my sister's husband is dying of cancer(such a good guy) and she is already having sex with some on in the room next to his deathe bed. they have been married for over 3o years and he has been good to her. is she evil? i think so, am i wrong?
2007-08-03 19:09:19 · 16 answers · asked by j/j/ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How stupid she must have no feelings for him...
2007-08-03 19:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Evil? Insensitive, certainly. It's hard to comprehend peoples' motivations sometimes. This could be a lapse in judgment, or good taste brought about by the stress of watching her loved one waste away and not being able to do anything about it. I admit, that's a stretch. Maybe she's just turned petty and selfish. It's also a possibility that she's angry with her husband for dying. It's not uncommon for people to experience feelings of anger toward their dearly departed. It's not entirely rational, but can be the case.
My point is that there could be a lot of reasons for her behavior and making a snap judgment and slapping an "evil" label on her doesn't help anyone and could unfairly justify dropping any real effort to find some understanding.
2007-08-04 02:28:55 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not exactly right but i wouldn't call it evil...
I dont believe in cheating so please don't get me wrong here but perhaps she was seeking some emotional or physical comfort (like the need to be held) and she was taken advantage of...we all need physical human contact...perhaps she is blinded by her grieve...perhaps she is rebounding with the thought of the only man she has known dying in front of her and she is helpless...perhaps she is needing to feel attached and cannot handle being alone after he is gone.
I think if you put yourself in her shoes for a second its not a motive of evil intent but rather a motive out of despair, pain, fear, loss.
2007-08-04 02:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Paradox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never jump the gun with assumptions. Maybe your sister and her husband had a mutual agreement when he became more ill?
On another note, your sister might be so traumatized by her husbands illness and pending death that she is just going crazy and having raw unemotional sex?
The only thing you might be wrong about is not asking your sister?
Talk to your sister, she might need you more than you realize.
2007-08-04 02:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Northernlady 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did you say 30 years married? how old is your sister. All I can say is that I pray your brother-in-law is not able to hear your sister getting her brains blasted out in the next room while he is dying. That is a very disturbing thought.
Does it make her evil? No, I think she's just really horny. But for God sakes tell her to get a room... outside the house!
2007-08-04 02:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Champ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is dumb.. but maybe just maybe..
she can not bear the pain of him dying of cancer.. and this is her way of coping..
i don't no what kind of a person she really is..???
Ur thoughts are correct.. it does sound evil.. but u have not walked in her shoes..
u sound like ur a great guy ur self.. be there for ur bro in law even if she isn't...
2007-08-04 02:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may even have the blessings of her husband for all I or you know. I know swingers that keep family in the dark for obvious reasons.I think you should disconcern yourself with this. I dont know what the circumstances are but I am sorry about your brother in law.
2007-08-04 02:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That is just terrible! Doing it the next room over just adds a whole new level up fuckedupness to it!
2007-08-04 02:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very very wrong. Are you certain of it? Report it to the hospital staff. I'm pretty sure that is not permitted in hospitals.
2007-08-04 02:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not she may want to be careful because one day faith going to come up behind her and bite her on the butt and everything she has done wrong is going to rear it ugly face but ten times more. I wish you luck and remember you may think she wrong but were not suppose to judge that God job.
2007-08-04 02:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes its wrong and its sick. She is going to be very lonely in her days to come and she's going to wish that she had him again, unless she never really cared for him. Sometimes you just wonder where do these heartless people come from.
2007-08-04 02:26:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋