Me and my Fiance where together for about 10 months before, in a fit of rage i Hurt him and broke up with him, he was so deeply hurt he didnt talk to me for 3 weeks after and didnt see eatch other for 2 months.
well we just saw eatchother on the 5th of this month where we both instantly connected and got back together. but he said that he didnt want to have sex for at least a year. needless to say i was crushed, not just becuase of the obvious need for pleasure, but i want to make love with him, thats very important for me.
Its hard to go from a intensly sexual and loving relationship to somthing so dry. We still have extremly heavy "petting" sessions, even to the point where we have been both nude, but before we go and further, He stops it
This hurts me Emotionaly. at times The hurt has been so intense that i have cried to him, and i can see the hurt in his eyes, but he still wont make love to me.
Is there any fix for this, what is the problem? he wont tell me?
2007-08-09 22:52:58 · 10 answers · asked by Raven Ty Marx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe you are his weakness and sex will only hurt him again and you leave him again, his emotions are locked up and you can only respect his wishes, because if you love him you will wait and not put him in a compromising position again. respect your man and his wishes don't you owe him that. And then again he just might be punishing you back.
2007-08-09 23:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by reddie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is really THAT important to you, then you should leave him and find someone who sees sex just as important in a relationship as you do. He may have chosen to be selibate for good reasons though, after all you both did break up for a short period of time and he may want to see if there's more to the relationship than just sex.
You said "It's hard to go from an intensly sexual & loving relationship to something dry.." maybe think a little more about your comment. Clearly his choice isn't making you happy...is there really anything left beyond sex with this guy? He's clearly made up his mind, he doesn't want to have sex..that's that. You either need to respect his decision and start making some of your own. Either stick around or break it off. There's no miscommunication, no misunderstanding..he has his reasons just as you do for wanting to have sex.
Leave or stick around, but stop trying to force him to have sex. Would you want to be forced if you didn't want it?
2007-08-09 23:06:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of your sexual orientation, I think it's a pretty much given that any form of relationship contact over the computer is gambling. Come on. You know there are all sorts of predators out there but something tells me you won't accept that until you experience it first hand. Your heart feels as though it's broken ... this much anyone can understand. But it will heal. That's what learning is all about. It teaches you more about yourself than anything else and that's the only thing that matters. I'm not gay ... but will you take a hug anyway?
2016-05-18 21:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we can't really help you, unless you tell us what you did in your fit of rage.
Honestly though, are you with him for the sex or are you with him for love?
Think about it, you hurt this guy pretty bad by your own admission then dumped him. And he still took you back, so he obviously cares for you.
Now try walking in his shoes for a moment. If he hurt you and then dumped you. And then you took him back, only asking him to wait a year. Would he wait? Probably.
I think it really boils down to him wanting to know if your with him just for the sex or if you really love him. Could also be trying to figure out if he was with you just for the sex, or if he did really love you... Never know.
2007-08-09 23:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurt him good didn't you? If he's not playing a get even game with you, he may be completely guarding his own emotions from another blow like the last one you gave him.
2007-08-09 23:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by mikebnchprss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dearly friend u obviously hurt him so deeply my first advice to u is to say sorry for him and then try to give him some trust in him self in order to be as before but please very important note for u make what u want under the eyes of god god bless u in your life and fiance
2007-08-09 23:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by sam joe 44 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well this is a first .. heheh.. sorry dont mean to laugh at your prob.. but this is a very unique case
but yourself in his shoes... if u didnt want sex .. uy would make him wait that long.. girls do that.. always hold guys at ransom using sex {}
2007-08-09 23:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either wait the year out or leave him. It's his body and life and if he chooses not to have sex. Well you'll have to accept it.
2007-08-09 23:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may have something with he d-i-c-k or something
coz has he dont you wot mouth you can start or is it just a year every time you talk about it
good luck
sorry dont wont to be mean
2007-08-10 00:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by SARAH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man! what the hell did you do to him, to crush his libido like that?!?
I honestly didn't know that was possible!
2007-08-09 23:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋