could it be possible myhubb is gay and doesnt know it?
he doesnt like to have sex maybe 3 times a week. and i never see him realy checking out other women not even a lil peek. if i ask him his opinion of a women on t.v. or real life he just shrugs his shoulders. gay men have flirted with him, his da is gay. we are both 33 years old in good health etc.
2007-08-03 19:20:56 · 26 answers · asked by jesicka 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is probably cheating on you and trys to be gay to cover up.
2007-08-03 19:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by ywj xing 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
These questions should of been discussed with your man. He is the only one who will know for sure about what his thoughts and feeling are.
As a woman married for 17 years to a very good looking straight man, I can share with you that men and women are flirting with him on regular basis. It is a price that you pay for marrying a handsome man. It has nothing to do with his sexual orientation or desire for extra marital attention, and therefore doesn't prove anything.
Whoever told you that unless man has sex with you 3 times a week, he is gay? Smile. As humans, we all have very different sex drive: some enjoy more, some prefer less. Relax and enjoy your relationship as it is: why do you feel that you have to prove something to someone by having more sex. Make sure when you do have it, it is so special and wonderful for both of you, that a simple memory of it will make him smile and blush in the middle of the day in his office.
There is one issue I do have with your question though: don't you people talk to each other at all? It seems communication is not there, and that is a huge problem. That should be dealt with as soon as possible or your marriage will fall apart.
2007-08-03 21:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't thinks so. At age 33 a guy's sex drive starts to go dwon while a females sex drive goes up. Also other things can affect it like stress. So that explains that. When you ask his opinion of girls on TV he doesn't answer because he doesn't want to hurt you or get the answer "wrong" as for not checking out other girls I'm sure you just might not catch him doing it.
His dad being gay has nothing to do with anything and so what gay men have flirted with him.
2007-08-03 19:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe he knows better than to check out or comment on other women. All to often a guy doing that gets in trouble with his wife.
And if you are 33 and still having sex together 3 times a week, you are probably pretty average. After all the sex drive does diminish as you age so enjoy each time as if it is th elast.
2007-08-05 03:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Homosexuality is not hereditary. He could not be homosexual merely because his father was a homosexual. Secondaly, the fact homosexual men flirt with him means nothing. There is no such thing as "gay-dar". If there was, would that not mean that anyone who thought they were homosexual would simply have to see if they had "gay-dar"? Thirdly, it may be he doesn't want to make you jealous. Would you much prefer it if he said almost every woman you point out for him turns out to be more sexually appitizing to him (not saying that is the case, only a possiblity). Alternatively, and lastly, the fact he wants sex less then you may mean he has a much more subduded sex drive then you. He could still be checking out women, just that, to you it's a friendly glance, to him it's a free peep show. It'd be best if you discussed this with your husband. It is possible that is homosexual, or perhaps bisexual with a stronger perferance for men, and he doesn't want to be the one who brings it up.
2007-08-03 19:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same way. But I'm pretty sure he's not gay. He says sex just isn't that important to him. 3 times a week? girl.. you're lucky.. I struggle to get two.
I'm not unnattractive or anything.. so I know thats not the problem... and I KNOW I'm good at sex and everything involved with it.. He is usually really tired from work.. and his mind is elsewhere occupied. He's also 28 and I'm only 21
It sucks.. because I am in the mood for sex almost daily.. but I guess ya just learn to live with it...
2007-08-04 05:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe sex isn't that big of a deal to him and maybe you are enough for him. some men are in love with the woman they marry and some don't look at other women because it causes too much trouble.think of all the crap he is avoiding. and sex 3 times a week is probably normal. My husband likes it all night every night and I don't any more 3 times a week is enough for me and I'm not gay.I used to love it all the time like he does but not anymore. well im older now too. but I doubt your husband is gay. if that's what your basing your reason to believe on. oh as far as gays hitting on him well they hit on my bro and HES not gay either. good luck. PS oh I wouldnt mention to him about your thoughts on this one. lol
2007-08-03 19:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to assume. I would talk to him about your conerns in the bedroom. Then take it from there. Maybe he has some issues other than being gay. Then again maybe but he will never tell you especially if he married you. Otherwise he would hurt you and he must love you if he married you and so why would he hurt you. How about telling a gay friend to hit on him and see what happens.
2007-08-03 19:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I wouldn't say that he is gay. Maybe he doesn't feel the need to look at other women since he has you. My husband has had gay guys check him out but I never would consider that he could be gay. Maybe he is having difficulty with his libido, all men are different when it comes to things like that.
2007-08-03 19:25:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lil's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when does respect full men become gay?
you should be proud he doesn't check on girls, plus, come on, be honest... if he say anyone is hot, then you will make a big deal, and if he doesn't, then its also a big deal?
gosh... this is crazy!
and BTW... 3 times a week its OK for most people! jaja... there are couples that do not have sex for over a month! so stop being crazy!
2007-08-03 19:28:45 · answer #10 · answered by nathalia r 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha. Your guy isnt gay. hes just really smart. When you are watching him like a hawk, he isnt going to stare down any women because you'll chew him out if you do. And honestly guys dont really want to talk about women on tv WITH THEIR OWN WIFE, because if he says something wrong, someone's in the doghouse. and your husband is probably got alot on his mind or is tired.
2007-08-03 19:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by forrest543 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋