If you have been married for more than 4 yrs, do you recommend marriage?

Question

Can people be truly happy after they have been married for a long time? Does marriage really work nowadays?

Answer 1

Marriage still works and yes it is still fulfilling after 10 years. It is not marriage that fails it is the people who fail at it. There are many aspects of marriage that make it work or not and self sacrifice is part of it.

it seems to me many people thing love is like a fairytail and should be easy and fluffy and all wonderful. that is a fairytail.

People spend more time selecting a house or a car than they do a bf/gf/spouse and they settle for what the dig up.

My best recommendation is be picky and select based on character not solely on money, looks, or sex. To do this sounds easy but it requires you know what you are looking for and have self respect while at the same time you need to be a giving person to add to the relationship. (not so easy)

Anything you do adds to the relationship or takes away from it. Many people today are takers and in time it always fails.

Answer 2

Although I am divorced, I still think that marriage is a good thing and can work, provided people don't rush into it and do it for the right reasons.
Besides, marriage is not a prison; it's just making the world know that you have make a choice for life. Well, when it works.
I can't say that I will not get divorce again, but if I do get married, I'd try my best to make sure it's for the last time.

Answer 3

That is a good question. My hubby and I have been married for over 5 years now. I love being married. I recommend it for those who are serious about their relationship. For those who are ready to commit and be with that person for the rest of their life. It is sad how so many people these days are taking marriage lightly, almost as a joke or publicity stunt. To get the attention they feel they deserve. Marriage only works if you work at it and are serious. Marriage is hard work, but really worth it if you are truely in love. It was the best decision I have ever made.

Answer 4

Married for 5 1/2 years. I love being married. We married when I was 19 and people said it wouldn't last past one year.
Well, we're still going strong, even with two kids.
The main determining factor in whether a marriage works or not is the couple. Some people are meant to be and some aren't. Marriage is good, but (and as much as it hurts me to say it) it doesn't have to be forever. No point in spending your life with someone you ended up hating after all!

Answer 5

I haven't been married for many years, but I strongly recommend marriage. The happiest years of my life were the married ones. Marriage isn't old-fashioned, it is the ultimate proof of love and commitment. I wasn't married for long, but I strongly believe based on my experience, that people can truly be happy after a long time.

Answer 6

Married over 12 years and I still don't see the point to it. Its the relationship that matters. After all its the relationship that keep the marriage going strong.

Answer 7

I have been married for 21 years, and I recommend it wholeheartedly! Of course it can work "nowadays" -- why not? Marriage has never been easy, despite what people seem to think. If you go into soberly and both members of the couple are emotionally mature, responsible, love one another, share similar values, and fully understand and appreciate the meaning of commitment, then it can and does indeed work.

Answer 8

Hello.... that's an interesting question!

I've been married 20 years this past July! Marriage is like any other serious relationship... it requires committment, dedication and loyalty... as well as love. You have to WANT to make it happen and stay together. Marriage is only as strong as you make it.

I think there are some people who shouldn't marry. Me, I need my wife in my life. She is truly my other half.

Don't know if I've answered you're question... :)

Best of luck

Answer 9

Yes but I only recommend it if you are both willing to work hard to make it work. Marriage is not easy and should not be entered into lightly. I have been married 12 years and it is hard at times but we are very happy

Answer 10

My husband and I are in our six year of marriage and it just keeps getting better. Sure, there have been some rough spots. There was a year to a year and a half that we were nothing more than roommates who shared a bed. We were essentially just living together. It didn't help that I was going through "stuff" and we just didn't know how to relate to each other. Through our stubbornness, our faith in God, and through God's grace (I've no doubt that friends prayed for us) that we came back together stronger and closer than ever. Not only is our emotional relationship/friendship better, but we've been blessed with a baby whom we finally get to meet next month. However, we said "'Til death do us part" (well, not the exact phrase, we used something different, but that's the essence of it. For us, divorce was NOT an option.

Sure, we still have problems some of them we're still working out, but the key phrase is that we're working them out. That's what matters. God is continuing to bless us. Not bad for "faith of a mustard seed".

I have more of a sense of self, a stronger image of who I am, than what I did even seven years ago, when we were "dating". In our first couple of years of marriage, I saw an interview with Gloria Steinen (sp?). She said that she hadn't wanted to get married because she didn' want to lose her independence, her sense of self. I'm still independent. Sure, I do little things like phone my husband if I'm even going to the grocery store, so he knows where I am and how long I might be gone, but that's love and respect.

Yes, things just get better.