When I go to the community pool with my kids I wear a t-shirt in the water because I'm self conscious of my stomach. I'm not bad, but I'm carrying a "few extra pounds" and I'm not very muscular. I haven't been "skinny" since high school, but I would like to look a little better so I can feel comfortable taking my shirt off. Also, it bothers me when their are "hot" women in bikinis. I want to look good.
2007-08-07 08:14:08 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, you are not obese. You could see a huge difference if you would just drop a few pounds. I think you will feel a lot better. I just shed a few pounds and see a huge difference in the way I feel and the way people see me. I get compliments all the time now. Granted, I am a female. Anyway, I am more curious about why you want to look good for hot females if you are married. If you are interested in other women, maybe you should not be married anymore. Stress at work could be relieved by having great sex with your wife or doing something to bring spice back into your marriage. Spend less time worrying about your appearance and more time working on the inner you. Good luck.
2007-08-07 08:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Love Life 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends, are you muscular (like me) or chubby? If that weight is primarily fat, then you are definitely overweight for your height. If you seriously want to lose a few extra pounds, here are a few tips...
1) Buy less junk food...meaning cookies, chips, candy, etc... Eventually, you're gonna have to change your whole diet, but let's just start with the cookies/cakes
2) Park farther away. Walking halfway across the lot will def. add quite a bit of exercise to your daily routine
3) Take the stairs every now and then. You don't have to do it all the time, but cut your elevator rides in half
4) Eat breakfast in the morning. Most people don't know that a bowl of cereal daily (nothing with marshmallows) will actually help you LOSE weight, since it speeds up your metabolism every day.
5) Skip a meal every day or so. Instead, just eat a small snack, preferably with proteins. Maybe eat a handful of peanuts or something along those lines.
I guarantee that if you follow a few of these steps, you'll lose about 10 lbs every month. By New Years, you'll be around 170
2007-08-07 08:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't say that you're obese, but you probably are carrying a few extra pounds.
do yourself and your marriage and your kids and your health a favor and start working out!
get a gym membership and find an activity for your kids to do while you hit the weights and the treadmill!
OR just get active with your kids.
start taking hikes, start swimming laps while they play at the pool.
after the pool and they are taking naps or relaxing, take a moment to go for a jog or a speed walk.
do this a few times a week and you'll see a difference!
also, stop eating out of boredom or depression. it won't help you.
stick to good for you foods, fruits, veggies, proteins and even carbs have their place in a well balanced diet.
if you cheat, just cheat a bit.
don't take the bag of cookies with you. take 2 or 3 out, then put the bag away and eat them. if you want more, then don't open that bag...instead find something better to snack on...like some popcorn or a bowl of cereal.
switch to water 24/7. no more soda or sugary drinks. get more sleep.
sleep deprivation can lead to weight problems. you can shed alot of poundage just by resting properly!
hope this helps.
2007-08-07 08:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man at 6 ft, 210 lbs your not fat. The few extra pounds you are talking about is probably nothing more then you not having any muscle tone. I am 6 ft, and was 207 lbs when i met my wife, and i had plenty of women flirting with and looking at me, i too thought i looked a bit flabby until i got to talking to a fitness expert and long story short all i really needed to do is work on building up my six pack. Of course now I'm 235 lbs, and i believe this is due to my wife's scheming, turns out she didn't like those women looking at me and flirting with me.
Oh and on the marriage thing, it's not your looks that is causing it to suck. I am quite sure your wife is happy with the way you look. I am also sure that your wife is tickled that you actually take your kids out and do things with them, giving her some time to relax... I'm guessing that the two of you need to sit down and start communicating so the both of you can begin to understand and resolve what is really making your marriage suck.
2007-08-07 08:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not obese. But you could probably stand to trim some pounds. Now use the problem solving process:
1. Identify the problem(s) - Did that!
2. Figure out the possible solutions
3. Decide on a solution
4. Implement that solution until the problem is resolved.
Also, if you are concerned about your marriage, its okay to check out a nice looking woman, just natural, (but no stare downs) - but if you are out to impress them, forget it. Direct that energy to your marriage.
If (and you should) start working out, you will find that using energy develops more energy and actually helps reduce stress. Look good, feel good, be good.
2007-08-07 09:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by RUESTER 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are overweight by 15 pounds, which I believe if you are motivated enough you can lose in no time, don't worry about your weight when you are at the pool when you are there with your kids, jump in with them, the more you play with them in the pool, the more exercise you get and you will feel a lot better also. So it will be a win-win situation. Plus some chicks like to see a guy that knows how to have fun rather then be all fully absorbed of themselves that they aren't able to see the great things around them. So make that a win-win-win situation.
2007-08-07 08:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by marissaklump2004 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're under a lot of stress at work and my marriage sucks. Do sit ups consistently every day twice a day start wit 5 each time or more if you can then have a goal to increase 3 per week and NO beer. Good Luck
2007-08-07 08:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why are you worried about the other women that are around? don't ya know that your wife has to look at you everyday? what are you doing to change your marriage instead of just saying it sucks? I don't think you would be considered obese but if you feel that way then join a gym. so you need a gym, a new attitude, and a marriage counselor.
2007-08-07 08:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone finds fault with their body no matter how they look. Don't feel bad about your body. If you would like to make some improvements, start out walking with your kids. Gradually build up how far you walk and cut out all soda. I doubt you are obese. In the eyes of the so called "beautiful people" maybe, but remember they have insecurities also.
2007-08-07 08:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hit the gym for an hour a day, five days a week. it's only one hour a day to get your confidence back. also, you could just go running in the neighborhood and watch what you eat, if you don't have time for the gym. don't wear a shirt in the pool though...it only attracts more attention. besides, if you wear a shirt, you're not gonna get a tan....and tan fat people look better than white fat people.
2007-08-07 08:25:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋