Does he love me?

Question

We've been together almost 2 years, most of it's been long distance (he's military) he always says how much he loves me and wants to marry me/have kids with me. I am just so doubtful about things. I dont think he has been honest with some of his friends at home about me...I think they think we just were FWB. I went to visit him thousands of miles away. I'm tired of guessing and wondering. He tells me over and over again how he feels...but other people keep putting doubts in my mind about him. I cant take it anymore. Seems like the only people who think we should be together are he and I

my heart is going to say i love him. It's my head i worry about.

i'm doubting things because a female friend of his called me a psycho ***** stalker for going out to visit him and that i flew a long flight for bang. I'm just upset that he obviously hasnt told her the extent of our relationship...and i dont appreciate being calld psycho ***** when i'm just trying to have a smooth ldr

well he is 24, i am 28 and divorced...i'm not looking to get married asap or anything. I have met his whole entire family and friends from him...never met this one person who said this stuff. He said this person is now no longer his friend...but who knows. I seem to always find drama in everything

Answer 1

follow what your heart says

Answer 2

Since you said you love him, give him the benefit of doubt, because love conquered all doubts. External factors, the like of your frens gossiping and critics cannot be taken into heart, wouldn't it be stupid to broke off just because some frens told you something bad about you or him? You know he is a military man, you know he is still young, you know he needs to perform his duty, you know his family, so why make it difficult for yourself in what you have choosen.?

You are already 28yo, a full grown woman, not 17yo kid, be mature and think wisely. He is away and miss you dearly, this is due to his nature of duty for the country, so do you wish that he dun call or never say miss you or love you? If so, you will be mad. So, calm down and love him faithfully, because love needs trust, without trust, you can kiss goodbye to love.

Answer 3

Ask him exactly what YOU need to know from him. Don't be second guessing him.

When doubt arises, then communicate with him. If you plan to marry him, better start learning to communicate now.

Also, keep your eyes wide open. If you see red flags then take that into consideration. Friends, believe it or not, are a good way to find out about somebody. They'll see things you don't see in him. Go survey all his friends then if he's worth it, b/c it sounds like you have alot of doubt.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You seem very uncertain, and very unhappy, If this man loves you and says he loves you, and shows he loves you..why do you doubt him? If you really want to know for certain, Let him do some of the running. But basically quit listening to others, you need to know in your heart and quit listening to your head!

Answer 5

trust your gut. if you have doubts, don't go through with it. you may be lead into disappointment. saying "i love you" doesn't necessarilly make it true. i know it sounds harsh, but it should take much much more to win your heart! also, i think that him saying over and over how he feels is a reflection of his inner doubt about it (as if re-affirming to convince you, or even himself), or of a lack of understanding / communication. i don't think he should have to say it so much if he really does love you. you'll both just know it.

if you have doubts, don't take chances!!! remember, this is your life you're dealing with. so please be careful.

sorry, i don't want to sound mean. i hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

You and him are the only ones who matters,not your friends or his.He said he loves you believe him.Maybe these people who are telling you these things are just well haters...Who know maybe when he comes back you two will get married and those people that are putting doubts in your head will bit their tongues ans you will have the last laugh....Good Luck.

Answer 7

don't rush on marriage. even if he loves you it's not enough... you still have to consider your feelings too. it would be a happy marriage if both of you love each other and by the way whatever people say about your boyfriend a true love can accept whoever he is, whatever he is.

Answer 8

Unless he gives you a reason to doubt him, I would say you should believe and trust him. Never listen to rumors or hearsay, and I would never put stock in what "friends" say.

Answer 9

Ask yourself these questions: Would I want to be like him? Would I want my children to be like him? Can I trust what he says?

I would wait until he comes back and see how he treats you. Does he introduce you to his family? Do his parents know about you? That will tell you what you want to know. If you've been with him two years, it's time to meet them.

Answer 10

does he love u? why hasn't he married u? 2 years is a long time///
If u are guessing and wondering.. u are correct... move on.. it will only will get worse in ur head...
sure he is gonna say he loves u... he is miles away...
if he is state side.. dump him easy..
if he is fighting for our country... then don't do it now.. that's not fair to him

U do need to be giving this relationshop a second thought...

Answer 11

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me ......The look in your eyes says you'll always need me .... ..... theres a truth in your soul .... maybe ..... you'll never know...... The touch of your hand says you'll catch me when I fall.......... You say it best when you say nothin at all ....