how do i deal with it?

Question

my closest sister is getting married...
her fiance is very nice but at the same time he's manipulative (like her), annyoing, has no trust, bi polar, and he's very competitive, and he wants her to spend all her time with him... i mean she his kinda like him. he's really cool as a person but not as a husband. But i know he's not abusive hes got no addictiona and is very religious.
I'm having emotional problems and i feel like i shouldn't talk to her (since i've told her what hes like in our view) i feel mad at her for no reason and when she's around i get gloomy and feel depressed im the youngest and she's like a second mom to me. I dont know wat to do! HELP! and she only spends like 15 hours in total a week

Answer 1

If she already knows your opinion regarding how you feel about him and still chooses to be with him, then you need to let it go. You can choose to get over it as much as possible to try to be in her life, or you can move on.
She is a grown woman and needs to make her own life for herself, but that doesn't mean you don't still have a place in it. You just have to choose to accept the way things are.

I am sure it is very hard to see a sister end up with someone you don't really care for..but if she already knows how you feel then you can't really do anything else but try to accept the way things are now.

Answer 2

if you have already expressed your feelings, let it go. imagine how you would feel if everytime you saw your friend/sister/mother they kept telling you the SAME thing over and over or moping and acting bratty. your sister is entitled to live her own life and make her own mistakes. i'm sure that you have done things that didn't meet everyone's approval. your sister will either love her husband forever or end up divorced. either way, it's her decision to make. you should be there to listen and support her. it's not like she's marrying a pedophile or killer.

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Answer 3

You are just jealous she won't be spending time with you as before.
You can't reject her just because you don't like her fiance. If that is the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with, then don't waste your time.

Answer 4

The best thing is to try to develop other friendships. Push yourself to go places where you could meet other people. It won't be easy, but it will be worth the effort.

Answer 5

Do you not have a mom? I ask, cuz, I sense an unnatural possessiveness to your sis.

Answer 6

get a grip loco