But he is 44 years old and he knew exactly what he was doing..Does GOD ever punish or pay back people that purposely hurt other's..is there such things as CARMA or that dosen't exist..the bible says you reap what you sow..is there any truth? If I knew GOD would punish him I would feel better and hopefully since he was a big fat liar he didn't give me STD's because I am fearful of what I will do to him..I am divorced and he said he was divorced but he was married and probabaly was playing around...I would have never known.. he was so good and very wealthy, that helped him even more to make lies seem so true..
2007-08-08 08:54:11 · 17 answers · asked by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's possible to forgive but first you have to work through the anger. Focus on yourself, not on him. The universe will take care of him, it is not your job to even up the score.
Get counseling, it can help you heal.
2007-08-08 08:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First , God doesn't punish or pay back anybody for hurting someone. God isn't a "Hit Man" just because you claim to be a Christian. The problem is YOU believed a lie. Jesus said to forgive , to forgive is an act of your will not someting you just feel like doing.The only way to to ever get past this is to forgive who ever hurt you.To be a Christian is to be like Jesus and He forgave the whole world. What you need to do is read the Bible and find out who your Heavenly Father really is and see that He really does care about you. He allowed this to happen to you because He loves you enough to have given you the will to choose., and this is what you have chosen. God can and will heal your life only if you allow Him to , He will only move in your life if you allow Him to come into yours. And as far as the existence of Carma, I don't know about Carma but I do know about Jesus and that's who you need to go to with a repentant heart.
2007-08-08 09:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Edit My Profile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I believe you reap what you sow. Don't focus on that though. The whole point of forgiveness is letting go. Don't spend the rest of your life angry. That's crazy. In order to be free and enjoy your life you are going to have to hand this over to God. The bible says by whatever measure you choose to judge that's how you will be judged. So when I am angry and need to forgive I just pray to have a forgiving heart and I tell God that I know he is good and just and can handle the situation. I choose to be forgiving trusting that God will do the same for me. My life is so much more peaceful since learning this simple truth.
2007-08-08 09:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all.....congratulations for even trying to tackle forgiving an intentional deception. Second, we are human. Keep up with the praying....God hears you. Jesus repeatedly instructed us to pray for our enemies. As for punishment, let God handle that. He is the supreme Judge and that simply isn't our department. We all have done things that we will have to answer for. Take heart that his hurting you isn't something that you will have to face ...... he will. Draw closer to our Lord and he will heal this hurt. Finally, give yourself time to work through this to the point where you can reflect on this situation and see what you could have done differently. Not that another lying is your fault, but there may be little red flags you can identify that will help you in the future. God bless you and keep you always. One way I try and handle pain/hurt is to acknowledge that God loves me beyond my understanding and that everything that comes my way has been filtered by Him for the purpose of His glory and my ultimate greater good.
2007-08-08 09:29:50 · answer #4 · answered by Terri B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Taking some responsibility for your actions is one way to start the healing and forgiving process. You know realistically, going into any relationship that it may not work out. That they may be the worst human being ever. Regardless of what others do to us, its our sole responsibility to keep it from happening no matter what. Though they sometimes slip through our radar...I believe Karma takes care of those.
Like my abusive X...had a total nasty outlook concerning women. But he met a woman that already had two girls, then she go PG and had twin girls....hehehehe. So he's got 5!!!! women living in his home (formerly our home-I gave up everything to get away). How sweet it is!!!!
2007-08-08 09:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...if you're a "Christian" you might want to think about having sex before marriage. You can justify your actions all you want but The Bible states very clearly, as christians, we're not supposed to have premarital relations. YOU reap what you sow, don't worry about other people's punishment. If you are truly a Christian this is between you and God. Don't be concerned with the guy or what punishments will come to him because it shouldn't be a factor in you forgiving him and moving on.
2007-08-08 09:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh yes I do believe there is such a thing as karma and I do believe that god punishes ppl when they do wrong . so dont worry about it because he will get his in the long run . But remember get a social next time and check them out . there is an old saying that my mom told me . Here goes: When in doubt ,check them out . it still rings true these days .good luck dear .
2007-08-08 09:00:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you are really hurt and do need to forgive. You need to hand this all over to god. It also says in the bible and eye for an eye. But, you are just as much in the wrong for wanting god to hurt. The old saying is what comes around goes around...Feel sorry for his wife and pray for her.
2007-08-08 09:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok you got it. My husbands Uncle has had stage 4 lung cancer caused from asbestos for about 5 years now. It has came back about 3 times. He is still here simply because of the grace of God. Keep praying and praying. Of course it is always God's will, but God does hear our prayers. I also pray that you and your Mother make up before either of you leave this earth for peace for the other person left. God bless you!
2016-05-17 07:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't go wrong when you choose to forgive. If God can forgive you for your sins, he can forgive your recent companion too. He may have done you a favor. How does it go?..........it's easier for a camel to pass through the eye of the needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven? Oh sure....wealth can get him easy gullible women here on Earth..............but in the end they aren't of much value. Concern yourself with your soul first. Then consider trying to help this man into heaven rather than condemning him to hell
2007-08-08 09:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋