get the opinion of people you trust who are not emotionally involved so you get an objective opinion. That is the right way to find a husband and is the best chance of it surviving in a world where there are no guarantees.

Answer 3

I don't think living together for 6 months will make any difference. There are many couples that live together for years before getting married.....and still end up getting divorced. Some people just don't want to put the effort into keeping a marriage healthy and stable.

Answer 4

Actually, living together prior to marriage raises the likelihood of getting divorced. Check the statistics.


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Maybe someone thought I was wrong on the stats; here's one source of many I've found:
"One study that you may find interesting was done by Bennett, Blan, and Bloom....The point made by the authors is that, overall, the risk of divorce after living together is 80% higher than the risk of divorce after not living together, which is already too high. In other words, those who live together before marriage are almost twice as likely to divorce than those who did not live together. But they also point out that the risk of divorce is even higher if you don't live together more than three years prior to marriage. The longer you live together prior to marriage, the less the risk of divorce until after 8 years of living together, when the risk of divorce is equal to those who have not lived together."

Answer 5

No, totally wrong. One of the reasons the divorce rate IS so high is couples who had shacked up, get married, then divorce. The rate for those who live together before marriage is MUCH higher than for those who don't.
Better to have the commitment of marriage, and discover everything about each other TOGETHER.

Answer 6

I think that people should not live together before marriage, especially if they are having sex. According to the Bible that's called fornication. I do think that people should have to get a provisional marriage license first, and be required to undergo so many hours of marriage counseling before getting married. Once they have successfully completed the marriage counseling and provided they are still together and happy after the probationary period, then they should be allowed a permanent license. I too believe that way too many people take marriage too lightly, and I have noticed from recent statistics that divorce rates are very high.

Answer 7

unfortunately that doesn't matter I've been with my husband for 16 years 8 years married and we are a pinky finger away from divorce because of adultery on his part I've been faithful for 16 years but that isn't good enough people just don't have values and morals anymore. vowels dint mean anything. i think that in the part when the minister says do you until death do you part should be taken out because no one believes in it anymore and that's SAD.

Answer 8

I totally agree with what you are saying. I don't know what the world is coming to these days. Whatever it is, it is entirely unacceptable. People, on the other hand are different after all. So, there are some couples still caring about how their marriage will be or how it will end up.

Answer 9

I agree. It does help for many people. I lived with my husband for seven months before we were married (this was the engagement period December 24 through July 4th) only because our routines were very different and I had to get used to his routine.

However... I did not get to REALLY KNOW my husband until AFTER we were married for a year. When two people are dating, they put on airs about each other. After they are married, those airs are dropped and they act like themselves. Sometimes their real selves are not likable.

You don't really know each other until after you're married. My mom told me this, but I didn't believe her (she did not object to me living with my fiance).

Answer 10

I heard the divorce rate was down lol but oh well...
You can't force people to give up there morals. But I have to say that I'm glad I lived with my husband first, that way we were sure that we would get along.