need help my wife found out about that.40. year old who i was fooling with while i was there help me please?

Question

my mother in law found out and told my wife where i was fooling around with that.40. year old who i was fooling around i was.17. and yes i ws married my mother in law answers question.s here and showed my wife now she.s mad as they come we have.3. children.we had2. before i meet this .40. year old tramp my mother in law showed her what i had said and told my wife now she want.s a divorce and to bring that tramp into it now the divorce how can i lie out of being with that whore that.s what she is i need help badley on this no kidding ?

Answer 1

well first of all you need not call this woman a whore when your just as bad. second why did you cheat? are you unhappy, lonely, whatever. if you cant keep it in the pants.is this the first time?im kindof confused as too if this is a cheat you just did, or did when you were young, but anyways you need to really be honest with yourself as to why you did it.then you need to tell her. if it was only a one time thing then you need to tell her that you screwed up and everyone makes mistakes.tell her , i dont expect you to give me an answer now butplease forgive me and give me a second chance. i dont want a divorce. but i understand that if i blow this second chance, we will, but i dont want to so i wont do it again.now tell her that you understand that you will be mad at me( and trust me you need to give her as long as it takes. could take months or years) you made the bed you need to lay in it.i always believe in giving someone a second chance. but if you do it again. you really dont love like you say. so dude if you really want it to work then prove it. sorry if she cant get past it.as long as you dont lie and tell her the truth. about this and any other stupid little mistake you make, maybe shell start to trust you again someday. it can be done it just takes a looooooooong time sometimes

Answer 2

Matt, if you are getting a divorce over something that happened when you were 17, and I assume you did not continue the affair, your motherinlaw sounds as if she is stirring the pot, and if your wife is throwing all the time and investment in your marriage away over that, well I think there must be some underlying problem also. Just be straight with your wife, tell your monsterinlaw to butt out, and work on it her and try to salvage it if that is what you want, but dont look for lies to cover anything up, one lie leads to another.
Maybe since you mil answeres questions on this site, it would be to your advantage to either change your screen name or just bow out completely.....

Answer 3

There no lying your way out of this and if you truly loved her you would of tried to work things out but by lying and manipulating the situation you screwed yourself and may of messed up any change of working it out and personally she should leave you because it doesn't seem like your the bit sorry for what you have done to her or your family your more sorry that you got caught kamara has finally found you and payback are a bit## so good luck and if you can't owned up and say I was wrong and I'm sorry and try to work it out then you deserve everything you get in the long run.

Answer 4

1 st you need to talk to God and then you need to get your thoughts together because you messed up royally because this means if you never got caught you would still be talking w/ this so called 40 year old tramp right??!!! Sometimes when people cheat you need to just submit and take the punishment and this isn't fair to your wife. If it was your wife that had cheated what would you have done?

Answer 5

first u cheat.. and now u want us to help u LIE?

do the right thing..
so she is mad/hurt.. give it some time... 4 wks..
then ask ur wife if she still wants the divorce.. if so..
then give it to her..
GO OUT LIKE A MAN.. NOT A P**** !!

she may have 2nd thoughts..
Ur motherinlaw needs to stay out of ur bzness..

You started this.. so face the music,, eat ur pride,, if u don't want a divorce..
put it all in the line.. no LIES

Answer 6

If this woman you were fooling around with was a tramp and a whore what does that make you besides an idiot unmarried guy?

Answer 7

i wouldn't want to help you. so she's a whore who you cheated on your wife for? good job idiot. if i was your kid i would never want to see your face again. don't lie out of anything you already decieved your wife once and she found out and now you're going to do it again? some complete morons never learn.

you never deserve to see those kids again. i hope God has pity on you. you disgusting person.

i hope nobody gives you any advice besides "get a life" and "don't ruin another woman's or child's". oh yeah, and stop lying to cover yourself up.

i hope you know you've pretty much broken your children and wife's hearts.

Answer 8

i love all the replys pal seem.s like your past caught up with you and call a woman a whore not to manley pal . did you call her that when you was baning her inn her home seem.s like you are in deep **** and you really seaserve it why you ought to hve known your place she was married right and .30. something well try to be a man in court when your wife has you.2. in there ok you are nothing as a man why a man dont degrade a woman like you do . fact no matter you are trash pal in my opion?

Answer 9

you honestly wanna know what you do, you give your wife what she wants, marriage is about 1 man and 1 woman being bound together forever with no one else, you broke that sacred trust and dishonored your wife, if you are a man you will do what she wants you to even if that means divorce, you practically destroyed her world i think you at least owe it to her to leave her the hell alone.

Answer 10

Stop calling people names! Grow up and OWN up. Be EMOTIONALLY HONEST with YOURSELF. Then her. Seek therapy. Forgive yourself. That's all you can do, if you want to grow out of the place that you are in now. Be courageous. Good luck.