Women only, please!?

Question

I've been married 17 years and honestly I am getting really bored. I posted a question a few days ago about how I was fantasizing about having a "big" man, like in the adult movies.

Well, I've been thinking about this and I wonder if I should propose a three way with my husband and another guy. He is a pretty cool guy, and I think he might be ok with this. I'm sure he would be better with this than with me doing somethign with a stranger one on one.

I know that if he agreed he would want to do one with another woman in return. I'm ok with that. like I said I'm bored! Even though the idea of being with a woman does nothign for me.

So, girls, seriously, have you actually done this? In my mind, it seems like it would be really fun, but I'm worried it will be a let down. If youve done it what was it like?

Answer 1

My husband & I have done this occasionally. One night we were talking about our fantasies and I told him I had always wanted to try it so we did and I loved it. It is very enjoyable. When we have 3somes it is only sex. There is a difference when we are alone.

Not every relationship can handle it. If this is something you are sure you want to try than talk to him about it and let him know what you are thinking.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 2

honestly, i dont think its a good idea. ive talk to my bf about this and he simply told me, "i dont want a guy or a girl, only you. because i only love you and i dont want to share you with any other guy, having another girl is not a good idea because honey how would you feel if i tend to enjoy spending more time with her instead of you afterwards?"
you should be proud that you made it 17 years other people dont even make it that far and havent gotten there yet!! why share a very special bond youve made with your man for 17 years with another stranger?! the adult movies isnt real remember that, its done only to get $$
if you love your man and respect him alot, im pretty sure you wouldnt want to share yourself with someone else and your lover with another girl.. sex isnt the only excitement within your marriage life think about something else that can be romantic.. be creative..
if you still think the marriage is too bored and wants to have a three way, better to divorce because marriage vow isnt between 3 people its only for a couple meaning 2 people only. the marriage will never be special and be the same after a 3 way..
just hope you two dont have any kids, because thats really sad and ill be so ashamed if my parent did that!!!

Answer 3

Why women only?!?

My wife and I, who have been married for 21 years, are currently in the process of getting a guy for her to have sex with while I watch. The problem with men is that they don't really want to have sex with each other, so that's why I'm saying I'm going to watch -- in all likelihood, it'll turn into a his turn/my turn situation, not a true threesome. My wife and I have had a threesome with a woman before, a few years ago, and that was fantastically fun. They did have sex with each other and with me.

I say go for it. It could really be a lot of fun for both of you, and I really think that bringing it up as an activity you can share is much preferable to you sneaking and getting some behind his back.

Later edit: Responding to what some other people have said --

deny: "Fantasy beats reality hands down."

Happy-2: No it doesn't. That threesome with the woman I mentioned above was extremely fun. On the rare occasions I have mentioned it to anyone else, I like to say, "You know how good you imagine a threesome would be? Well, it's even better!"

extremegurl: "The marriage will never be special and be the same after a 3 way."

Happy-2: Well, that certainly hasn't been true for my wife and me. We knew what we wanted, got it, enjoyed it, and felt completely good and stable in our relationship afterward. That threesome was like 8 years ago, and we're still happily married, in some ways more happily than ever, although not specifically *because* of the threesome.

Various people: "It leads to cheating."

Happy-2: Not for us. Again, though, you have to treat these encounters seriously from within the context of the marriage. Discuss it beforehand, set rules with which you're both comfortable, and then follow through with the rules. People seem to assume that when a married couple brings in a third person that one or both of them want to have a relationship with the new person. Doing that would be a mistake. If you go into it knowing you want sex and only sex, and that the only relationship that really matters is your relationship with your spouse, you get to enjoy a very exciting experience and it does not lead to cheating.

Answer 4

You might want to start with a few "toys" first, simulate it before actually trying it, who knows YOU may not like it. IF you are that bored and are thinking of doing something else you need to talk to him. What will the next thing be though when you are "bored" with the three way. Gang bang?? Then what adult movie star?? I am not trying to be funny but at some point you have to face the fact that some things in life get that way and sooner or later you will want what you had back and won't be able to get it.

Answer 5

Thats one way to open a can of problems. Once you actually do it and go along with your FANTASY. It gets complicated thus there will be blame later on.

For example, your husband might think that you were more into the other guy and later on bring it up if you have an argument.

I would not suggest that unless you are ready for a divorce.

Answer 6

knew a couple at work. She approached another male work colleague with the same idea. Long story short. Condom broke she got pregnant & had an abortion & wound up with herpes. The male at work also bragged around the company about the 3some. No surprise the marriage broke up. Oh yes they had a child who now does not have a father. Hi price to pay for a sexual fantasy that should have stayed just a fantasy.

I suppose my view is once you have made the commitment to marry then you have made the commitment to manogomy. 3somes should stay with singles.

Answer 7

Let's say...from experience....Yaeger Bomb's are not the way to start...and my husband and I just had a similar conversation the other night about life just seeming to not be exciting anymore....it's almost like "what's the point?" "Where's the excitement? " of course, he was all about the different sexual experiences we've encountered...and I was thinking about snorkeling. We've agreed to go snorkeling - at least the fish won't leave us with a STD or another child (not that it ever has but still, it's just not a high point the next day) ....we still have a ton of fun the bedroom...there's nothing melted candle wax won't excite.....just don't use good sheets....it's a bi**h to remove. :o)

Answer 8

So seriously girl if your going to bang a man with a big penis don't do it in front of your hubby i know this from experience, your hubby will see all the enjoyment you get from the guy laying that big pipe and things will never be the same he (your hubby) will feel inferior and may have erectile, and premature ejaculation problems with you after you do this.. I say do this discreetly besides the thought of getting caught makes it very exciting.

Answer 9

Is it worth losing your marriage over? Not that it WILL but it COULD lead to some unforseen drama and heart ache! Not to mention opening the door for cheating on both of your halves!

Answer 10

wow thats kinda ballsy isnt it?..sounds like a diffucult call to make..17 yrs is a long time though..im sure it'll seem fine @ first-what about in the long run??!..maybe u should take a minute to think of that & then move forward..good luck..