well i am a olive or tan complexion. i was always proud of it . my culture prefers peple with really light skin even though they mite not be pretty but just because they are light skin they are considered god sent beautiful creatures. but since gotten arranged married to a man. i always feel from my inlaws side that he is better looking. his cousins are always commenting on how handsome he is or women at work flirt with him. he says all thses things in front of me and my husband, my husband just smiles or laughs like he is sooo happy that women like him at work. now I WANT U TO KNOW I AM PRETTY CUTE MYSELF but when it comes down to it he is fair. so why is his family even mom and dad saying good things about his looks but never said oo we found a perfect daughter in law. my husband doesn't like dark skin either he sometimes makes fun of people from our culture who have dark skin. and i can't get it out of my mind when he makes love to me how can he?? its hurting me inside more....
2007-08-09 11:26:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
his dad said to me one time after i got married to him that oo this lady said ur son looks better than ur daughter in law. he was so happy telling me this. ***** loser i want to cuzz him. i am very loud mouth but now wat happened to me my confidence. i am not happy with my man. if he had a choice i know he would have married a lighter skinned girl its just that his parents prolly forced him to marry me to coem to US. am i ever going to be happy or will i (the person who was so sercure and happy with myself) always feel down because of being with him now????
2007-08-09 11:29:53 · update #1
honey embrace you skin tone, its beautiful! dont let what others say get you down :-)
do you how much i'd give to have a nice tan!
2007-08-12 17:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by mzbizkit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many cultures do this, they have this concept of the "Prince" and they think their men, their young men, are all perfect and his woman should just live and die to serve him. He might be terrific, but just remember, you are too. You are a wonderful, talented, well spoken, thoughtful and caring woman. Believe in yourself and just know that they love their son, nephew, etc. but you are the one who has him every day. But you are the flower, the jewel, and you can take steps every day to be a more and more wonderful woman ... read, learn to cook even better, follow the news, take classes, learn art or music or sewing or dance ... you are terrific and you can do this (and yes, I have been immersed in a culture similar to yours, so yes, I know)
2007-08-09 11:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i've felt that before. some traits filipinos have i can't just stand but i can't hate on em bc i'm filipino too. i may not like how some filipinos are bc i too am white washed and don't act so much like most of them, but i'm still proud of my culture and who i am . its not that i don't get along with filipinos its just that i'd rather not be friends with a bunch of filipinos and filipinos only. its kinda hard to explain but i dont think there anything wrong with you not getting along with them. Just don't be quick to say that you dislike all filipinos bc you may later find some who you can get along with and don't try and "run away" from the fact that you are filipino american. goodluck
2016-05-18 02:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋