Why married people whether man or woman looking for extra marital affair, today?

Question

Though they are having good spouse, still they want another close person in their lives ? why?
Are they looking for love, sex, personal attention or something else?
What you guyes think on this?

Answer 1

Dont get confused, mate.

As simple as that...........its just...........

'VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE'
LOL....hahahahahahahahahahahah

Well on a serious note,
its wrong, i personally feel.
Be faithful to one only.

{I DISAGREE WITH .... dolciy ...HERE, EVEN IF A PERSON GETS GOOD CARE AT HOME...HE OR SHE LOOKS FOR SUCH AFFAIRS, THOUGH I M UNMARRIED BUT I AGREE WITH "INDIAN WOMAN"....IT IS HAPPENING AROUND US. NO DOUBT PEOPLE LOOK HAPPY WHILE WITH THEIR RESPECTIVE FAMILIES BUT AS SOON AS THEY FIND THE OPPORTUNITY, THEY WNA HAVE ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP.}

ps. and Ms. Jen G.........BE REALISTIC AND dont refuse to accept the bitter truth ...., the ratio has increased in today's world.

Answer 2

I think the answer is in ur question. It is said that women want attention, and men want sex, so they go to others to fill the void. Sometimes they want someone different, sometimes, it's just there to serve as a wake up call to their spouses. IT's easier today, because there are more people willing to go for it. In earlier years, once u were married, u stayed that way, and never deviated, due to whatever kept u in the marriage. Now, people don't care. They want to be happy, but they like the security of a spouse as well...and this way, society won't find out. IF people juset communicated effectively, I think cheating would be cut down drastically. But there are some who just love the thrill of having a spouse and someone on the side, and waiting to see how long they can go w/o getting caught. Plus, in India, it's hard to get a divorce, so many think, y not? It's not like anyone's going anywhere.

Answer 3

I personally think it's a weakness on the person that cheats. Society makes it ok, and throw sex around like it's a treat at McDonald's. It's not respectable, and means nothing to alot of "married" people. Marriage is responsibilty, commitment for eternity. So if one steps out, it's the weaker of the two. It's easy to go along with an affair, and actually enjoy the thrill, it's a lot harder to work on maintaining or sparking up that same thrill with your spouse. Me, I would never cheat on my husband. He on the other hand has. I totally understand why, and we both know it will never happen again. Sex is 10 humps and sweat, but a marriage a family is a lifetime fulfillment. Oh yeah and hard work. So in sum, most people look for an easy way to have fun and don't want to put in the hard work for it, so they cheat with some low life person, who has no morals or respect for the marriage or theirselves.

Answer 4

People look for extramarital affairs because there is either something that is lacking in their marriage, or there are some kind of feelings of inadequacy in themselves that they are attempting to thwart and/or justify. Sometimes, all that the person is seeking is sex, plain and simple. Maybe their love life is so monotonous, and they are so bored, that instead of taking the time to figure out, together, how to spice it up, they take the easy road out and just get it from somebody else. I, personally, don't think that humans were meant to be monogamous. In an ideal world, yes, everybody would be faithful, but people are biologically programmed to sleep with multiple people...it maximizes the total number of chances for pregnancy, which ensures the survival of the species. Now, that's not saying that nobody can be completely faithful. I'm just saying that it takes a lot of work, and some people just aren't up to the task.

Answer 5

There can be many reasons . Both men and women like to have extra marital affairs . Some do it because they have been in the habit before marriage and haven't the moral fibre to change . When wives have babies , hubbies may not be getting the attention and sex they are used to . When couples have been married a while , boredom may set in . Women love the excitement of romance and to feel that they are desired , the emotion of falling in love . Sometimes in a marriage wives or husbands only do missionary position sex ; one or other partner wants more variety , cunilingus , fellatio , ***** style etc. etc. Couples sometimes fall out of love , but stay together for the children .

Answer 6

There is not excuse or good reason for having an affair, although some will justify it by saying "they weren't getting enough attention, love, sex" or whatever from their current partner & look for it else where. And others are just selfish cheaters who don't care about their partners feelings---only about their own satisfaction. Just my opinion! I never have & never will cheat! If someone wants to be a cheater then they shouldn't get married in the first place!!!! I have been cheated on quite a few times & nothing makes me feel worse other than the death of family or friends! It's a terrible thing to do to someone you say you love!! Again, just my opinion.....

Answer 7

The answer would be different for every couple with this issue....

It could be anything of a serious nature or it could be as simple as craving sex with a new person. Some people can justify anything, you know.....

It is not a new thing though. Marital infidelity has always been around as long as marriage has. Only recently has the way it is dealt with changed. Especially among Indians........

Answer 8

Its so simple. What you do when you get fed up of same old stuff. You go ahead and change that. When it is not possible to change that, you spice it up with extra things.

This happens in marriage also. Whether or not we accpet it, people do get bored in marriage and no amount of yoga or ancient Indian arts can bring back spice in life. At this, people who need constant attention turns to others. In few societies, that leads to the bed while in others to working together or more socializing.

Some times, it can be the ego of their partners which leads them to these or some times it is their own adventorous nature also. But, only some times. Mostly, it is due to boredom.

Answer 9

First of all, not all married people are doing that. Those who are doing that might do it for different reasons as stated by you. They might be missing something in their married life which they hope to find in an extra-marital relationship. Or some might just be doing it for the thrill of it. Some men who do that are addicted to women and vice versa.

Answer 10

Its old Indian saying 'Ghar Ki Murgi Dal Barabar' this is the reason why these people go in for extra marital relationship. They think what ever love, sex, and care they get with their own spouses is not sufficient & they'll get something extra out with other people. May be they get some thing extra they always wanted to experience but along with that something extra they are definitely open to dreadful sexually transmitting diseases such as HIV+ Aides etc. What I feel that enjoying life with your own spouse is better on long run then indulging in short time affairs & risking one's own life just for those few minutes of pleasure, you may call me rudimentary in my thoughts but this how I feel about it.

Answer 11

Sorry gal,its been happening since early times,even in the kama sutra there are verses about the mistress and stuff so its been going on and on.
People cheat for several reasons:
-for love
-to fill a void that they have
-cause they are insecure about themselves
-need attention
-some needs better sex
-some are sick
-some cheat for revenge
-some to satisfy their over sex drive
-some to prove a point
The list can go on and on and on...