Marriage & Divorce - 3 August 2007

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2007-08-03 23:46:36 · 24 answers · asked by titi06200 3

I am a soldier and I have been deployed for a while now and only now is my wife saying something about divorce. She says of course that she is willing to try and work things out with me. At times it does not seem that she is trying or listening to my side, but that happens considering she has AD/HD. She has made it clear as to the areas in my life that I need to work on and I have worked on them. Some even before she told me that I needed to because I saw that I needed to work on them. But since I am not with her during my changes, she is unable to see these changes. I even told her the areas in her life that I thought she could work on and when talking to her on the phone and even in the emails I see that she is improving. I have only noticed in the last few phone calls that she seems a bit nervous and anxious. So my question is....

Is it normal for a wife of a soldier to feel a bit of doubt in the marraige during long periods away from each other?

2007-08-03 22:23:33 · 18 answers · asked by kataklysmkamel 2

what would you do if you one day find out that yo husband has another married life with kids just about the same age as your kids

2007-08-03 21:25:43 · 25 answers · asked by .:soulk!d:. 2

2007-08-03 20:52:04 · 13 answers · asked by embroidery fan 7

2007-08-03 20:48:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do peole always vote the best answer for the long answers when it can be put togather in three words and says the same thing

2007-08-03 20:21:47 · 26 answers · asked by kriz 1

we had to split, the next girl I was with said I wasn't doing my work properly. she wasn't coping. was I a worse assistant or was she not as good a paralegal? everyone works slightly differently and there is little supervision from the team leader. I had to have a meeting and the team leader gave me list of things that a person with my duration there was supposed to do. I have taken that in my stride. Unfortuatley the girl i was working with still coudn't cope due to personal reasons as well and has left. I then moved on to another para and she said my work was fine!! she is good friends with the team leader. She then moved up and i was left with another person. just recently i got a raise. lack of staff i think. then the other day we starting having to do an extra job sending faxes. apparently i didn't send some because i couldn't see tray and i had a phone message that was given to team leader too late. i had good reason. she has now given me a verbal warning. should i worry?

2007-08-03 20:19:02 · 6 answers · asked by Leigh J 1

We've been together almost 2 years, most of it's been long distance (he's military) he always says how much he loves me and wants to marry me/have kids with me. I am just so doubtful about things. I dont think he has been honest with some of his friends at home about me...I think they think we just were FWB. I went to visit him thousands of miles away. I'm tired of guessing and wondering. He tells me over and over again how he feels...but other people keep putting doubts in my mind about him. I cant take it anymore. Seems like the only people who think we should be together are he and I

2007-08-03 20:07:27 · 14 answers · asked by gally g 1

The question was from a girl in a crappy relationship..cheating, abuse, neglect etc. She wanted to know what SHE was doing wrong. I suggested that she attend her local community college. Hell, it was such a sad and depressing situation. I thought she would benefit from a new and intelligent source. I recieved a report from the q&A abuse center. No reason, just that my reply was pulled. College did so much for me in every way. I just wanted to share that option. Is that abuse?

2007-08-03 20:01:38 · 17 answers · asked by daisyjzmum 4

i am 31. live in pakistan and am not married yet. in my society girls get married at 25 MAX so i feel like such a loser.. besides that i also made major mistakes in eductaion. i did my bachelors and never went ahead with masters.. did good online jobs but that experience doesnt count. i want to make soething good of my life. i have enrolled myself in MBA program.. but sometimes i wonder is it now too late for me to start over..?? there is so much pressure to get married and i have no one in my life.. i feel so worthless at times but i want to do so much.. i just want to stop thinking abt what other ppl think.. i want to be above their narrow vision of life but it seems impossible at times.. please help..

2007-08-03 20:01:25 · 6 answers · asked by Sarah S 2

What i want to tell is that pain is like lose of love,hurt by someone or cheated by someone.But every one reacts totally different to these situations.I know one guy who lost his love (she got married)became lunatic for years always thinking about her n past memories,but she is living happily with her husband,why this happens?.How these people can move on easily from the pain.

2007-08-03 19:58:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom and her new husband being together. my mom left my dad about 2 years ago and went to live with this guy immediately afterwards. last february, two weeks after my mom and dad's divorce got through, they got married (by law only, no ceremony, and i didn't know until afterwards).

i'm the type of person that believes in marriage, so it bothered me a lot when they were living together before being "married." it's not that it's my business to force my way on others...it's just that it's so much more painful because it's my mother. but the thing is, it still bothers me, and i think it always will bother me....especially since i (accidentally) heard them at "it" in the middle of the night. i am so angry, and i really hate her stupid husband. and i know there is nothing i can do about it...i feel like i can never look at my mom the same way again...

has anyone been through this kind of situation? how do you deal with it?

2007-08-03 19:53:28 · 10 answers · asked by RQ 2

This has been a year straight from hell!
as many of you know my wife of 16 years, started to contact her 1st love when I asked about it she informed me it was just nostalgia ( she's 7 years older), but it wasn't it almost went into physical side at her HIGH SCHOOL REUNION, hell he even had the balls to come to my home but I kicked his @$$ and sent him on his way!

We separated for a few months but after allot of therapy we got back together on my part mostly for the kids we have 5 all adopted, and 3 nieces and nephew teens that we got guardianship of thats a total of 8 already!

Well I came home last month and everything seems fine in fact it's been great , the wife has been really happy I'm home and have been making amends, the kids all seem happy and glad I'm home but theirs something missing and today I found out what it is TRUST!

My wife asked if she could go with a few friends all who knew about the affair, and I almost freaked because I realize the trust is gone what can I do?

2007-08-03 19:52:19 · 13 answers · asked by Free-Lance 5

2007-08-03 19:51:23 · 18 answers · asked by Col Ashok S 2

well the thing is we dont have any wood to be chipped. i just hope this has nothing to do with me forgeting her birthday. i am wondering if this is gift that she gave herself and maybe i should give her half for the chipper.

2007-08-03 19:49:52 · 7 answers · asked by just hanging around 5

What should I do?

2007-08-03 19:34:07 · 82 answers · asked by Anonymous

broken family

what is your opinion about broken families?

2007-08-03 19:32:21 · 12 answers · asked by 89 1

my husband and i decided to quit smoking 4 months ago because we found out i was pregnant. i went cold turkey when i found out and took him at least 3 months to completly quit. so i thought. since the time he said he quit i still benn smelling smoke on him. just not as strong. and in his car but i blamed it on the smell stuck on the interior. but i found 2 packs of cigarattes in his car. meaning when i ask him about his smoking and tells he quit, he's been lying to me. i know its hard to quit but its scary that he's such a good lier. should i be mad at him?

2007-08-03 19:32:19 · 19 answers · asked by Gracie 2

2007-08-03 19:24:51 · 14 answers · asked by Help me please! 1

could it be possible myhubb is gay and doesnt know it?
he doesnt like to have sex maybe 3 times a week. and i never see him realy checking out other women not even a lil peek. if i ask him his opinion of a women on t.v. or real life he just shrugs his shoulders. gay men have flirted with him, his da is gay. we are both 33 years old in good health etc.

2007-08-03 19:20:56 · 26 answers · asked by jesicka 2

If so, what should I say? Ultimately, I would like to cancel my membership at this gym, citing the unprofessional conduct of their personnel.

2007-08-03 19:15:02 · 35 answers · asked by blondsheila17 1

my sister's husband is dying of cancer(such a good guy) and she is already having sex with some on in the room next to his deathe bed. they have been married for over 3o years and he has been good to her. is she evil? i think so, am i wrong?

2007-08-03 19:09:19 · 16 answers · asked by j/j/ 2

before we got maried my Husband as involved with this other Woman and She had a baby boy and because she was involved with someone else he is not sure if that child is his.I would like to know before it is to late for him to be part of his child's life.

2007-08-03 19:05:19 · 22 answers · asked by sakie 1

2007-08-03 19:03:21 · 14 answers · asked by jusmic80 2

I was reconcilling with my now ex after a lenghty seperation (his past drug use- drug testing was mandatory to be back with his family) when he went out with some of his buddies, got really drunk and went home with some girl. This is a first (and last).

To make this short- she called me after being with him for a few months (her issues are she doesnt want him paying support to me plus she is starting to have the same problems I did with him etc).

She told me that "singles moms" (as she is with a 6 year old son) go to bars to "hook into a guy"... I am absolutely disgusted!

She said he cried when he told her he is married with kids. Yet, she stays...
I am not blaming her as he was 50% responsible.

I have always valued my rep and what others think. I have struggled in defining myself as a "single" and a "single mother" after being with someone nearly half my life (met when I was 15).

2007-08-03 19:00:20 · 13 answers · asked by Paradox 3

my mother in law found out and told my wife where i was fooling around with that.40. year old who i was fooling around i was.17. and yes i ws married my mother in law answers question.s here and showed my wife now she.s mad as they come we have.3. children.we had2. before i meet this .40. year old tramp my mother in law showed her what i had said and told my wife now she want.s a divorce and to bring that tramp into it now the divorce how can i lie out of being with that whore that.s what she is i need help badley on this no kidding ?

2007-08-03 18:57:16 · 26 answers · asked by matthew v 3

We have a charity dinner to go to.

2007-08-03 18:56:45 · 17 answers · asked by Lothario 1

2007-08-03 18:56:04 · 10 answers · asked by jusmic80 2

We have alot of fighting and tears behind us, and I found myself slipping away from my husband. I have considered divorce, but now I think it would be better for all if I try to just fall in love with him again. Is that even possible? How can I rediscover long lost feelings?

2007-08-03 18:47:46 · 20 answers · asked by bluebyou 4

ive been married for 7 yrs we had a bad patch and the kids and i left when we came back i asked did you cry for us and he said no. i have never seen him cry is this normal or is he an ice king?

2007-08-03 18:41:51 · 17 answers · asked by sweet young thing 3