I'm thinking about cheating on my husband.?

Question

A little awhile ago, I'm at work and my I get this phone call from a guy friend and for while now maybe 8 months him and I have been flirting back and forth with eachother and today he calls my office asking me if I missed him and said yes and he said I miss you to and that he wanted to see me. Here's the big problem my husband has a big jealous issuue with guys talking to me and well I've beening trying to deal with a problem with my husband for quite some time and he doesn't really give me the attention I need anymore, we barely have sex it went from every other day to once a week and I already know that if I were to be alone with my guy I would sleep with but I need advice should I or shouldn't I?

Answer 1

sure if you want to go to hell.

Answer 2

IF YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT CHEATING--DON'T DO IT. What's the real problem in your marriage? Have you ever asked where your husband's insecurity comes form? How long did it take you to decided I need the attention of another man? Do you remeber the part of your wedding vows that said "..forsaking ALL other?"adding a third party(sex on the side) won't solve the problem in your marriage it will create a new one. Did you know contemplating on cheating is 50% of cheating? ATTENTION:you have already messed up! [phone sex is sex] Just because your sex life has slowed doesn't mean the romance has died. Get intimate in other non-physical ways with your husband. If you have tried everything to get your marriage back on track and nothing has worked, go to court and end it properly. Get counceling after the divorce, FALL IN LOVE WITH yourself all over again, enjoy being single by spending time with yourself for at least 6 months and then start checking out new men. When you meet someone new BECOME FRIENDS WITH THE GUY FIRST! PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT YOU LIKE AND DON'T LIKE ABOUT HIM. You need to REALLY KNOW what you want in a companion. It's apparent you realized your current husband is "who-he-is" and not the man you told yourself he was when you said I do. You also know that you didn't mean all of the vows you said to each other. That's why you've been on the phone flirting and thinking nothing was wrong with it.. other than that your insecure husband would freak if he found out. CHECK YOURSELF BEFORE YOU WRECK YOURSELF.

Answer 3

I've been down this road. Don't go there. You will trade temporary enjoyment for a lifetime of misery and heartache. I could go on and on about all the reasons you shouldn't do it, but the truth is, YOU ALREADY KNOW!! What you want is some kind of justification for doing it. Sweetheart, there is none. There is a reason adultery is forbidden!!! Not just because it's a sin, but because it destroys lives!!! Those who know that truth don't need reminding. Others have faith in God's law and are much happier people for it. Work on your faith AND on your marraige.

Please don't do it. Reconcile with your husband and tell your boyfriend that you cannot have an affair. You are a better person than that. Your husband deserves better, even if he's not perfect. Neither your husband nor your marraige are perfect, but he's YOUR husband and it is YOUR marraige. Your boyfriend has no respect for your husband and no respect for your marraige.

None of us who have been married can say that every single day has been bliss. Marraige is sometimes hard and sometimes not so much fun, but to throw it away for someone who has made NO committment to you, has made NO sacrifices for you, has not offered you a single thing except a role in the hay, is foolish, selfish, and just plain wrong. Your husband has pledged you his life! Give him some credit, even if you aren't getting along. You already know all this, I know. You're looking for an excuse to have sex with a guy who will never give you what your husband has already. No matter what anyone says, IT IS NOT WORTH IT.....


Be a good person.

Answer 4

Now a days you people take marriage so lightly the first time every thing isn't hunky dory you want to sleep around ..I feel sorry for your husband ..You should always try to talk to your spouse when things aren't good on the home front ... tell him your not happy,that he isnt giving you the attention you need give the poor guy a chance at his marriage.. he cant read your mind..and he sure cant fix anything if he doesn't know what it is...seems to me he has a reason to be jealous ..this has been going on for 8 mths..then you want to get on here and make him the bad guy when it's you who is wrong in this marriage..he deserves better than you..your husband isn't the big problem you are because of your lack of honesty.

Answer 5

If you meant your vows when you got married then NO you should not even be thinking about talking to this guy as you both know where it is leading. Are you surprised that your husband is insecure and having jealousy issues? He would have to be a total idiot to not have figured out that something isn't right. Don't be surprised either if some of you co-workers haven't given him the heads up on that. If you are going to sleep with the other guy, then at least give your husband the respect he deserves and tell him up front that you want a divorce. To do otherwise is just being a skenk.

Answer 6

If your husband is the type of guy who you can't have an adult conversation with for what ever reason that you can't tell him that you're not feeling wanted or attractive then maybe, before you go there you should ask him if he wants to separate. Because I don't know your situation and just how jealous and angry your husband can get I would suggest that you don't rock the boat before cleaning it out first. Otherwise, if he's gull able and doesn't have a clue or even cares where you are from day to day then I say " try it" Being miserable without peace of mind will only drive you to deep state of depression.

Answer 7

Of course you SHOULD NOT! Think back to why you married your husband in the first place. You can rekindle that fire. Your husband will go to hell and back for you if you show him some attention. How much are you bitching and moaning about your life? How much do you watch TV or read a book or talk to your girlfriends rather than focus on your husband? All of that turns men off. Change your mood. Act like you are the happiest woman in the world and that your husband is responsible for that happieness--even if he isn't. Meet him at the door in something sexy. Fix him special meals. Call him at odd times and whisper sexy thoughts in his ear. Tell him to go take it easy on the couch while you take the trash out for him. This all sounds stupid, I'm sure, but you will see him transform back into a man who cannot get enough of you, and he will become the sex machine you once knew.

Answer 8

Are you kidding me??? Absolutely NOT! Close your eyes and imagine for one second what you would feel like if your husband was doing this to you. Hey you never know, he might be! Cheating is never the answer. It always feels nice to be attractive to the other sex and you are getting attention from someone other than your husband which feels good and probably a little sneaky and mysterious but whatever you do, do NOT cross the line. This is not a movie there are real people and real emotions involved here. Not only your husbands but yours too! Women seek affairs to feel an emotional connection and men seek affairs for a physical connection so be careful. Talk to your husband and tell him you are feeling lonely and maybe even a little rejected. You may be suprised to know he may be feeling the same way. Guys are tough but they still have feelings. Please dont cheat

Answer 9

I have no clue why you're even married. I mean, what kind of fickle broad are you that because you get a couple of phone calls from some male friend, you feel you have to create a whole sexual affair with him? Just because you're getting it once a week as opposed to every other day with your hubby? I mean, tell me again--why did you get married?

Whatever. Do the guy if you must. Just be prepared for the consequences, as we all know what they are. There are much more respectible, mature and honorable ways to deal with the sexual riff between you and your husband. There are more self-respective ways to have a friendship with a male you're not married to. You obviously haven't thought clearly enough about this issue because of the sexual haze you're presently caught up in. Let the pink smoke clear, chickie. Once it does, you'll probably be relieved you didn't do something so irrevocably foolish, and ultimately disrespectful and hurtful to your husband and your marriage.

Answer 10

Why did you get married? Whatever that other guy has to offer it will be gone in a flash. Consider this, why is he coming on to you and he knows you're married? Think about that! Because he knows you'd be a quicky who COULD NOT ask for commitment. He's a coward for putting such thoughts into your head and you will just be giving him his 'fling high' if you succumb to his advances. Do you want to be the latest number in his black book? Do you want to sleep with a coward?
Once again, why did you get married? Go back to that time and try to work it out within yourself and then with your husband. As for your husband being jealous, these days and times are treacherous for marriages as you unfortunately are proving. Don't give him reason to hate life and yourself to carry a big guilt chip for the rest of your life.

Answer 11

You're having sex with your husband only once a week and you're using that as the justification for an affair? That's very immature. At least you're still having sex. Some very happily married couples have much less sex than that.
Your approach is very immature. You need to do the following, and in this order.......
1. Decide whether or not you're going to work on your marriage.
2. If you decide to work on your marriage, tell your "friend" it's off, to forget it, and that you're going to work on being happily married.
3. If you decide not to work on your marriage, file for divorce.
4. AFTER you are divorced, and the divorce is final, then take things up with this guy. But he's already wanting to cheat with you, which makes him a cheater. Expect him to cheat on you next, because he will.