my daughter is leaving the man she left her husband for to go back to her husband. I told her i would support any thing she wanted.How do i support her and stay out of it at the same time.
2007-08-08 11:46:43 · 22 answers · asked by furby_lost 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
by just being there for her and listening. do not push your wishes on her, let her learn from her choices with your "gentle" advice.☺
2007-08-08 12:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by gone fishing! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you could handle this...I would be very disappointed in my daughter for messing up so many lives, especially if she has kids...I mean, to go back and forth between men while the kids have to deal with that stuff....
You can't really support her, I mean, just stay out of it. Don't get inbetween anyone. You can let your daughter know that you feel she's doing the right thing by "fill in the blank" and then beyond that, don't say anything. When the subject comes up, tell her "I can't talk about this without giving you my opinion, and you might not want my opinion, because I might not actually approve of your actions/"
You can love someone and care about them and want to spend time with them and still not like the decisions they are making...when the touchy subjects come up, steer away.
2007-08-08 18:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is her life, but I think you should tell her how you fell about what she is doing, even if you do not agree with the decision she is making. You can tell her that you do not agree with her actions and still support her. Part of supporting her is to guide her and give her your view point. We all make mistakes in our lives and as parents, we should at the very least let our children know our opinion of their decisions. They may not like our opinion or follow our advice, but they will know how you feel.
Good luck and I hope all goes well.
2007-08-08 18:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by blue81696 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you and your daughter are both a bit confused. You can check with a family affairs consultant and advise your daughter to do the same before making another mistake.
2007-08-08 18:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nader Ali 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To support her means that you are going to help her,it doesn't men that you are going to make all of her decisions.That said you have to realize that you cannot stay out of it.You are already part of it.I suggest that you maintain a low profile and give advice only when asked .
2007-08-08 19:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a big mistake by promising her that you would support anything she wanted. As a parent you should not offer yourself to support 'anything'. It would be better for you not to take a position and let her lead her own life.
2007-08-08 19:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably the marriage will not work this time, especially if the husband knows she left him for another man. You can just "be there" for her - she will most likely be coming home to you. Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-08 18:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her - listen to her when she wants to chat - dont force it as she will keep a lot from you. Try and not judge her, or be quick to judge as this will invovle you into the situation, try to take a step back and see things from that way.
2007-08-08 18:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she makes stupid choices, stupid things will happen (and she shouldn't be surprised when they do).
Do NOT offer her any financial support. If she's big enough to jump around like that, she's big enough to support herself.
Do things to enrich YOUR life and try not to worry over what she's digging herself into.
2007-08-08 18:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by ☺ . CIEL . ☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listening to her is the biggest thing, without telling her what to do. You already gave her the biggest support by telling her what you did.
2007-08-08 18:50:08 · answer #10 · answered by WE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly that.
Dont say, do anything, or mention it unless she tells you about it. Then support her decisions and help her with her relationship (she needs it). Give her the best (kind) advice you can.
2007-08-08 18:56:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋