my wife wants to swing with a guy i work with.
i'm willing to try swinging with her but i'd rather it be with someone we don't know, what should i do?
i have asked him and he likes the idea too so i know he will
2007-08-08 09:39:00 · 25 answers · asked by texas some somthin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whoa... this sounds like your wife might not be sexually satisfied with you. If she was, she would not be thinking about having sex with someone else AT ALL. I feel as though fantasizing is one thing and acting is for sure another! If I were you, I would get more creative in bed. Try some vibrating toys and use them on her, try public sex... etc. I get the feeling that you are uncomfortable with her wanting to get railed by anyone else who is not you so why do it? The whole point of marriage is to share your life with that one person who you love and cherish, not to freakin' share! That's your wife! Whether you swing with your co- worker or a stranger, believe me, it will bother you and your marriage will not last. This week you will swing and the next you will catch her "swinging" without you on your own bed. Trust me, you don't want to open that door of opportunity for her. If she is even considering this, there are more underlying issues with the marriage and maybe a weekend getaway might help to reunite you both.
2007-08-08 09:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Thelma H 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
knew a couple at work. She approached another male work colleague with the same idea. Long story short. Condom broke she got pregnant & had an abortion & wound up with herpes. The male at work also bragged around the company about the 3some. No surprise the marriage broke up. Oh yes they had a child who now does not have a father. Hi price to pay for a sexual fantasy that should have stayed just a fantasy.
I suppose my view is once you have made the commitment to marry then you have made the commitment to manogomy. 3somes should stay with singles.
2007-08-08 10:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by boot_laces 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if she decides that she likes the person that you guys swing with better than you? I would think more about that than if it is someone that I know or not. Personally I don't understand why people want to do that in the first place, but whatever. And if you don't want it to be him why have you asked him about it already...
2007-08-08 09:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by lilprincess029 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really willing to let your wife sleep with another man. If my husband came home and told me he wanted to swing, i would feel betrayed.Marriage these days are taken to lightly. If it's sex that's the problem, try some new positions or something. I think you really need to talk to your wife and see what the true story is.If you are OK with this, the only good reason to do it with someone that you know, is there background. Like Diseases. Think about it, before you screw up your marriage.
2007-08-08 09:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by melissa g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont do anything that you ar enot comfortable with and if you dont like the idea of swinging with a friend, you should just be honest with your wife and tell her. Explore other ways of finding people to swing with- websites, magazines etc- and enjoy!!
2007-08-08 09:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do it with someone you know. I'm no expert, but why would you even tell your friend anything about you and your wifes sex life. Don't be suprised if they end up together. If you want to be a freak with your wife, you should probably keep that between you, her and someone you don't have to see everyday.
2007-08-08 09:44:47 · answer #6 · answered by Brian M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think swinging in general will cause problems in a relationship, if for nothing else worry about inadequacy or not being as good as another person. This would probably be especially true if it's someone you know.
2007-08-08 09:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by B Mils 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Threesomes cause trouble, imagine he does something to her that makes her enjoy him more than you or she does something to him which she likes his reaction more than yours. They'll want to do it more and maybe not with you around.
I almost had a threesome with my ex girlfriend and her friend ( 2asians ). My ex and I were doing it on her bedroom floor quietly while her friend was sleeping in her bed. Her friend woke up and asked if she could join and I said no in 2sec. In my mind it was clear if I say yes something weird will happen.
Either I'll make her friend moan more than her, her friend will make me moan more than she could do. Her friend will pay more attention to me than her. Without noticing I pay more attention to her friend than my ex. All that went through my mind in those 2secs. Finally after a while my ex and I talk about it and she would have want to do it so much and she would have want me to pay more attention to her because she would have payed more attention to her because it had been a while seen her friend didn't have fun in her sex life and she knew we would have made a great job.
If they were only both my friends, I would have said yes in 0.5seconde but not when one of them is my girlfriend.
2007-08-08 10:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Grifter Cash 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never do it with someone you know on a personal level. It's tricky at best. Make sure you both know what your really getting into, cuz someone usually gets hurt or feels left out.
2007-08-08 09:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by lingling 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Single/Solo guys in the lifestyle are trouble, I would avoid it. Swinging isn't for everyone, but if you do decide to try it stick to couples.....at least at first.
2007-08-08 13:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by Rasta 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋