2007-08-08 10:31:53 · 23 answers · asked by K W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heck no. Because to me seperated or not, marriage is still a legal relationship. Even if the the couple doesn't feel the romantical feelings for each other anymore. I just couldn't do something like that. Besides that, I would be wondering why in the world he hasn't gotten the divorce yet in the first place. Actually not even dating the guy I would wonder why someone wouldn't get a divorce if they are seperated. I mean I guess there are the kids to consider but they aren't all that better off, cause one way or the other one of the parents is still not in the home and they do go and visit them. So unless the couple is holding out hope on getting back together I see no point of seperation. But back to your question, after finding out he is only seperated after we have dated for so many months or something and he has lied about it, then yea I would still drop his behind like a bad habit.
2007-08-08 10:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take into consideration why they're seperated. Is it b/c he has a history of cheating on his wife?? Or did she cheat?Did they just grow apart? Why did he/she finally leave and how? Are there children involved? How long have they been seperated? Also realize that if he still has feelings for his wife he could be using you to hurt her b/c he feels rejected. Has the wife moved on too? Does he find any little reason to communicate with her? Have you caught him in a lie or suspect he's lied to you about seeing or having contact with his WIFE (she's not an EX until the papers are signed)?
2007-08-08 17:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by breezy_j_tx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't live with him until he's divorced, but dating is fine. As long as you are comfortable in the situation, because you know sometimes married people are only dating to make the other spouse jealous. If you are sure they do not want to be together, then sure, and make sure after the six months of them being separated, he files for divorce. This will give you some assurance that he is truly over the marriage.
2007-08-08 17:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by Janice Dickinsons' Shrink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been known for people to get back together when they are separated and not divorced so if you think there is a possibility that will happen, keep your own place and just stay over occasionally. Not so much commitment.
2007-08-08 17:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lean on Me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband moved out a month ago & has been seeing a woman pretty much from the start. What she doesn't know is that he is now cheating on her with ME! Separated men are confused men who want to keep their options open. There is a reason why he's not divorced...he can't bear to end it with his wife.
2007-08-08 23:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Still Married Woman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know because I have a friend who did that, and she really enjoyed being with the guy but the reason that he was only separated was because he was afraid of ending the relationship and eventually went back to his wife. It's a tough call.
2007-08-08 17:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that depends... do you want a serious relationship or just a sexual thing because married men who fool around always end up back with their wives or not good for being with just one person obviously, but you are your own decision maker. If you want to be played yes stay with him if not then have fun til he says good bye
2007-08-08 17:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't date a guy who was still legally married. Plus, he's a jerk for doing it anyway - he should be waiting a year after he's divorced, just to get his own head together.
2007-08-08 18:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have done that, and their were kids involved. i married him, and we are very much in love, almost always happy, however...he has kids. 3 girls that hate my guts because in their eyes, i stole their dad. he was not legally divorced, and it has caused nothing but problems for the past 7 years. they are the only problem we have, but they are a HUGE problem! i would never do it again. i love my husband, but looking back, i would have waited until everything was final and legal.
2007-08-08 18:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married but separated now but I don't date seriously...I want to wait until I am divorced 100% but as long as he has filed his papers and the divorce will happen than it should be okay...as long as you know he isn't lying to you about anything...
2007-08-08 17:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋