Marriage & Divorce - 7 August 2007

my husband started a new job and is 3 weeks into training. this is his last week. at the start he mentioned that there was an old lady that lives a couple of streets over from us and in the same street as my uncle. well at the end of 2nd wk i found a piece of paper on fridge with her name address hm ph and mobile on it my gut feeling was he's been takin her to work. the next morning i followed him and i was right. he said he didn't mention it to me because it wasnt a big deal. how can you take someone to work and home everyday and not mention it to your wife. we have been fighting on and off since i found out. i just cant except why he never mentioned it. i ask him all the time is something going on and he says no she is an old granny & i tell him i dont know that for sure. he then said if i want to meet her she hangs out at the local pub. i dont like him taking her to work regardless of her age. i just cant get my head around it im going crazy with thoughts he is having an affair.

2007-08-07 02:49:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I will be living overseas in Egypt for awhile, it could be a few years even. We'll be living in a small town so it's really impossible almost for me as a woman to find a job. Are there any ideas out there for projects, online work, or just what i can do to occupy my time while he's off during the day at work?

2007-08-07 02:49:14 · 9 answers · asked by Allison H 2

I want to meet my future wife in high school. Here is my outline.
Go to college. Major in Meterology.
-Doctors Degree(age 27)
-Get Married(25-27)
- Get a Job for the first 3-5 years(27-32)
- Have two-three children(30-40)

2007-08-07 02:42:22 · 13 answers · asked by novapri39 2

How many out there use a vibe during intercourse? Like, holding it on the "spot" while you are doing it. Just curious. my wife always uses one. I don't have a problem with it, but I think she has gotten to where she doesn't want to do it without it. i mean she doesnt have to use it, but I guess it intensifies things.

2007-08-07 02:36:57 · 11 answers · asked by DMV 1

just curious about his past..to him better..what happen they didnt last..ect..ect.. ect..

2007-08-07 02:34:52 · 27 answers · asked by waki! 1

Isaid, I don't have a problem leaving a marriage with what I came in their with. Do you think by him asking this, he may be considering marrying me?Or do you think it was just a general question?

2007-08-07 02:34:26 · 36 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1

With kids involved.

2007-08-07 02:33:01 · 23 answers · asked by bamagrits84 3

2007-08-07 02:21:49 · 19 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

When we first met the sex wasn't so bad, it was never too elaborate, however it was a lot better than what it has come to.

We have two girls together, one about to turn 4 the other about to turn 4mon. Every time I try to do something with him I get "batted away", because he is either too tiered, or some other excuse. Then if we do have sex it is so pathetic, we don't even get all the way naked... I'm lucky if he takes his pants off all the way! Also, he just wants me on top, or if I plead for him to go on top it is only missionary. Oh, and usually the whole event is less than 5min too!

I am so frustrated, and just don't know what to do any more. I know he is not cheating on me... I think he just has a VERY low sex drive for one, and for two he has endurance issues.

What can I do? I just didn't think it is supposed to be like this, isn't it usually the other way around... they guy always wanting it and the girl turning it down?

HELP!

2007-08-07 02:21:35 · 15 answers · asked by Hi-D 1

I just read an interesting article:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=473633&in_page_id=1879

Basically, it said successful women are less likely to stay married, and that men stay away from successful women because they may be more competitive, intelligent, and make more, etc.

Do you think that all women can be "fools in love", regardless of whether they are more or less career-oriented?

Also the article implied that is wrong to put off marriage until after education/career/etc.

2007-08-07 02:21:08 · 17 answers · asked by Kaye00 1

she hasn't been with anyone else and he goes and gets checked and everything is clear, what explanations can there be (besides cheating) is this possible?

2007-08-07 02:17:59 · 20 answers · asked by beba 1

When a couple breaks-up, and the man is still in love and goes after her, will she get tired of this or will she feel good about it? This is my case. She broke up with me yesterday but I still love her and I don't want to loose her but I don't want to scare her away so should I give her space?

2007-08-07 02:15:31 · 6 answers · asked by Con4Life 3

My wife said to me " the scale shows I gained 5 pounds, do these pants look tighter" I foolishly answered truthfully "Yeah, they seem a bit tighter, because you gained 5 pounds, but you look OK" I got blasted...She always wears her clothes too tight...All the makeover shows tell us to wear clothes that fit, but how do you get somebody to buy size 10 insread of 8?
Without getting blasted, I mean.
Men and Women please answer.

2007-08-07 02:14:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband left me and wanted a divorce. he wants to sell the house or leave it until it's avicted. Can I get a divorce settlement to support me and our daughter and can I keep the house and have him and me pay for it ? Pls help, any lawyers can answer ? anybody been in this situation ?

2007-08-07 02:05:24 · 5 answers · asked by Selly 1

His wife had an affair, a child was produced, she left and left the child with his parents, now 10 years later, the biological mother is wanting custody of said child and the father to pay child support. Is this legal?

2007-08-07 02:03:41 · 13 answers · asked by kntmccallister 1

I have been involved with a married man for almost 4 years now. His wife found out about a year after we had started but he didn't leave her and she kept him. We started up again a few months after that and continued for another couple years. I hate being in this affair and I want him to either leave her or stop messing around with me. I have told him this and since we have not done anything but email for the past 3 months and he insists that he still wants to be with me but he just "can't" leave because he is too much of a wussy. He wants his wife to get tired of their loveless relationship and leave him instead of him leaving her. I know I am a fool for even emailing him still but I need to hear it from other people and get some suggestions for moving on.
Thanks!

2007-08-07 02:02:28 · 27 answers · asked by foolinlove 1

too choose between him and your kids are grandkids? but when he meet you he knew you had kids and grandkids.now it is too much for him are he just wants out..

2007-08-07 02:02:06 · 19 answers · asked by lisa b 1

I am not talking about alamony which is used to maintain the quality of life that the ex had before divorce. Is it supposed to be used for car payments, rent, and utilities? I am of the impressions that partial rent, clothes and activities for the children is its intent.

2007-08-07 01:58:31 · 24 answers · asked by Rein 5

I am divorced but getting re married, I have 2 small children by my first marriage and as such, untill they leave full time education, my ex wife has first dibs on my estate should I die to allow for child support. My question is this, if I remarry, then die, what happens to my estate? will my new wife be suddenly homless? I understand that the law has to make allowances for the children but after all my ex did get a £300k house, £20k in cash and a new car, plus she gets £450 per month. I feel this should be enough so I would like to make my new house secure for my new wife or my children not my ex wife. Any legal ideas?

2007-08-07 01:53:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are you currently in a bad or complicated marriage with someone that you KNOW is not going to change, but yet you continue to stick around? What are your reasons?

I have been married for 3 years to a man that would rather protect his ego than to say he's wrong or agree with what is right. If you have read any of my posts then you know what I've been through. But for some reason I can't find it in myself to move on. He's never going to change and I know that. But I sit and "hope" that he will finally see that he is messing up a good thing. I really do care about him but I can't list a lot of positive things about him. Anybody else in this situation?

2007-08-07 01:53:26 · 8 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

My wife has many male friends who come even for dinner, and i never mind that. But when my wife came to know there is a girl working in my office , she asks about her everynight. this girl with whom I hardly talkhad never called me in my phone not even on friendship day ,my wife in fact received alot of calls from xmale friends and colegues on this day . what is her problem? she is otherwise nice and good to me.

2007-08-07 01:33:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i wish he share his fantasy too...but when i share thought he just smile...& back to watch porn again.. = [

2007-08-07 01:27:18 · 16 answers · asked by waki! 1

my ex wife was one of those that at the slightest argument or criticism she would feel so much hurt she would have to run away. every little slight became a huge hurt to her when others would just view it as a marital spat. everytime she felt totally hurt, she'd run away...for the weekend, to her brothers, call her mommy. you name it. she was one that ran away from responsibility instead of facing it. she's left me on multiple occassions. she told me that when she left, she wanted me to chase her. What? she learned that from her mother that if you love them, they'll chase you and kiss your butt. finally this last time she left, i didn't chase her, changed the locks and said go find a lawyer. now she's all pissed because i told her parents what she's been up to that they didn't know to get her help (DWIs, expired license, abortion). Now she's pissed and wants to trash me in this divorce. I still love her but will she ever change her ways because she's realizing she's losing me forever?

2007-08-07 01:26:55 · 14 answers · asked by survivor 1

Does florida statues allow to take more than 50% of my salary?
If so under what sircumstances.

2007-08-07 01:11:54 · 7 answers · asked by Jaime L 2

I met a special man 3 months ago, and it just hit me that he is the one. Everyone around me says 3 months is nothing etc.

Do you believe that the duration determins the quality of love?

2007-08-07 01:04:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex has been much nicer to me as of late. I have been told by other divorced people that they now get along with their ex's. One reason we got divorced is that my ex said she did not love me. We went to counseling and tried hard to stay together but it did not work. My question is if all these people say they now get along with their ex and my ex is now trying to be nice to me then why did all these people(including myself) try to be nice to each other all the time? Then maybe there would not be so many divorces in the first place!

2007-08-07 00:56:24 · 8 answers · asked by paco 1

my father borrowed $300 from my husband to pay for a car. it recently broke down and my parents sold it for scrap. my husband is very upset because it has been several months since they borrowed the money and they haven't even attempted to pay any of it back and now they have sold the car without even telling him. i understand why he is upset but, how do i keep from being caught in the middle about this and how do i tell my family without sounded like a witch?

2007-08-07 00:47:55 · 14 answers · asked by goodgirl63628 2