We were supposed to adopt my 3 month old nephew who was severly abused by his mother and father. He decided to back out and then also decided that he thought we were better off apart. Because said this I moved out. It's about a month 1/2 and I haven't heard anything from him except for closing accounts and such. No "I love you's" have been thrown my way. He has made it possible for a no contact clause to be into affect since we both work in the same unit. (He's military, I'm a civilian employee...we don't work in the same building.) He even attends the same church as I do and it's hard seeing him every Sunday without wanting to go and hug him. I miss him.
How can I let him know how I feel about him if I can't contact him? Did I make a mistake? If so, what do I do?
2007-08-07 08:29:00 · 17 answers · asked by Leaving on a jetplane 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hire a divorce attorney. I bet that will get his attention.
Get this loser out of your life. If he wants to cut all contact with you, and is closing accounts, then he has no intention of coming back (and probably already has something on the side, which is why he doesn't want any contact).
Sorry honey, your marriage is over. You just don't know it yet.
2007-08-07 08:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him behind. Obviously, he has made his choice. Now you have to accept it and get on with your own life. File for divorce. You don't want to chase after someone, who doesn't want you any more. There is life after divorce, find someone else who does want to be with you. Find a different church to attend, or go at times he isn't there. No sense in torturing yourself and wasting your time pineing for someone who could care less about you.
I say you didn't do anything wrong, sounds like he had already made up his mind before the adoption thing happened. He most likely has another woman, that you don't know about.
2007-08-07 15:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see how you made a mistake. Sounds like he's making a big one. I don't understand why he's cutting off contact all of a sudden? Were you having problems? Is there a chance he suffers from depression? Can you takl to your pastor?
I wouldn't do anything yet, just give it a little bit more time. He's going to have to talk to you eventually.
i read someone else's post and you might be able to claim abandonment.
2007-08-07 15:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by another_answer_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your husband, you should be able to tell him how you feel. If he is cutting you out cold turkey, if it were me I would do some investigating to see what hes up to, I'm no trying to hurt you but he may be seeing someone else. I would look into it, you have a right to know. I hope you still get to adopt the little boy sounds like he needs you
2007-08-07 15:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by apple1212 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has effectively cut you off his life, and this is cruel and I think illegal, You must have rights as his wife, he cannot just walk out on this marriage without being obligated to at least pay alimony. I suggest you contact a lawyer who will do you some justice and make your husband pay attention. Let's see how he ignores you then.
2007-08-07 15:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can neither control his actions nor take responsibility for them. You have a right to see what's in the 'no contact' clause to see what his complaints are, you are his wife still.
If it were me though, I'd file for divorce and not wait around for him to yank my emotional chain.
2007-08-07 15:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Saphira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does he not listen when he is at church cause your not suppose to divorce...sounds like to me you need to talk to the preacher and get some counseling from him. if y'all cant live by the bible why even waste your time going to church..just going to church don't make you good enough you have to try and live by gods word but anyways get some advice from your preacher and he can talk with you husband....unless your in a church that is ok with divorces. if so id change churches.
2007-08-07 15:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So silly of him, just wait for him to come back to YOU if it was meant to be, if hes made it possible for no contact then he has no plans of speaking to you, no you didnt make a mistake. doesnt sound like a loving guy either
2007-08-07 15:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is final yet but it could be hard to let him know if you can't talk to him. but don't forget that words aren't the only form of communication. when you see him at church, let him see how much you are hurting. make eye contact with him and tell him how much you love him through your eyes. maybe he just got scared.
2007-08-07 15:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by candace b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point I would leave him alone. He obviously has some issues he's not willing to share. Maybe this is for the best. Try to ignore the situation the best you can, maybe he'll come to sense's.
2007-08-07 15:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by diablo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋