My husband has never hit me.
We are OK financially.
He has always been very quiet and serious.
He is a binge alcoholic, I don't provoke him about it.
He says he loves me, but he is very unaffectionate.
He stiffens up when I show him affection such as a hug.
He is a light sleeper who prefers to slleep alone.
He is not compassionate when I've been sick/
He hates funny movies and tv shows and rarely smiles.
When we were dating, he was loving and passionate.
He is very clean and nice looking.
He thinks I am spoiled and do not pull my weight. I think I do.
We've been married nearly 5 years with lots of emotional ups and downs.
He does not believe in counselling or therapy.
He will be very very hard to deal with in a divorce situation.
I am just wondering if I will be better or worse of if I go on my own. I know I will not be well off financially and might have to live very simply.
Please, for those of you who have divorced, have any of you wished you had stayed???
2007-08-08 10:03:39 · 11 answers · asked by Lean on Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PS We don't have children.
2007-08-08 10:16:51 · update #1
i am sure you will get lots of different answers, advise and etc...but ultimately i think you should figure out what you want from your marriage? how much of what is going on can you take? how long? why? do you even love him anymore? it is possible you are getting sick of him and only see the negative behaviors, where as before you were more in love and didn't notice all that bothers you now.
i think if he is alcoholic, he will get worse...again, i think it is completely your personal decision, you have to figure it out...
if you don't have kids, it should;t be that hard.
good luck with whatever decision you make...
2007-08-08 10:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by naz n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it sounds like his feeling for you have changed, and yours for him. Let him know you are unhappy and see what he says. If he doesn't want to talk about it let him know that you are considering divorce and that counseling might be helpful. If all fails, go find your true soul mate.
I had to leave a bad marrage and suffered financially for it but I am glad I did. It was hard for a few years and then I balanced it out.
Definitely worth it.
2007-08-08 10:32:12 · answer #2 · answered by delfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to this is what will things look like 10 years from now if you do A and what will it look like if you don't. Step back and look. If there are no children, it will be obvious. Don't let fear of the future color your view from the future. It is obvious that what is going on now will be what is going on ten years from. Some people won't or can't change. And money never made anyone happy, it just makes living easier. In my case, I stayed too long. Good luck.
2007-08-08 10:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 11:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A difficult divorce now will give you time to get back on your feet and find someone who will treat you affectionately. Otherwise you're just looking at a difficult divorce later when you may be too depressed to care to meet someone new.
2007-08-08 10:15:54 · answer #5 · answered by Saphira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad I got a divorce... 5 years later and I'm glad more and more every day!!!
2007-08-08 10:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is poison to your well being.
He's ok to be your friend, but not a life partner.
Please leave him and find your soul mate.
2007-08-09 14:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, whats the problem?
Wait..he needs to sleep in th same bed...
2007-08-08 10:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only bad enough when you say it is bad enough.
As far as regretting a divorce....never.
2007-08-08 10:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not very happy and it will only get worse if he doesn't want help.
you need someone who respects you
and can show you love.
otherwise you will be very unhappy
justmeandcaring@yahoo.com
2007-08-08 10:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by justmeandcaring 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋