i am 25years old chinese girl
i married my husband( canadian swedish ) year before, he used pretended him as a very nice guy and he was 43years ,i firstly was forbidden by dad but he keep on contact me and treat really like a queen then i agreed feel happy and positive to the future.after i moved to sweden from hongkong ,everything changed ,i first looked up a document by accident that he used be in prision for 5 years for rob and have been sent to certain place for his drinking problem and drug problem which he never TOLD me about ,and he used told me he never been a criminal!!he is a lier.then i found that he owe a lot of money about the rent of house and tax and etc....and i got a mortage refund from our post i dont know what did he done even !
i feel scared aboutfuturei have a stable work,he just do nothing just get warefare,i want to divorce but he will of course refuse,is it hard for us to divorce?i have to pay for the money he owe since we married one year?pls help me,pls
2007-08-09 19:45:33 · 15 answers · asked by lily z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all of your advise
acutally there is something you misunderstand,,i am not that poor ,i have my own company in hongkong and doing trade business here in sweden , i have enough money to find lawyer or go back home
but i just want to know whether i need to pay his debt and share 50%of my property to him
this is really a headache
2007-08-09 20:47:39 · update #1
i am going to find a lawyer ,thanks very much for all of you
i really can not live a life like this even one more day
i just felt like i am sleeping with a monster everynight
he used to be that nice
but......
terrible sorrow met a man like this
2007-08-09 21:01:13 · update #2
You need to speak to someone local to the area to ask what is legal and what isn't. Don't rely on advice received in these forums - they may be misleading.
Please - find someone professional to ask these questions of, and get away as soon as possible!
2007-08-09 19:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by devyl gyrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your situation as a foreigner in this foreign country, you are almost helpless in this issue. Especially you are in a environment where the culture is so much different from your country.
Althought I was in law enforcement for 9 years, but I am not sure of Sweden's law on divorce. But I am sure there must some assistant that you can look for. Seek a lawyer advice may be costlt, and it's almost impossible for you with your financial status....and I believe you don't have friends or relatives which you can seek help there.
Try to search for some volunteer organisations on marriage there, they should be able to help you. Of course, last resort is to just buy a air ticket and flew back to your country to seek help.
2007-08-09 20:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave quick fast and in a hurry. It will only get worse. He only wanted you b/c he's an out of control man who's a failure and got off track in life and is using you b/c he feels he can control you. Perhaps he sees you as submissive and it makes him feel better about himself. You should listen to your daddy. He may be strict but you are his baby and he only wants the best for you and will not hurt u or tell you lies like the scum bag you're with now. You're lucky that you have a daddy to warn you abut the dangers of this world. I grew up without a father and wish I had that influence in my life. I wish I had a real man to watch my back and look out for my best interests. Get rid of that dead weight. What he's doing now it the same thing he will be doing 10yrs from now. A real man has his stuff together and handles his business and treats his woman like a queen. It's ok. You made a mistake in marrying this dude. That doesnt mean you have to continue to make mistakes and stay with him. Cut your losses early. Get out and find someone that is going to make you HAPPY. Life is too short to be in a miserable relationship. You probably feel like you must have some type of loyalty to this marriage and you probably feel some sort of security in being with him but you need to take care of YOU first b/c it's obvious that your so-called husband is not. And remember that you have a father and although he may be strict, he loves and cares about you. That's all the security you need. Get you a good lawyer and handle your business.
2007-08-09 20:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i dont know if you will have to pay the money... you need to get a lawyer or at the least some free legal help. Not sure about sweden but if you were in calif the courts offer free legal help at the court house. If I were you I think I would just leave go back to mom and dad and file for divorce there. good luck
2007-08-09 19:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by sweetsal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first your grammer needs much improvement, and if he isn't outright honest with you then you should have never married him. The worst thing to do is marry someone to make your parents happy!! The second thing is you should have known he didn't have a JOB, and you should get any mortages together, or you only anymore. Leave this bastard!! He is using you. I would be scared for your safety, and wel being, and I would go to the Police about this, and a Lawyer.
2007-08-09 19:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever consider an anullment through the church it would free you of his debts as he married you under false pretenses.If I were you I would leave him asap He sounds very unstable and could be dangerous.If you were married in the church anullment is the best way to go as you definatly have grounds for it and also divorce. You are not responsible for his debt if you have only been married one year and he has already acquired his debt. Good luck to you.
2007-08-09 19:59:15 · answer #6 · answered by JackieG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you contact your parents/family and let them know everything and that you want a divorce...and have them help you get a plane ticket (if you cant manage one on your own)maybe they can help you..he seems like he wouldnt take kindly to you telling him you want out of the marriage.....but he hid so many things from you ...you can imagine what else he is hiding...I say get out of the marriage ASAP
2007-08-09 19:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know much about divorce laws in Sweden, but I do think you should get a divorce. Kick the bum to the curb!
2007-08-09 19:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sad for you, and I'm sorry I don't have much advice. Try contacting free legal help or local social services. They can either help or tell you who can. Good luck with your situation.
2007-08-09 19:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by sassylass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋