Say your in a committed relationship and it just feels kinda lack luster. If you don't have a lot of excitement due to daily trials and tribulations, and every day is just another day. When "I Love You!" seems to be just a sentence he repeats.
Any suggestions?
2007-08-09 12:22:44 · 14 answers · asked by mendnjoe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My god - stop reading too much into every tiny little thing.
Your own feelings of doubt cloud what he does.
Not his fault.
*You* feel lackluster. *You* lack excitement. *You* hear things in what he says.
*You* have the problem of "Well the initial buzz has worn off and we all know about my constant need for entertainment so it must be his fault." Just another day, huh? What do you want him to do - swallow a bowling ball and sh*t marbles for you?
Stop torturing all the men in your life (this is not the first time for you, right?) by blaming them for your unrealistic and quite juvenile needs.
2007-08-09 12:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd arrange a trip or some really fun activity. If you guys have a whole lot of fun and you see that twinkle in his eye again, then he still loves you, he's just been bummed out about the same everyday thing, but if you guys go on some awesome trip or do some awesome activity and he still seems kind of like whatever, then he might not be that into the relationship anymore. Just try somethng new, fun and exciting together, that should help you find out I think. Good Luck to you!
2007-08-09 12:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never truly tell how anyone is really feeling accurately. Everyone is good at putting on a happy face and masking thier true emotions when they want to. Relationships always get to the place you are at, where I love you just flows, the excitement is gone and the routine sets in. This doesnt mean the love is gone. You have to work hard to maintain a happy/healthy relationship. Spice things up, keep things interesting. Set aside the reg routine and go on a date, suprise him, keep him on his toes...there are so many things you can do to bring back that excitement you once felt. Sit down and talk to him. If he truly loves you he will go out of his way to not only show you but tell you that everyday.
2007-08-09 12:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your husband doesn't spend time with you, doesn't want to be around you, won't sleep in the same bed as you, can't tell you that he loves you, WONT HAVE SEX WITH YOU.....He's either cheating or he doesn't love you anymore...
And those are just a few examples...
2007-08-09 12:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is definitely the key to any relationship. Just ask him. He can tell you better than anyone how he feels. But when he tells you how he feels be ready for whatever he may say. You are asking us but I think you already know in your heart where this is headed..... The sooner you ask the better. Don't keep wandering go ahead and ask.
2007-08-09 12:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by browneyez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the dead roses. I think it is time to find someone else. If a relationship gives you no satisfaction then there is no relationship. Don't just hang on to have someone. Start shopping.
2007-08-09 12:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by SgtMoto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can tell when it just feels kinda lack luster. If you don't have a lot of excitement due to daily trials and tribulations, and every day is just another day. When "I Love You!" seems to be just a sentence he repeats.
2007-08-09 12:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while you have to "create" that excitement. Especially if you have many trials and tribulations. If he's telling you constantly that he loves you, he probably does.
2007-08-09 12:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by flacocajuncujo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask him?? That's the only way you are going to find out for sure!!
2007-08-09 12:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he or she tries to run us over with his/her SUV, and chases us down a parking lot with two sharp knifes screaming "I'm going to kill you!!! You stu.. d mother f...er!!!!" , then that person might not love us anymore. That's my rule of thumb ;)
2007-08-09 12:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Frank V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋