How to calm a pyhco ex-wife?

Question

I have beened divorced a couple of months now and went on a friendly date with another girl...my ex found out and started making wild accusations about me - total lies - even filed a protection order against me! I am a police office and she knows this could end my career and she says "I dont care!" Anyone else ever experieanced a crazy ex? How did you handle it?

Just for the record i did also file a protection order on her...that was my lawyers advice..and the Chief of Police is actually appearing as a character witness for me at the hearing. I like the answer about the women scorn...made me laugh

Oh...and the accusations were crazy!! She said I wa going to take the kids and leavethe country...she also said I was going to shoot her family in the middle of the night!! I forgot to mention she is diagnosed bipolar. I wonder how much her disorder has to do with this?

Answer 1

If you are a Police Officer then you should know that the law sucks and the women ALWAYS wins....Yup, its a sad world!!

Oh and keep in mind. Most women are crazy!!! I'm a women myself but I'm one of the few is is not crazy (and yes, I hate women, they make me look bad).

Just ignore her. Don't talk to her, if she calls you hang up on her. If she come to your house call the police (but know that they won't do anything about it. It's not a insult to you, its just how the law is) and MAYBE they can ask her to leave. Also, get a GOOD divorce attorney because she sounds like a crazy women who will take you for everything you have and again, the law lets her do this and get away with it. Just wait until she says that you abused her and hit her (and of course again she gets away with it because the law lets her). And lets hope you don't have kids because I don't think yahoo gives me room to write everything I have to say about that.

With all that being said GOOD LUCK!!! And next time you go on a date. Make sure she is not some women who will go crazy on you one day. Ask her what she thinks of women who do this stuff and hope she thinks like me :)

Oh and next time you get a call for "Domestic Abuse" think of your wife....women can say anything and the men pay!!! REMEMBER: Women lie because they know they can get away with it.



ADD ON: Oh and my mom is Bi-Poler and she is not pyhco. So anyone who thinks Bi-Poler automatically means crazy is stupid......

Answer 2

It's got a lot to do with the Bipolar that shez suffering from. See possessive and unbalanced individuals have no control on their anger or fears it can be dealt only with some help from the shrink, medicines or keeping them busy with some work of their interest.

Now that u've got divorced u do have a right to go ur own free way ofcourse since u mention kids there are some limits to ur behaviourial traits.

But non theless u can pursue a personal life as ur a human being just the way ur ex is, so try understanding this that shez imbalanced and going thru a trauma which has made her fear a he*l lot more then just a mere divorce. She has unlimited fears inside her now that ur not even with her anymore, she wud feel unwanted or ugly, helpless and angry so all of these insecurities will reflect upon her behavious for a few more days atleast till she finds somebody in her life. On top of that u went out with some girl it added onto her weight of fears.

I don't know who has the posssession of the kids nor do i know on wat grounds did u take the divorce....if u have taken the divorce on her Bipolar disease grounds then surely the kids will need to be with u and if they r then it gets all the more complicated for her. she is natural to fear more for them.

Wat I'd suggest is maybe , just maybe out of humanity get her hooked with some good shrink and treat her illness. Bipolar disease is very destructing and is no good for a women going thru such a situation. Don't do this helping directly but get some good friend mutual friend of urs to get her to the doctor and start treating her, also helping her get some work of her interest will be a real help. Get her involved in some deep activity whereby she'd have no time to think of any thing other then work. Eventually in time it will subside but putting a total stop to such outbreaks is not truly possible for somebody going thru a rough patch. Put urself in her place and think how u'd respond and u'll know the answer to all ur problems.

Shez venting her fear in the form of anger so shez saying " I don't Care " this even u can't understand as ur going thru a rough time urself. But being sane u can recuperate sooner and swiftly then ur ex at this point in her life.

Wish u luck and hope ur ex does get the appropriate treatment in order for u to have a easy life. More so for the kids u have coz a divorce isn't the best thing to happen to any child, it plain is destroying their base of forming genuine trust and dependability on the whole of the world.

Answer 3

You should have your own restraining order filed, that way everything that is happening has been documented in stages. That's your best defense- to be able to show a trail of irrational behavior on her part. If things come down to it and she files against you, if you haven't done anything before then it'll just look like you're the one making up stories.

And might I add, what a selfish crazy wench she is. Sorry buddy.

Answer 4

I agree with everyone that says record conversations.
Remember if she has a order of protection that means you dont have to deal with her ...she will get in trobule for contacting you also.
I think with her mental history your job will understand. maybe by fileing the order she knew that would end all contact and in her own sick way it helped her moved on.
I just feel bad for your children. Do not let her use them to get back at you. you have a right to date. good for you but until you get serious about someone i wouldnt bring them around my children.---it will add fuel to the flame. But then agin you ex wife needs to accept things also.If you let her control you now it will only get worse.
Trust me i know i have remarried and my husband has a crazzy ex wife who still hasnt accepted our marriage for five years now. she uses her teenagers in the game. they hate me. and they hate their baby sister. So much to the point the 17 year old dropped our infant and when i had a loss recently the comment was made serval times im glad you loss the baby.
anyway..you have the right to move on. Best of luck
keep everything bussiness with your ex if you have to get a trusted friend to relay messages and do the exchange.

Answer 5

How did she find out you went on a date with another lady ?, I feel there's abit your not telling us. If your the one who told her about your date, then you deserve what you got.
Why people like your wife get upset is because they think there's still hope of you two getting back together, so when she finds out you are dating someone new!!!!, well that's when the truth hits home and they are very hurt all over again as they realise that there's no chance of getting back together again. Next time keep that mouth of yours closed and tell her nothing, then you wouldn't have these problems.

Answer 6

get the medical report from the doctor that diagnosed her as bipolar, your lawyer can subpeona it to the courts if needed. Also, write down all events to the very detail. Keep a notebook. my brother went through similar. he deserved most of it but anyway, this is what his lawyer told him to do...problem was, my brother was playing stupid games too, argh...so, don't play any games back...keep it in a notebook all of the events...let her know you are taping conversations and tape them...if you don't tell her you are taping them they can't use them in court...and record that statement to her too...as proof you said it. This should all show that she started this when you moved on, and I hope the courts see that if it happens to go to court. Bad Judges believe everything they hear, I hope you get a good judge that can see a liar. Good Luck

Answer 7

Bring it up with your bosses. Explain the situation to them as it doesn't sound like your fault at all. If you're divorced, it's really none of her business as to who you choose to date. One thing though, if you're on friendly terms with her she might miscontrue that to mean you still have feelings for her. You've got to draw the line clearly. Friends but that's it!

Answer 8

File one against her. Keep track of where you are at all times, so that you can prove her wrong.

Answer 9

paybacks suck...hell hath to wrath like a woman scorned...shes not psycho...just paying you back for perceived wrongs...suck it up your in for a bumpy ride...

Answer 10

what accusations is she making???

speak to your superior about this matter, make them aware of the situation and hopefully you can nip it in the bud...