Ok...so i am happily married, but I fantasize about having an affair...i am HAPPY..really, but sometimes i wonder what it would be like to sleep w/ someone else (my husband is my one and only) or i fantisize about a 3some but w/ another girl not 2 guys...is this normal...i'm just not sure if other woman feel this way and what i can do about it to help me to stop thinking about it...i would NEVER actually cheat, but i do think about it! Please help!
2007-08-08 11:05:38 · 20 answers · asked by seriouslytaken23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO i dont think of them during sex, no i dont look at porn, and i was raised to go to church and thinking things like this wasnt good...thats why i ask if its normal...
2007-08-08 11:26:36 · update #1
It's totally normal, relax. Everyone has fantasies, everyone wonders, and everyone thinks about these things.
2007-08-08 11:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its completely normal. So you have an active fantasy life. Good for you. The trouble starts when you begin to ACT on the fantasy..... Its a classic "grass is greener" kind of moment.
Maybe you could suggest to your hubby that he dress up like someone else (a new look for him) and then you plan to meet at a bar / resurant and he can "pick you up". Then have drinks/dinner and finish off with dessert at a local hotel.
Sounds hot and steamy and could satisfy your curiousity for something "different" than what you have. Tell him how hot it would make you to so this - he's not likely to say no.
2007-08-08 18:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by aa889d 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal and when the time is right you should bring it up before hubby and see what he thinks. I think he would esp. go with the two women one man, but, some guys love to see their wife being taken by another. It is a big turn on. Good luck!
2007-08-08 18:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, and see if it can be made into a kind of fun.
Ask your husband to play a game and have him dress up meet at a different location for an 'affair.'
I've heard about couple having all sort of games like this.
2007-08-08 21:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by DRD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy!........... time to dich the cathlic guilt and be who you are... every person on earth thinks about sex, and other people who put off a sexual energy draw our attention... the key is to have a stong bond with our mate that that energy has little pull which it sounds like you have..... play with it , your hubby has the same thoughts trust me!... might not admit them since thoase are scary things, but if you both can get to a level of acceptance and love the other person for the hnesty your relationship will be at a whole new levle...
very very normal...enjoy!
2007-08-08 18:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Joel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A form of "unintentional" cheating of the heart?
One day that grass might look a whole lot greener ~ deal with the fantasy now, before it becomes a nightmare ~
2007-08-08 18:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is absolutely normal to fantasize, but my opinion is you should keep it only at that if you want to keep your marriage. Once you actually bring other people into your relationship, you can be opening a Pandora's Box of problems.
2007-08-08 18:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is very healthy! But when you act upon it is when you should worry! Otherwise its perfectly fine! Sometimes it is also to keep your thoughts to yourself too! I mean when it comes to your husband to not cause jealousy issues! Good luck!
2007-08-08 18:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of three beautiful kids. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's a normal reaction for somebody to wonder what else is out there, what something different might feel like....don't feel bad about it you haven't done anything wrong and it's perfectly normal.
2007-08-08 18:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by Cupcakes Moosey! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with fantasies...we all have them...Have you shared them with your husband? It may turn him on as well.....but seriously leave these fantasies just that. Taking them to the next level can harm your marriage.
2007-08-08 18:10:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋