I love my husband very much and we have great sex (although not as spontaneous as it was in the early stages of our relationship) but I still fantasise about other men.
I've never cheated on my husband and never would but since we have been together (7years) I think I've had about 4 crushes on various men from friends to work colleagues. I like the fact that these men found me desirable which makes me desire them. Never ever goes any further than I little harmless flirting though. I know my husband finds me attractive but its quite nice to have someone else look at you in that way.
Is this natural to fantasise about others even as a married woman? I hope so because I quite enjoy it!
2007-08-09 22:48:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have flirted with other guys and thought that if I wasnt married I might have been with them but have never fantasised about another man. I think it is normal though but I still wouldn't like the thought of my husband fantasising over another woman.
2007-08-09 22:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by SmEllY! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah i dont think there is anything wrong, as long its just some harmless flirting that makes you feel good.
You definitely cant stop your husband from flirting with his colleagues, for the reason being at work you spend More time than you do at home. So naturally the tendency to feel attracted, because you share so much etc etc, may crop in.
Simple flirting is perfectly OK for you or for your husband, just see that you don't give any wrong signals and that it all ends here, and you don't reach a pinnining stage, or your friend reaches a stage where you Friend could harass you and black mail you.
Hope i have made myself clear, not upset you in any way.
Take care.
2007-08-09 23:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Big Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can not stop our brain about fantasizing. can we?!!
I some times do day dream about being with others,(not Sexually, EmoTionAlly). I do create new love tragedies with my play as the main role and...
some times it causes me feel guilty, because after that I would love my husband less for a short time. but I can not help it. I am a Gemini and as they say, I am a big dreamer.
so it is because of nature. but be honest to yourself.does it hurt you if your husband flirt with other girls?!
if so stop it.and if not.... . are you still in love with your husband?!!!
be aware that what you do may cause harms to your life and also his life.
I love being loved by many.most of the women do so. but,marriage is marriage. so make your own life. men come and go.
2007-08-10 10:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Dorsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing it right now and could care less, you can't control someone else's thoughts and how do you know that your husband isn't doing it too?, I find it strange that some think its okay to flirt but fantasizing is forbidden. I think flirting is worse cause its out in the open but that's just my opinion. Enjoy your fantasies.
2007-08-10 00:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to innocently flirt is one thing....but to fantasise about another man....seems a little wrong...how would you feel if the table was turned?
2007-08-09 23:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by Never Regret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And I suspect you have no idea that men, including your husband, know you do it. Silly girl, of course it's normal. Enjoy.
2007-08-10 02:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your husband "quite enjoys it" when he fantasizes about that hot young girl he saw
2007-08-10 05:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by gordie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal.
2007-08-10 00:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Rahima Liverpool 4 life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me ..lol
2007-08-10 03:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look but don't touch!
2007-08-09 22:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋